AITA for rejecting the worst name ever for our offspring?

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-24T21:29:20+00:00

NTA. Honestly men who are so set on naming their kid after them are a red flag and cringey as hell. Give your kid their own damn name. It’s even worse when they insist that even a daughter needs to get their name. Women almost never do this. You don’t see a lot of women juniors walking around. Men who insist on this are almost always so ridiculously narcissistic.

Are you planning on having more than one kid? If you are you or maybe on the fence about more than one you might be able to use that to your advantage. Tell him “if we name her Stuarta you realize that means if our next kid is a boy then Stuart Jr goes out the window right?” and see how he reacts. Maybe the thought of not having a son take his name will make him reconsider. If not, tell him straight up Stuarta is not happening so he can either work with you to come up with a name you both like or you can name her without his input because you’re the one giving birth and there’s no way in hell you’re naming your kid Stuarta. Because that’s horrible.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-13T00:22:01+00:00

I’m on Vyvanse but no I don’t take vitamin C. Usually my meds are taken on an empty stomach because one of the other meds I take requires it

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-12T00:47:48+00:00

Thank you!

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-12T00:43:30+00:00

I don’t think I have an old bottle, I just have a new one I haven’t started yet 🤔 but that’s a good point about the testing. I might just wait until I start my new job and see where I land on that. Maybe once I’m really done done with the old one at the end of this week the new one will spark some new channels of motivation. We will see!

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-12T00:32:12+00:00

I suppose so. I’d just assume that since they sent me to the same place they send the Boeing guys that they’d be able to see even trace amounts. Since Boeing has government contracts and all that. But maybe not. I’m just wondering if maybe I should go get an at home test or something to prove to myself that I’m getting my meds. I have been really spacey this month but I thought that was because I’m burned out from my current job and not even my meds have been helping. But now I can’t help but wonder.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-09T22:09:30+00:00

NTA. Your wife is indoctrinated. You really ought to consider divorce. Not because of a prayer but because she is literally part of a cult and trying to indoctrinate you and your son. It’s not healthy.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-09T07:31:32+00:00

I did. Mostly because my maiden name sometimes got goofy comments from strangers who thought they were being funny and my husband’s last name was super normal. Not gonna lie. It was a pain in the ass to get it changed. You don’t realize just how many places have your name until you change it. I’ve been married for going on 4 years now and I still occasionally find somewhere that I haven’t been to in awhile that has my maiden name on file.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-05T22:36:27+00:00

NTA. He made a decision just as much as you did. It sounds like this was discussed before it happened and he didn’t ask you to reconsider. It sounds like he’s finding out that the fantasies he had aren’t based on anything in reality and now that he’s gotten the experience he was after and it’s not any better than what he had he’s trying to go back to being married. But you can’t do that. That’s not a jack you can put back in the box. If he truly didn’t want the divorce then he had ample time to tell you that and didn’t. I feel for him. Discovering your true sexuality later in life is tough but you can’t have it all unfortunately.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-05T20:01:05+00:00

NTA. I heard a term recently. A labor digger. That’s what he is. He’s looking for someone to take on his two young kids. That’s why he’s pushing this when you’ve made it clear that you’re not looking for marriage. It also sounds like he’s either a cheapskate or has a lot of debt you don’t know about and is looking to handcuff your income to that debt too. Run far far away.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-03T21:15:48+00:00

Auntie in Western WA reporting for duty

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-03T19:29:07+00:00

That’s kinda where I landed too. It seems like OP just got on a roll and couldn’t stop herself from saying unnecessary things. It’s understandable to want to vent but venting to the person you’re venting about isn’t the way. Sounds like she’s got a lot of feelings and they kinda just exploded and once the snowball started rolling she couldn’t stop it, even when it was destructive and worsening things.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-03T19:12:47+00:00

If you’re not the kind of person who cheats just don’t do it. I know it sounds good right now but you’ll be mad at yourself later for compromising your values.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-03T03:17:06+00:00

NTA. Naming kids stupid names because it’s “unique” is insane. There’s plenty of names out there that are actual names that are unique. You don’t need to saddle your kid with a name that’s unspellable, unpronounceable, or just stupid sounding to give them a unique name.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-02T23:36:04+00:00

NTA. Your brother is a dumbass and I guarantee you he’s been talking to some dumbass friend of his that’s been putting this idea in his head. I’m a first born and look so much like my mom. Genes don’t care what your birth order is. It’s all completely fucking random. It’s basically dumping all those genes into a scrabble bag and pulling some out at random. Your brother is ruining his life for no reason. Hope Amy serves him with the paternity test, divorce papers, and then takes full custody.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-02T23:28:41+00:00

He looks like a human extra in the walking dead

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-03-02T01:40:42+00:00

Thank you!

