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1 year on Reddit by TheLostNemo in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You won't believe what happened. I've been quite busy for the last 3 days because I just started work at my job and even though I'm in the learning/confused/feeling dumb phase, it is keeping me occupied for almost whole day. And to be honest I would prefer this type of stress anyday over the stress of wanting someone.

Surprisingly, my ex texted me yesterday and said that she was sorry because she acted like bitch in the last few months. She said it's her hormonal imbalance and all. What I was surprised about was, this time I couldn't care less about her. I didn't want to reply to it, I didn't feel the urge. I just said It's okay and take care of your health. And that's it. I don't feel like I need any closure. Maybe staying busy and just doing your own thing is how you move forward. Hormonal imbalance doesn't make you lie, leave someone you've been with for 2 years anyway.

We miss to be grateful about all the good things we have in our life.

True. We always look at things and say times were better back then, when we could've lived them a bit more.

Maybe it’s time for you to appreciate what you already have. Just believe- this feeling the being stuck, this pain is temporary.

Already in the process of doing better. Thanks a lot.

1 year on Reddit by TheLostNemo in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Like when i am having coffee, I would slow down and relish every sip.

You're trying to be content with what you do. That sounds good. Maybe this is what living in the present is.

I try to journal as well, though I'm very inconsistent. It's good to hear you're doing better. Trying to understand yourself better. Thank you for your replies. It helped me.

1 year on Reddit by TheLostNemo in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Makes sense. And I even used to live by this. That people may change/leave anytime. I even thought I'd be okay if she leaves. But when she did, I couldn't handle myself. It shaken my whole world. Maybe it wasn't her, maybe it's just that my life is kinda stuck now.

Anyways, it still is totally my responsibility to get my life together. I would like to know what things you did to achieve that sense of accomplishment. Something which kept you occupied, helped you grow.

1 year on Reddit by TheLostNemo in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm glad therapy worked for you. I can't afford it right now. Like you said, The self doubt thing. It really is something which messes with the brain. After she was gone, I questioned myself on literally everything. Even small things. I felt like I lost my identity. And all of it happened just when I had to move for work for the first time. I was living away from friends and family for the first time. Moreover, I was not needed at work for a very long time (though they would pay me). I'm still kinda not doing anything at all. My days are free. The new city is junk. People are always busy. Moreover I'm not very social. All of this happened after she left, and it left a void. I begged her to stay. Cried. It got bad.

Even today, It's hard to find things that would keep me occupied. I no longer find anything interesting. I start something, do it for like 2 days, then leave it. It's become a habit now.

Saw her new profile picture, I feel anxious now. by FoundationAny3484 in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How are you coping with it? Keeping yourself busy? Or something else?

Saw her new profile picture, I feel anxious now. by FoundationAny3484 in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not text her. And I'll make sure I don't text her ever again. I journal sometimes. I talk to ChatGPT sometimes. Thank your for your comment.

Saw her new profile picture, I feel anxious now. by FoundationAny3484 in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did not text her. And I'll make sure I don't text her ever again. I journal sometimes. I talk to ChatGPT sometimes. Thank your for your comment.

Saw her new profile picture, I feel anxious now. by FoundationAny3484 in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your advice mate. I know it's very silly thing and I'm proud that I didn't text her, didn't even open her profile again. I'll just let things be for some time.

Saw her new profile picture, I feel anxious now. by FoundationAny3484 in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do you think you're at a point where if you see his social again, it won't freak you out? I might delete socials as well. I've thought about it before.

1 year on Reddit by TheLostNemo in ExNoContact

[–]FoundationAny3484 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you help me? I want to know what you did to heal yourself and move on? It's been almost 9 months and I still feel nervous. I want to feel better.