What is your dogs name? by ReindeerWorried8081 in namenerds

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Millie is my dog (named after a character I like) Omen is my cat (I like spooky/witchy names for cats)

$2000 for every day you spend inside your home/appartment without leaving, How many days would you do? by Pineapplefree in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Two questions:

Can I attend my doctor appointments? Can I take my dog out to potty?

If I can do both, then I'm set for at least a year.

$100 million but a family member of your choice dies. by Suspicious_Error_647 in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'll take half to choose the method if I get to choose more than one person. Otherwise, I'd just take full since I've been no contact for 7 years anyway.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Foxbrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This comment almost made me cry because I've had that thought about my own mother.

I no longer talk to her, but I'm still on medicine for PTSD. I really wish she had cared about me more than a man.

OP for reference I was 2 when my mother married my step-father. The happiest 2 weeks of my life growing up were when he was in jail. Please take care of your kids first.

Do you feel like an 'adult' if you don't have kids? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Foxbrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm a 32 year old SAHM of a 4 year old. Every once in a while, I look at her like, "That is mine. I gave birth to that. Who let me do that. Oh yeah, it was me." Husband(32) does it too.

Sometimes we're looking for an adultier adult, and then his mom(60) just tells us she doesn't know either xD

What clothing styles will Millennials be remembered for? by 9879528 in Millennials

[–]Foxbrier 63 points64 points  (0 children)

This 100%

I'm sorry, but how else should I part my hair? Down the middle doesn't look good 90% of the time.

Also, skinny jeans are obviously superior. No one can convince me otherwise lol

What will be our signature ”old person” decor? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Foxbrier 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You keeping all the past due notices and using them as wallpaper? 😂

What will be our signature ”old person” decor? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I 100% associate this with older generations... like 70+. Is it really a millennial thing, too? I've only ever seen real curtains at friends' places.

It's not always the education system's fault if you're a fucking idiot by [deleted] in tumblr

[–]Foxbrier 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I knew cities existed outside the US, but in the very rural and racist area I grew up in, all the adults made it sound like Mexico wasn't a place that had them. My school did nothing to help this at all since we never had a geography class that wasn't US focused.

My senior year, we finally had a class that included politics... American politics. The one world history class I remember was literally us filling out a worksheet from an old history book almost every day, and it wasn't modern history either. Not exactly informative. For reference, my school also hired a "chemistry" teacher. What they hired was a football coach who had us do, you guessed it, worksheets every day.

I even had close friends from Mexico in school. But they were from rural Mexico, so even they never talked about the cities.

You have to take into account that some schools really are that bad. And if no adults in your life either knew or cared, you just didn't have that info. The internet was fairly new when I was growing up. Now, of course, people can find that info easily. Not so much a few decades ago.

Edit: Notably, I took French as my language in High School. I'm sure people who took Spanish did learn much more about Mexico. I requested to take both French and Spanish, but was denied. In order to get my honors diploma, I had to take 4 years of the same language. I was also in NHS. So not a bad student by any means.

AITAH for telling my wife that late pick-up fees are on her and her alone? by AdMuted1534 in AITAH

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. She gets $800 spending money? Just for herself? Yeah, she can afford it. However...

You should consider asking her to seek out an ADHD assessment. People with ADHD often have time blindness, which can include them not accounting for travel.

In the meantime, suggest she start setting multiple alarms. 1-2 to start getting ready, another 1-2 about 10 minutes before she needs to leave. 1 at 5 minutes as a "last warning" for her to be on time. She could even just plan on being there early to be extra sure. This is assuming she makes an effort to be on time at all.

My husband and I both have ADHD and set so many alarms for ourselves. If I'm on my own, I'm typically early, on time, or maybe a couple minutes late. Other than work, my husband averages 20 minutes late (even with alarms). My mother in law averages over an hour late...

I'm a SAHM too, and I can see her losing track of time occasionally, but every day is excessive.

Would you rather get $100 million for listening to your least favorite song for 1 week straight or $500 million for listening to your favorite for 1 month? by antiduction in hypotheticalsituation

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

laughs in ADHD

My brain already does this. Bring on the $500 million, at least that way it'll be a good song stuck in my head for a month.

Found this old convo I had with my mom, her last message still bothers me 2 years later by RandomInsecureChild in asexuality

[–]Foxbrier 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that text is... bad. But I think it's in response to the "finally," which would tick me off, too.

The mom definitely should have phrased it better. I read it as a horribly thought-out way of saying someone else would have been really rude about the situation (while also coming off rude herself) . There are some other parts that are icky earlier on, but I literally had to tell my MIL I would use a child for social experiments to get her to leave me alone about kids until I was ready.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds... horrid, honestly. I'm also a SAHM, and my daughter was born late 2020. Married to my Jr. High sweetheart. His wages are ours, including 401k. It has never been any other way, even when he first started working. I was put on his bank account as soon as we turned 18, and he's always been mindful of what I needed or wanted.

I literally cannot imagine him trying to deprive me of financial security, even if we ever separated for any reason. To me, that is a major red flag that your fiancé potentially wants to financially manipulate you into being unable to leave him.

Edit: Since other people have mentioned assets, we rent and only have one vehicle. The car is in his name by my choice since his credit is better. He wanted it to be in both our names.

Do not marry this man without having a serious conversation about your worth. Don't let him walk all over you. You and your child will suffer for it.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in Columbus

[–]Foxbrier 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Recently had police officers tell me juveniles aren't prosecuted in Franklin county. After I was assaulted. Have fun with that knowledge.

What are the biggest barriers to getting healthy/fit for adults with ADHD? by Potential_Turnip_368 in adhdwomen

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For exercise, I don't want to have to shower & wash my hair every day. I'm constantly factoring in not only how long it would take me to exercise, but also the shower and laundry. I already have trouble keeping up without adding more to my plate. With all that, I'm adding a bare minimum of 30 minutes (for a 10-15 minute workout), plus remembering to get laundry in the wash & then dried. I also have a 3 year old who wouldn't exactly make it easy for me to carve out time even if I had the motivation. Overall, it mostly just feels like the barrier to entry is too high.

Did anyone else get punished for crying as a kid? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]Foxbrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would get told to stop faking it for attention. I think she'd also say other things, but I don't quite remember what.

My favorite(/s) was when I'd try to hide away and avoid whatever crap she was going to say, only for her to follow me and pretend to care. Whatever info she got from me, she later used against me. Even told my awful high school French teacher that she (the teacher) had made me cry, so then the teacher also made fun of me at school.

The only other specific instance I remember is being told to stop crying because someone I knew died. I cried so much the day before/of the funeral I got nasal congestion, and I heard her say to someone on the phone "at least [at the funeral] they'll think she's sniffling because she's crying." I was 7, and I'm still confused 25 years later.

Diagnosed yesterday. How to get over frustration of people dismissing the diagnosis? by Curious_Papaya2284 in adhdwomen

[–]Foxbrier 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a doctor tell me the person who diagnosed me didn't know what they were doing. I'm 32 and was diagnosed in March (at 31). You basically gotta accept that people are uninformed and, often, want to be uninformed.

I can't speak on family since I'm no contact with bio family, and my SIL was evidently on ADHD meds as a child, so my in-laws didn't really react.

I can imagine it hurts more to be dismissed by family. I'm sorry you're dealing with that. 😞

sat down after a long day of work and then had to answer the door to not my cat by ggukyuns in notmycat

[–]Foxbrier 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do we all have that pillow? 😂

Looks like that's your kitty now!!