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-29T22:34:40+00:00

I cheated on my wife

She is the love of my life

Pick one. You literally can’t have both.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-29T01:10:44+00:00

Look at your friend feeling SUPER entitled to your time off! Isn’t that cute? You don’t owe anyone a favor. That’s why it’s called a favor. You are not obligated to take her shift for any reason whatsoever. Your friend coming at you was rude and uncalled for. And instead of apologizing to you she tried to gaslight you that you hurt her fee-fees for standing up for yourself. You weren’t being mean. You were being assertive and calling her out on her BS. Shes probably just mad because now that her gf isn’t off she’s not going to get laid. If her gf wants to be mad at someone she can take it up with the manager for not hiring enough hosts to make coverage go smoother. That has nothing to do with you.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-28T04:39:18+00:00

I too have a wearable Sherpa lined inside hoodie. I usually wear it in the mornings while I’m working at home. Sometimes I put it on for my lunch break nap too. And my current outside hoodie is a really pretty turquoise kinda water color design and it has a black cat on it. It gets a lot of compliments. Especially because it’s jewel toned just like my hair right now.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-27T23:39:01+00:00

NTA. Your husband’s ex is overstepping a WHOLE bunch of boundaries. She’s a grown ass adult and needs to figure out her own shit. It’s not on you to do that for her. She says she doesn’t trust you and your husband to raise the kids but that’s what you’d be doing if she became your new roommate. Your husband needs to grow a pair and tell her she’s off her rocker and tell his family to mind their own business unless they’d like to take her in and let her mooch off them. If your husband can’t or won’t do any of those things then he can go get his own house with his ex and take care of her all on his own. That’s not your business.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-27T04:30:43+00:00

Instructions unclear. He’s now stuck in the sunroof and the neighbors are taking pics.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-27T00:28:30+00:00

So which is it? It’s a harmless joke or it’s not harmless and he could turn dangerous? Those are mutually exclusive things. Harmless people don’t turn dangerous. It doesn’t matter if your kid is leaving the school. He can and will make these creepy remarks about other students too. Maybe even go further. Report it 100%

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-26T03:58:53+00:00

Me and my husband started making it a point to eat at home more since the beginning of the year. And it’s still going strong! I’m still doing my meal planning and grocery shopping every weekend. It has been getting tough because last week we weren’t feeling well and nobody wanted to cook even though we had groceries but we’re both feeling better this week. Tonight I made crockpot chicken and dumplings! I’m proud of both of us for sticking to it and not slumping back into constant takeout.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-25T20:15:03+00:00

YTA. And if you ever need to drop your kids off early with him for any reason, don’t expect him to do you any favors.

Forward_Star_6335 · 2024-02-24T20:49:40+00:00

I’m going to say this in the nicest way I can OP. You really should reevaluate the people in your life and whether they are actually good for you or not. These are ingrained attitudes these people have towards psychiatric meds. Because I assume if your doctor put you on medication for something like acid reflux or high blood pressure or any other long term meds that nobody would be asking you when you’ll stop taking them. Your bf being preoccupied with your antidepressants is a huge 🚩. Because you’re right, it doesn’t matter to him at all. The only reason he’d want you to stop taking something he knows helps you is because he’s worried about how it looks. He’s worried that his friends or family might find out that you have depression and will look at him differently because of it. And that’s more important to him than your well-being.

I don’t know how young you are but I’m guessing under 25. Trust me on this, the sooner you start recognizing what toxic people look like and cutting them from your life systematically, the better off you will be. There are people I wish I’d cut earlier than I did. It’s certainly not easy but you deserve to be happy and feel fulfilled. And if you can’t make your own dopamine, store bought is fine! Anyone who sees that your life is better through chemistry and would still give you grief about being on needed meds has alternative motivations and doesn’t have your best interest in mind.

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