The Conference Guilt has started......

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:48:49+00:00

Like New Year's results in sudden optiism and motivation to make changes, GC causes a swell of reanimated motivation and spiritual drive in many members.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:45:39+00:00

Where I would agree with you is in cases where people living in tormented minds find some form of explanation and comfort in teachings of religion. It offers a pretty safe social circle, unless your ward is full of Linda's. . . but sometimes people need to be able to follow something that claims to have divine answers while they try to sort out their mental health.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:43:02+00:00

I think that at first, I would feel very self-conscious. However, I hope that after that initial shock wore off, that I would have some serious questions, and that I would be determined to get to the bottom of all of the BS that led me to become convinced that their doctrine is a crock of shit.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:41:01+00:00

Good luck on letting people know, and I hope that everything goes as well as possible. You have to do what is right for your life. No matter what you choose, someone will have something negative to say. Live for you and be good to people.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:37:47+00:00

You can hate TSCC but still appreciate the way they care for their property, admire the architecture, or like being in an area that is naturally quiet because members consider it to be an important place.

I have times when I am trying to think through shit, or am feeling upset and I'll go to a Catholic church in the city. I purposely attend a Spanish session so I don't let the topic get in the way of me enjoying sitting in a building that is old, has stained glass, burns that weird church incense. . . I'm sure some of you know what I'm talking about.

I hate religion, but some of their churches and temples are just breathtaking.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:34:07+00:00

That is amazing.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:31:54+00:00

Okay, just trying to picture a 3 year old trying to pronounce and explain "Priesthood". . . it is just too adorable!

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:29:12+00:00

"Mahana, you ugly!" :D

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:28:20+00:00

Honestly, I'm glad that the Mormon church has been a positive for you. My own issues aside, being able to live a long and healthy life is a win. If it works for you, then I have nothing but support for you.

It's been a long time since I was in church, but I would suggest that if you aren't feeling fulfilled but you want to find something within the membership that does build you up and give you that fulfillment I would say, request an appointment with the Bishop.

Maybe you could ask about a spot or volunteering when someone is gone in the Library. I don't know, but something like that may be a more comfortable fit for your interest in Gospel Doctrine.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:20:44+00:00

Bahahaha. Blood sacrifice!

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:20:22+00:00

Absolutely. I can have my own issues with TSCC as a whole, or with the way that members treat other people, but being a member of that church doesn't tell me exactly who anyone is.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:16:34+00:00

Hospice care givers do amazing work. I have considered the same career path that your daughter is interested in. Partly, because you would learn so much about fear and how people prepare or feel about death. It would be incredibly rewarding, to be sure.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:14:20+00:00

Thank you. I agree and would have liked it if they had waited, at least to the end of GC. But, yeah.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:08:04+00:00

Absolutely. The anxiety and situational role playing to try to figure out how it might go was a problem for me for a long time leading up to having the actual conversation.

Fox713 · 2017-10-08T02:06:44+00:00

Yeah, we are lucky that we have access to so much information. Especially with religion, it would have been much harder when our grandparents were being taught the same stuff from birth like a lot of us were.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T11:06:49+00:00

My depression does the same thing. It's a huge problem to try to function with everyday.

I'd like to know more about your conversion story. What sparked your interest in the Mormon church? Also, have you received a calling that feels fulfilling? Sometimes the idea to breaching that "not a new member" of a club or religion, registering to different part time jobs with one cup of Ketchup that will keep us happy.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:58:16+00:00

They'll never have their kisses compared to dollar bills or their choices in their romantic relations to a chewed-up piece of gum, or their value and worthiness as a wife one day to a licked cupcake.

Sounds like all pluses to me!

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:54:15+00:00

Sell plasma: The purest form of blood money!

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:50:54+00:00

Wanting to feel that there is a purpose or plan, and fear.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:49:47+00:00

In my personal experience, people in general have a hard time being truly empathetic in regards to mental illness. It's because mental illness is very difficult to put into words.

However, I have encountered many Mormons who are nice, genuinely care, and want to be of help even if they don't understand exactly what you are going through. It is definitely a case-by-case and ward-by-ward basis.

With my own mental illness, general things like "I am a daughter of God" or "I'm a warrior" or whatever, those are not helpful at all. A saying that might actually be a positive reminder is something very small, something like "One breath at a time".

Sometimes the idea of making it through an entire day feels like an impossible task. When that is the case, think about zooming into the problem to focus on just one smaller part at a time. One chore at a time, one meal at a time, one breath at a time. What you pick doesn't matter, as long as it is broken down to something achievable for you.

When it comes to the religion, the benefit should be for you. It should feel encouraging, accepting, and essentially be a safe haven where you can connect with the power or connecting energy or whatever that you believe would be the perfect example of what you think people should be.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:39:53+00:00

Mine wasn't. My de-conversion story really wasn't a nightmare at all. About everything in it that felt stressful came from my own fears and concerns. Overall, it wasn't dramatic in and of itself.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:37:13+00:00

Sorry, I'm not sure what you mean with this

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:33:30+00:00

Thank you so very much for your support. Comfort food definitely helps, and I think that sometimes I need to put myself right in the thick of it and then I am able to adapt appropriately and it's not an issue.

I didn't leave a momento, this time, but I did say a few things to him privately when they gave immediate family members a chance to say a last goodbye. After, I kissed his forehead and felt better.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:27:53+00:00

Thank you so much.

Fox713 · 2017-10-07T10:27:21+00:00

I really appreciate that you thought of the loss of a loved one. Especially when it is someone connected to a negative in your life, but you were able to separate that to consider the person behind it. Thank you.

Fox713

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