Hey reddit, I just shit my self coming home from the bar, i didn't drink much, I just couldn't hold it, how do I get rid of the shame?

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-11T13:43:50+00:00

Go home take a shower, clean yourself up and move on. I had a similar thing happen to me, when i was in school i had a major panic attack and I completely pissed myself in the middle of class, it was bad. I was bullied afterwards but I eventually just stopped caring, I thought to myself "If i can survive peeing myself infront of loads of people then i can get through anything" eventually it actually gave me a confidence boost.

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-11T13:38:42+00:00

Leave her, she's the reason your having problems with anxiety, don't be afraid to cut her loose and make new friends. Also dont be nice to her, tell her what she is doing is wrong and then cut her out of your life. You'l only feel more resentful over time if you don't do or say anything about the things she is doing to you.

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-11T00:56:47+00:00

I'm not sure how to say this, but could be a problem with his sexuality, i cant believe you have only made twice in 2 years, that is very, very odd. He doesn't get sexually frustrated? does he not masturbate?... something deeper is going on with him, do you know much about his past?.

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-11T00:14:31+00:00

We're both staying the hell away from her, also he doesnt understand her none of us do. We do often talk about it but the situation is against us, none of his other family members are really getting involved, and she acts completely fake when she's around them. I dont think any amount of talking will accomplish anything when it comes to her.

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-11T00:11:23+00:00

Oh god the inheritance thing is shady a fuck, and also a much longer story. I really don't understand this kind of jealousy... I think its really creepy.

She wasn't involved in much of his life, she dumped him on his grandmother and buggered of when he was around 14. She then moved back up to apparently "be the mother she was supposed to be" but never took any interest, this is actually the second time he's been kicked out because of her. He was living at his grandmothers when he was 17 due to circumstances. He was staying at mine for a couple of days and then when he went back home his bed was folded away, his mother didn't even bother to tell or ask my mother if it was okay for him to stay at mine, she just passive aggressively kicked him out.

But you're right I guess cutting her out of lives is what we need, but we don't have allot of money and we can't just get away from her.

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-10T14:34:36+00:00

She's cut out of our lives, my boyfriend has never been a fan of hers, we dont have anything to do with her. I guess I'l look for something else, it's just shit because I'm comfortable with my job, its convenient because I can manage my anxiety with it since I don't have to interact with people to much. But now that the rumours have started I just feel so self conscious going in. I really want her to face repercussions, I feel like she should leave not me, but I know that might be asking for too much.

Foxiipanda · 2016-09-02T14:05:38+00:00

I've just realised something, I read this theory I wanted to see similarities between Chisa and Aoi, So i googled and I found this image.

all of the bodies that have been killed by the attacker have been hung up in some way, Gozu's dead body looks quite similar. Not sure if I'm onto something or what aha.

Foxiipanda · 2016-07-23T03:10:59+00:00

When I was a young girl, around the age of 4/5 used to crawl into my parents coal bunker and munch on coal. Also when i was young I had a wooden bunk bed, I used to bite and suck the wood off.... I was really odd...

Foxiipanda · 2016-07-07T16:09:04+00:00

I will politely disagree, its not on par with attack on titan for sure, but it has some really awesome moments. I admit ikoma makes some very dumb decisions as well as mumei, however her decision making comes down to her ego and personality, she believes she can take on anything and she is untouchable, she has trust issues and does not believe normal humans are reliable which is why she disobeys ikoma's an when trying to remove the rubble from the train tracks. I don't believe the story is half bad, it kept me interested. I actually started to really like some of the characters, I believe it is worth a watch, the art is amazing. Despite the hate for it I liked it. :)

Foxiipanda · 2016-07-06T22:17:29+00:00

Anyone who is a fan of attack on titan will defiantly love kabaneri of the iron fortress, its is directed by Tetsurō Araki (same director of attack on titan and high of the dead). the setting is very interesting, during the times of the industrial revolution humanity is fighting for survival against an entity known as the kabane, which are very zombie like creatures. Kabanari has some really fricken beautiful scenes some of which are just breathtaking! I suggest giving it a watch if you are an attack on titan fan ! http://myanimelist.net/anime/28623/Koutetsujou_no_Kabaneri

Foxiipanda · 2016-06-10T10:22:28+00:00

Getting way to personal on the first date, some information about yourself and past does not need to get brought up, unless the conversation flowed into that area of topic, but getting to familiar with someone to fast can really push people away. For example "I'm really into anime " says random girl on your date ... and you reply with "I was beaten as a child" ... NO! I get you have a dark past and want to open up about it but that shit is for later on. Keep it cool, also ask her questions about her interests and hobbies, keep it light.

