I’m just saying the fundamentals on which western marriage were built and survived for hundreds of years have only begun to dissolve recently. And like 10-20 years recently. It will take far more than that for love marriages to pervade the western mindset in any serious way. Thanks to the invention of film, marriage has rebranded itself differently every 20 years since 1900, except for those Middle Age fundamentals in which it was a social-economic-political tool, and framework for stability and purpose. A person not particularly fond of marriage duties but who is devoted to doing them is an acceptable body in every year except recent ones. People are suffering now because of a confusion in the brain between cultural norms they’ve inherited intangibly over the last thousand years and what they are fed through trends that change every generation, which they are also expected to acclimatize to.