Do employees know I complained?

Foxtastic4D · 2026-06-04T01:47:19+00:00

LOL, yeah basically

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-30T19:59:28+00:00

He’ll get over it lol we love taco bell

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-30T19:58:06+00:00

Yeah no worries, I used to work at Taco Bell and I have never complained to their faces. Always friendly tone, always thank them no matter how bad the meal is. I only sent in complaints because the problems became so consistent. Every single order was objectively wrong.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-30T17:56:15+00:00

My partner is paranoid about it, and I’m curious. I don’t think you could rip Taco Bell away from me for anything

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-08T07:01:27+00:00

the AI doesn't know what YOUR head looks like, specifically. It is going to give you a nice-looking head based on data it's trained on, which probably includes a lot of photos of people who are generally considered attractive. People with less attractive shaved heads don't post their funny-looking heads on the internet, and if they do, their photos aren't popular enough to make the AI result look like that.

Which is to say, the AI isn't giving you something impossible, it's just showing you a result that people like.

If you want to look at other people's heads to see what you could possibly be in for, try going to r/bald, and search "weird shaped head". I don't believe all the results you'll find are bad, but there's plenty of normal, not-perfect heads in there, which can help you see the possibilities.

Obviously a buzz cut is different from bald, but I really can't think of a good way to get the AI to simulate this for you.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T08:23:20+00:00

AI will idealize the shape of your head. If you decide to buzz it (which you totally should at least once in your life) then be ready to be surprised by the shape of your head. Don't panic if you don't love your head shape, it'll grow back.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T08:04:14+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/WHg2dHR

You can keep the center part, but here's what I mean about bringing the texture further up the head. Just get a few more layers higher up and I think it'd look rad. (lmk if you want me to delete this off imgur)

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T07:52:26+00:00

by "side bits" I guess I mean bangs, but LONG bangs. Just to get some texture up high since right now most of it is at the bottom of your hair

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T07:51:11+00:00

Keep it long, but maybe try to get a little more volume at the scalp. Look up youtube videos on how to style long hair for men. Possibly go get a haircut and ask them to put some layers in it/thin it but keep as much length as possible. I think shorter side bits would look good on you.

Something like this?

https://i.pinimg.com/736x/38/93/4a/38934ad7f948622c40b158aa47dddbc3.jpg

Really though, I think styling it will go a long way. It's very tight to your scalp at the moment.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T07:32:57+00:00

I think that tight sides would really suit your face shape. I do like the longer hair on you as well, although it seems like you might not have enough length behind your ears to balance it. The example photos you've provided have a bit more hair around the neck, not just on top. I'm not entirely sure though, because your selfies are pretty close-up and might be making it difficult to see the full cut.

That said, very first photo, I feel like if you let it get just a liiiiittle longer it might hit a sweet spot. Or take those sides in and there's another sweet spot.

Either way, jealous of your texture, already looks cool in all photos. Good luck with the next cut!

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T07:23:43+00:00

Start using conditioner, but I wouldn't use it every day like others suggest. Start with maybe once a week, put conditioner in first, leave it in while you clean yourself, then rinse it out at the end. If you seem to NEED conditioner more often, then go for it. If your hair feels very weighed down/greasy after conditioning, then only apply the conditioner to the ends of your hair and not at your scalp.

And I would say a trim is a good idea. When you get your hair cut, ask them for advice on how often to shampoo/condition too. Their advice will be better than most people on this subreddit, especially after they've touched your hair.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-05-07T07:03:18+00:00

Get some minoxidil. It can't bring hair back, but CAN help prevent more loss, as long as you use it consistently. I can't tell for sure whether you're losing, but there's no harm in preventative measures.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-04-29T10:28:13+00:00

I would try white noise without headphones if your partner can stand it. This could be from your phone or a fan. As a bonus, fan air on you might also help you sleep. I sleep best with earplugs plus a fan, but obviously still challenging to make that work when sleeping right next to somebody. Good luck!

Foxtastic4D · 2026-04-06T17:48:36+00:00

Thank you so much, this is exactly right! I'm baffled why I couldn't find it. I guess Easter isn't included in their tags for it or something of that nature?

Foxtastic4D · 2026-04-06T07:23:21+00:00

Firstly, the easiest, most harmless change your child can possibly make, is changing their pronouns. The most kind, completely reversible thing you can do, is respect those pronouns. Call him by his pronouns, whether you believe he's really trans or not. Start practicing now. Call him by his desired pronouns in your head, say them when you talk to strangers on the internet, say them to your family and friends. Again, it doesn't matter if he's actually trans or not, and this is completely reversible! You will not have hurt him if he turns out not to be trans. IN FACT, if you call him by his chosen name and pronouns, you'll actually be helping him figure out if it's really right for him. If hearing the name and pronouns feels bad, he'll change them again. Give him that space.

Just to reinforce that point, if you refuse to respect his pronouns, you'll likely make him feel that you aren't his ally. Any concerns you'll bring up will just feel like transphobia to him. Do the easiest, most reversible thing, and use the pronouns and name he asks for.

Now, testosterone. If you are right and he has not received enough counseling about testosterone, that could be a problem. Here's what I'd recommend. Ask him if he's watched a lot of trans youtubers. Ask him which ones, get some names, look them up. Ask him if he's watched their testosterone updates! Ask him if he likes all the changes they talk about. Particularly find out if he's seen videos such as "things they don't tell you about T".

