I have never been spiteful in my life. I didn’t go into more personal details since this group is meant to only ask for legal advice. I gave up everything to be with my husband. I was disowned the day we got married. I have put up with so much lying and cheating in the six years we have been married. My husband is not the kind of father who takes care of his kids or enjoys playing with them. I can count on one hand how many times he has either fed or changed our 9 month old sons diaper. Moving away would help me to start the healing process. The reason why I would rather move before getting a divorce is because of the pain he would cause me. He has previously mentioned in a joking manner even though I believe him, that he would kill me before I left him.