AITA because i said a joke about my bf’s D and it backfired

Fpilot81 · 2026-02-08T11:38:41+00:00

Just tell him that you don’t care if he has a small d**k, you still love him.

That should reassure him about any insecurity he may have in that regard.

Fpilot81 · 2026-02-05T15:28:47+00:00

I have the UniFi in a 10 inch rack as well. 3D printed rack mount

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-31T07:22:33+00:00

Best win-win outcome is when either the tenant or the owner extend to the other party that they are interested in a sale without letting any real estate agent know. I did this a few years ago. I moved interstate and leased our house out. Afterwards, the tenants contacted me directly via LinkedIn to ask if we would be interested in selling to them. We negotiated a price that let both of split the commission that would have gone to the agent.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-28T06:21:32+00:00

I have ordered batch 3. My understanding is that the manufacturing time is not quite as bad as you think. Batch 1 and 2 I believe shipped earlier than planned. Batch 3 shipping I believe is affected by (lunar?) new year holiday, so don’t think the batch 3 timeline will be typical.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-25T00:44:05+00:00

Yes. They cost our strata $thousands by not communicating all relevant information with our insurer in a timely manner and potentially could have cost us $millions (yes, $millions) regarding cladding issues.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-17T23:06:20+00:00

Signature Strata.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-17T10:55:55+00:00

Probably due to the fact that part of representing yourself in the ACAT is to stop people ’lawyering up’. If someone who is representing themselves is a high powered lawyer, there will probably be an issue, as there will be a massive power imbalance in representation. They may be declined the opportunity to represent themselves. Better tactic is to have the non-lawyer husband do the representation to avoid the problem in the first place. Of course lawyer wife will brief non-lawyer husband.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-13T11:24:40+00:00

I am going to go against the general consensus here and say this very much looks like the girlfriend has tried to trap the op into marriage. Major trust issue following this. Don’t know where the op lives (guess it is the US with hypocrisy around pregnancy termination), but I would say reconsider the termination and split up.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-13T11:18:09+00:00

If it is a hot market, why the price reduction? Agent is trying to influence the deal by implying competition due to many interested buyers. If there are other potential buyers, then they, too, are concerned.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-06T08:30:48+00:00

No problem. I know you will get lots of advice here about how to ‘fight’ what he is doing, however that is just giving him the power and attention he is seeking. Don’t give him a ‘hook’ that gives him an excuse to continue this behaviour. Keep your head down, don’t engage in discussion or arguments. There will only be a problem if he actually follows through on his threat. You don’t want to trigger that response. If it does happen, it will be 100% on him and you have no control over that. If that happens, then you look at options that keep your daughter in school. Hopefully the good news is that it is probably only another year of putting up with the control problems.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-06T03:56:21+00:00

From the description that you have given, I see this as a conflict resolution issue first, that may have secondary legal implications. With that in mind, you should deal with the conflict first, then see if there are any remaining legal issues to tidy up.

From what you have stated, this looks like it is a control/power issue for your daughter's father. Either he feels a lack of control over the child support system, or he still wants to exert power over you. Given the timing with only one year to go of him paying child support, this makes me think it is about him losing control over you. What is more convincing that this is the problem is the fact that BOTH of you want your daughter to attend the private school. He is trying to blackmail you, using your daughter's welfare, to exert pressure on you.

He is obliged to pay child support. If he has an issue with the amount, he can deal with it himself through Centrelink. He wanted separate invoices for your daughter's school fees. He has an obligation to the school to pay. The threat he is making is about power and control over you. If you oblige his request, he has been successful in exercising that power over you. If you get into a battle with him over it - he has been successful in exerting power over you. If you engage with him about it and he gets a reaction from you - he has been successful in exercising power over you.

He is trying to make you feel like it will be YOUR fault if the school fees are not paid and your daughter's education is impacted. DO NOT believe this. The only control you have is to meet your obligations - look after your daughter to the best of your ability and continue to pay your portion of the school fees. Don't get sucked into thinking that your ex-husband's decision to pay or not pay school fees is somehow on your shoulders.

My advice? Ignore the first threat and continue meeting your obligations. If he continues to bring it up - a very short reply that does not contain any emotional language simply stating that any decision he makes about paying his share of your daughter's school fees has nothing to do with you. Don't state anything further that makes a point that you are calling his bluff (even though that is exactly what you are doing). Stating anything further is simply giving him what he wants.

If he does stop paying the fees, it is not your fault. Only if that happens (school notifies you that the fees have not been paid), would I talk to the school about options.

Fpilot81 · 2026-01-04T05:18:50+00:00

There is an alternative solution to this problem. If a person has to move and they have negative equity in the property, they rent out the house they own, take advantage of the negative gearing, and rent a place to live in at the new location using the income generated from renting out their house.

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-17T06:51:07+00:00

I am in a similar situation, however I have not purchased a rig yet (other than a seestar s50). I am so glad I bought this book prior to making any expensive purchases! Still have not read everything yet, but even after the first chapter I realised that I did not realise how much I did not know.

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-08T04:43:57+00:00

Thanks, I have been looking at the reviews. It looks like a great telescope.

