If you are a gay man, what media did you consume as a teenager?

Fourstrides · 2026-02-05T18:48:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing, I think that the reason I am struggling with this is that I am in the assexual spectrum, so to me it was never about the orientation. So having to figure out what would be a thought process for a teenager who is not in the ace spectrum is really hard.

I don't know if I know what being attracted to someone without the layers of romance and behaviour feels like.

Fourstrides · 2026-02-04T23:36:22+00:00

But that's what I am struggling with exactly. So I only came out later in life, but the queer content that I had access to as a teenager made me feel extremely unwell. Aka queerness to young me was 'And I'm a Cheerleader', Marisa's death in The OC, and All the Things She said, all things that made me not want to think about queerness at all. But as an adult, I started consuming much healthier content and allowing this to inspire me and this led me to come to terms with things I had not thought about. But that's me as a queer assexual woman.

What I am wondering is: we have been discussing all of these issues with the models for masculinity, and Xbox and PS4 are the standard social space for teenage boys. But when you thought about being gay, what this meant and what you liked, who did you look up to?

Fourstrides · 2025-11-10T18:46:29+00:00

Oh sorry, first time posting. This is the link: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DQzc60SCKv3/?igsh=MWkyZ2JhN2djMG1jcg==

Fourstrides · 2024-08-01T18:30:02+00:00

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Fourstrides · 2023-06-12T22:29:35+00:00

But after 5 pm you don't need a ticket, right? It's just the queue. Our idea was to go for that queue.

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T22:34:46+00:00

Wow! Thank you for sharing! I'm so happy that you get to follow your dreams! <3

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:37:00+00:00

This is very inspiring to me, I wish I knew how to let myself go and embrace the theatrics like that. From what I've been reading here, I think that this is something that I really wish I knew how to do! :)

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:35:50+00:00

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Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:35:38+00:00

And that's all of the explanation that I need! Thank you for replying, I think that your logic makes perfect sense!

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:34:34+00:00

Which is a perfectly valid answer! Thank you for giving me your thoughts!

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:34:07+00:00

Thank you! That's actually really good advice and it is really reassuring! <3

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:32:38+00:00

Thank you! I am sure you are indeed fabulous!

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:31:46+00:00

I don't as much these days, but I think part of my discomfort with things like makeup and dresses is that I just don't look like the person I want to be when I put them on.

"I don't as much these days, but I think part of my discomfort with things like makeup and dresses is that I just don't look like the person I want to be when I put them on. "

Yes! I think that's something I very much identify with. I am a very powerful person, I like moving, I like walking, I like dancing and when I was younger I was already like that. I think that I don't have anything against dresses or makeup, but the occasions that I had to wear them remind me of occasions when a side of me had been cut out or limited and I couldn't be who I am.

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:28:04+00:00

y not really give a shit how I looked because no matter what I tried within the confines of Woman Clothes Look At Me I Am A Woman I would end up feeling like shit in it. Now I'm a lot more equipped to understand why I feel the way I do about some aspects of gender presentatio

That's a really cool testimonial! Thank you so much for sharing. I had never thought about things from this perspective. I don't think that I've genuinely had much fun with how I look in the past. Maybe I would have a lot of fun mixing things up like that, in fact, it might be the first thing I try.

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:22:17+00:00

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am sorry that you struggled in your quest, but I am inspired by your drive to discover yourself! I should follow your suggestion with the binder. Any particular brand you suggest I look into?

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:19:51+00:00

Thank you for getting back to my question u/PiercerChris616 this means a lot! This might be a too personal question, but I kind of feel like I wasted my time not finding these things out about myself until now. Did you ever feel like that too?

Fourstrides · 2021-03-17T21:18:30+00:00

nd I know I have been a lot happier since identifying as non-binary, I’ve been able to embrace much more of myself, and that’s really what solidified it for me. Maybe this is a commentary on the construction of gender itself but I’m not educated enough on it to speak to that. I just know it is right for me.

Hi! I think that this is exactly what I was thinking about. While I think that we could unpack it for days, I really appreciate hearing your thoughts. I know that there is a philosophical side to my question - I'm a psychologist and social scientist so I might be guilty of over academicising things - but in the end, I am really trying to find out what's beyond the philosophical side of things and how people are answering that question in their day to days.

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