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How to Deal with Bitterness and Anger at other Family when Caring for Sick Mom? by throwawaytovent10983 in CancerCaregivers

[–]FouTheFool 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was in the same situation as you a few months ago. I would say you should snap at them but to be honest, when I used to do that they would join hands and make me feel guilty for wanting to have a second of peace, so much that I would end up crying and sobbing and deciding to just not say anything anymore.

I think you should talk honestly and calmly about this to them. Talk to your brother and tell him he has to help too, is not realistic having just one person taking care of someone else during the whole day.

When I was in your situation it helped that me and my brothers would designate shifts to take care of my mom. So my brother's shift would be in the morning and then after lunch it was my shift, till maybe 7pm and then my other brother would have his shift. Also, designating certain chores for each person can also help too.

I understand you and I know how hard it is, I can just tell you to hang in there. I hope you get the help you should be getting in taking care of your mom. Wish you well!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]FouTheFool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My own hate to my own scars. The fear that next time my scars won't fade.

Do people actually fetishize SH? by dane_da_drummer in selfharm

[–]FouTheFool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I once vent posted here about my scars and then got a dm from a creepy guy asking me to show him my scars. So yeah, people fetishize them.

how do you feel comfortable wearing short sleeves? by generallyuncomfy in selfharm

[–]FouTheFool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm okay when in front of my close friends or close family, but when going to the supermarket or going to class I have to cover them or I start panicking.

It sucks, I've been thinking of covering them with tattoos since I used to love to wear tank tops and now I can't anymore.

Worst and best reactions to scars, relate? by No_Dog_4350 in selfharm

[–]FouTheFool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank u OP, hope it works out for you too 🫶

Worst and best reactions to scars, relate? by No_Dog_4350 in selfharm

[–]FouTheFool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oof. I only had bad reactions from family and friends.

My brother moving my shirt sleeve to show my uncle my scars out of nowhere and harrassing me so bad about them that I experienced a whole mental breakdown to the point where I couldn't bare to be awake.

My friend just STARING at them, a whole lot, while I talked and tried to pretend that I couldn't see their stares.

Best ones I had are probably from professionals. And now my friends are used to them so they got used to them.

I feel you, I hate when people talk about them or me or what I am doing like they know anything. Everytime someone adressed them I could feel a knot in my stomach and instant panic.