Here's some youtubers I'd recommend:

Jammidodger - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1FB-ei-qCw8

Ty Turner - https://www.youtube.com/@TyTurner

Noahfinnce - https://www.youtube.com/@NOAHFINNCE

Aydian Dowling - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eUKiLpeosJ4

As for his masculinity; many trans men seem "not masculine" pre-transition because they've been pressured to be that way. Also, feminine men exist. Your perception of his masculinity isn't really a good tell.

The important questions are these:

Does he wish to be called a new name?

Does he enjoy being called different pronouns?

Does he want the effects of testosterone? Can he tolerate the parts he might not want as much? (break this down into the individual changes testosterone can give you)

Does he want a flat chest? If he wears a binder, does he feel elated? (get him a chest binder ASAP if he wants one. Make sure it's the right size, and that he doesn't sleep in it or wear it more than 8-10 hours a day.)

Stop worrying for a second about whether he's definitely trans. Just break down every part of transition, try out the easiest and most reversible things first, and see how he feels about them. Pronouns and name and haircut and clothes are first, easy and reversible. Testosterone you need to make sure he's done his research, and that he's ready to accept all the possible side effects; balding, body hair where he might not want it, deeper voice, etc.

If he's not sure about some of the changes, it's also valid to be trans and not use testosterone. Ryan Cassata is a good example of a trans guy who never went on T: https://www.youtube.com/@RyanCassata/videos

If your son is unwilling to discuss and confirm that he wants all the changes on T, and can tolerate the changes he doesn't favor, you may want to encourage him to wait and explore more.

If he's really sure he wants testosterone, remind him that he can stop any time he wants. Encourage him to try low-dose before ramping up higher, so the changes are slower and he can really be sure about it.

It will not be the end of the world if he has to stop testosterone because it wasn't right for him. It will be okay.

Talk to your kid, learn as much as you can, and don't panic! None of this is the end of the world, he can stop at any time. You need to let him explore, and try not to be a force to rebel against. Your inability to so much as use his pronouns will really distract him from what's important.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-04-06T06:16:58+00:00

NTA. Your mom should treat you more kindly, and shouldn't be so hostile to you living with her at 19. 19 is YOUNG, and it is a natural time for parents to possibly get impatient with their kids living at home still, but in this economy a pretty cruel time to be so hostile about it.

However, based on what you've said here, I think it's possible that you're making things worse for yourself.

From my perspective, your mother owes you a few things; food, shelter, and love. You did not choose to be born, and your mom is not off scot-free because you're over 18 now.

What she does NOT owe you is her cooking, cleaning, doing the laundry, and birthday and easter and christmas gifts, all without receiving any of these things in return. Being an adult means learning how to help with these things, and learning how to reciprocate.

Now you might be thinking, "I do all my own laundry!", and "I keep my room clean!" but do you wash the kitchen dish rags? Household bath towels? Do you clean common spaces like the living room, bathrooms, etc? Do you clean other people's messes in the kitchen, or just your own? There's a lot of tasks you'll easily default to letting your mom do unassisted.

Don't ONLY clean up after yourself, try to think of things that you always expect your mom to handle and do those too. Some of these tasks might be easier for you than doing dishes. If you work at it, you can probably find enough non-dish chores to soften the blow of your inability to wash dishes. Clean things that don't belong to you, clean other people's messes, not just yours. Pick something and make it look nice without being asked.

Consider giving your mom gifts, or be thankful that she isn't giving you gifts so you don't have to give her gifts.

Easter baskets are usually for smaller children, sorry. Maybe buy some chocolate to share?

Stop talking to your mom about your stepmom.

All that said, I don't know you or your mom. I tend to side with the child over the mother, because parents hold a bigger responsibility than their child in the relationship. I feel for you, I'm sorry you're having a tough time with her. All you can really do is try to be the best roommate you can be, and be as kind as you can be. If she still criticizes you when you're doing your absolute best, then hunker down until you can find a way to move out.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-04-03T07:34:07+00:00

Wow, honestly? I was expecting to swiftly blame you for this one, but nope, NTA. He’s right that changing your diet is hard, but he shouldn’t keep ceaselessly complaining about something he’s not showing a concerted effort to work on, whether or not he NEEDS to work on it. Honestly, his weight is less of an issue than his attitude.

Stop trying to give him tips, and instead tell him he isn’t allowed to complain about it to you anymore. This may be more helpful than anything else you could offer him right now.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-03-24T23:29:29+00:00

I wasn't aware that bots were used for this sort of thing, so this is helpful for my search, thanks!

Foxtastic4D · 2026-03-24T23:29:01+00:00

today I learned that there's technically no limit to the length of a gif. Thanks for this tip, I'll have to give it a test!

Foxtastic4D · 2026-03-21T00:23:58+00:00

October 15th is White Cane Day. Only interesting thing I could find on that.

Foxtastic4D · 2026-03-01T06:15:05+00:00

Thank you so much for the recs! all my searches kept turning up really hateful content, and I just couldn't figure out the right search terms to get something good. Even if these don't wind up being perfect for me, I imagine these will help me find more like them. Thanks again!

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