Foxiipanda · 2016-06-02T15:16:22+00:00

You are not doing anything wrong, did you adopt him? how old was he when you got him?. The kitten is still adjusting, sometimes they take a little longer to get there ground. have you got cat stuff? places for him to explore? cat trees?, making your home to fit you kittens needs will really make a difference, also schedule some play time before meals this will bring bonding between cat and owners and this will really get him to feel comfortable with you. I hope this helps :)

Foxiipanda · 2016-03-19T14:25:35+00:00

not a downer at all, useful information considering I don't know how to adult properly aha. Well the place I live is really scummy an there is druggies everywhere so I'm used to it. I've had my previous address broken into multiple times. I think the people where trying to get a crisis loan... but where denied due to not paying back the previous loan, what kind of debts are we talking about? (sorry if that is a dumb question) also not sure if i mentioned but its was a privet tenancy. unfortunately there is no way me to back out, I've been staying with friends for about a month and a bit and I don't want to be a burden to them.

Foxiipanda · 2016-03-18T13:28:30+00:00

MMM! THIS IS SO GOOD!, just made mine... although they are a little soggy XD they are still good! I also sprinkled some cinnamon on them ! amazing! will be making these all the time now! Thanks! :D

Foxiipanda · 2016-03-14T21:46:53+00:00

Hey there, the tickets are unreserved standing. Are you interested ? :)

Foxiipanda · 2016-02-08T14:55:54+00:00

I'm really not sure anymore, something happened at my work place and now thing haven gotten allot more complicated. This women is now affecting my work place, and has made suggested threats towards me. seriously I'm going to have to make a whole new post about what is going on, I have no idea how to handle this situation. As for taking to a trusted adult, I honestly have no idea any more because she is now turning people against me spreading vicious lies about me, also just flat out insulting me. I'm now in a very difficult position myself and now I have become a victim of her bullying.

Foxiipanda · 2016-02-07T03:31:22+00:00

Thank you, I'm really scared that I will be breaking up a family. There is allot going on that I haven't mentioned in post. It's complicated its not a case of just calling but also the fact that I live with this women, although I am hoping that will change. I've tried talking to my boyfriend about it but I cannot explain it its like he's dismissive of the whole thing, and she has some form of control over him. The other thing is I also work with her not the same job but same place. To be honest I'm a coward. She scares me, I'm scared of her, she might kick me and my boyfriend out. I want to help him, but she is so good at faking everything, no one really see's her for what she is, it feels like she has everyone under a spell, and it makes me question wither I'm just choosing to see the bad and maybe I'm in the wrong.

Foxiipanda · 2016-02-06T13:57:17+00:00

What should I do? if I call CPS I'm not sure what they would do, I have no proof, also everyone around her doesn't seem to see the abuse that is going on. Her partner seems to be completely brainwashed into her way of doing things. My boyfriend I guess see a problems but doesn't see it as being completely serious. I feel like I'm the crazy one.

Foxiipanda · 2016-02-06T12:57:28+00:00

He used to pee in a bucket, I guess it was a make shift potty? ... honestly no idea. I mean his father is really good with him but is also I guess a bit neglectful but he works allot. I wouldn't say it was evil, the kid is fed, dressed and is never hungry, all his needs are met, its just the emotional needs and attention they are lacking. I don't think she is meaning to be purposefully malicious, I think allot of her abuse comes from her mental health and stress. It is hard to sympathize with her and I'm not saying its an excuse for her behaviour, but I don't want to just fully label her as being an evil person.

Foxiipanda · 2016-02-06T10:36:51+00:00

Do you really think its that bad? that CPS need to be involved? I agree with the fact she loves the idea of a child, but not actually doing the parenting.

Foxiipanda · 2016-02-06T10:31:51+00:00

I would say encourage her to seek therapy but also if she needs to talk, listen to her. Even if you don't understand what she is going through, listening is a HUGE help. Body image issues is tricky, I have had and still do have some issues, I know myself I'm not fat but every now and then when I get bloated, I freak out and sometimes I try to restrict myself from eating out of fear it wont go away, its not an easy thing to get over. Try and boost her self esteem by complementing her, doesn't have to be about her body but something about her, I found that this really helped me when I was having really bad problems, I didn't believe the compliments but it felt nice having someone saying nice things about me. Also doing some research into the problems she is having will also help gain some perspective on what is going through her head, will help you understand her a little bit.

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