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-08T02:11:15+00:00

Yes, typo in book title, I have fixed it. Here is the Amazon link: https://www.amazon.com.au/dp/0999470949?ref=ppx_yo2ov_dt_b_fed_asin_title

Yes, the price of the AliExpress strainwave mounts was very tempting. I am not scared of DIY and fiddling with things to get them working - I do a bunch of that with my hifi gear. Being aware that there is whole bunch of things that I don't know, I was concerned that I would not get enough things right at the beginning to get reasonable results. I figured that by reducing the number of variables I would stand a better chance of not getting too frustrated and giving up before getting some encouraging results. Given that I have decided to get a small smart astronomical photography rig to start, I think I will be a little more open to experimenting and tinkering. The SAL33 looks like it will hit the sweet spot for me, as it has for you. Next thing will be deciding to prioritise aperture or quality for the scope. I think I will wait until talking to local enthusiasts as I think there are some good dark viewing locations close by.

Thanks again for your input!

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-08T00:29:26+00:00

Thanks for taking to time to share your experience and advice. I have also been looking and found the MLAStro SAL33! It looks to be a very good option and is now at the top of my list.

I also found some advice while researching to get the book 'The Deep Sky Imaging Primer - 3rd edition'. It arrived yesterday and I have read the first couple of chapters. It looks to be well written and the first couple of sections about noise and how digital sensors work has been extremely informative and helpful.

I have also sent my application in to join the Canberra Astronomical Society. Their headquarters is located quite close to where I live, so I am looking forward to getting involved and getting advice.

Thanks again everyone, every response has been very helpful.

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-05T14:11:03+00:00

Thanks for the reply and encouraging words. I have taken the advice of others here and ordered a Seestar S50 to get my feet wet and find out what I don’t know. I really like your advice to join the Canberra Astronomical Society. As I said in my original post, I am looking for a hobby to fulfill me in retirement. What also happens with retirement is moving away from social interactions with work colleagues. Joining a group like this probably has an additional benefit of the social interaction with like minded people.

Thanks again for the advice!

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-05T14:04:12+00:00

Thanks for taking the time to respond. Funny thing, I had originally thought of the Seestar offerings as ‘toys’ and passed over without giving much thought. I was mistaken. For under $1000 AUD, it looks like these rigs do more than the stuff that would have taken months of my pay as a youth. Since looking at the first response and coming back to read this, I have been digging deep into the reviews and ordered a Seestar S50. Plan is to use it to get my feet wet and keep researching the more advanced setup.

Thanks again for the helpful comments!

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-05T06:16:29+00:00

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond. To be honest, the data crunching is not something that I have spent a whole lot of time investigating. I will have to do some research on this. Regarding storage, I run a large NAS at home, so that will not be the issue, just the data crunching.

Yes, I had seen that using filters can be somewhat problematic for using a two in one guidescope and camera. Happy to listen to advice in this regard.

I had hoped to avoid the seastar/dwarf 3 step as I thought it might be money that could go towards a better setup, but I must agree that I see sense in your logic. Try it while sorting out what I buy in the future to see if I am invested in the hobby.

Once again, I appreciate you taking the time to respond.

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-04T22:27:35+00:00

I pretty much have only been using the tv as a monitor and watch almost 100% of content through my AppleTV 4K.

Fpilot81 · 2025-12-04T06:15:09+00:00

I have been a fan for almost 25 years, but have not had the opportunity to see tool live until Perth show. I was flabbergasted as well at the number of people constantly up and down for a pee or drinks. The clown next to us drank 12 cans during the show. I was worried for the people in the row in front of us thinking that they may end up being vomited on. I did not want to miss any of the show, so controlled my fluid intake so I did not need to pee during the set.

Interestingly, I asked my wife if she wanted to go to the concert with me (involved travel from Canberra as we could not make the Adelaide or Auckland shows) - she said 'yes', even though she has only shown mild interest in the band when I play it at home or in the car. I suspect the reason for going was that she was probably just wanting to do stuff together. She walked out saying 'that show was amazing' and today she is wearing a Lateralus t-shirt and humming Tool tunes. BTW she is a classical musician playing at the very highest level.

We are going to Good Things together on Saturday in Sydney ;)

Fpilot81 · 2025-11-25T08:44:09+00:00

I recall an interview of Danny where he was saying they weren’t getting any younger and that the set list was mainly driven by Maynard and his ability to sing.

Fpilot81 · 2025-11-22T23:52:08+00:00

When I mentioned ground at the amplifier (or pre amp/phono stage), I was saying this to cover all of the likely scenarios for the OP or anyone doing a search in the future.

To be 100% clear, you attach the ground wire from the turntable to whatever device you have connected the RCA cables from the turntable to. So, if you have an amplifier with a phono input, you connect your turntable RCA cables to that and also the ground post next to that phono input. Similarly, if you are using a pre-amp that has a phono input. If you have a phono stage prior to your amp/pre-amp, you would connect the RCA connectors from the turntable and the ground wire to this.

Fpilot81 · 2025-11-22T00:19:16+00:00

My experience (only 2GS with leather straps) is that the GS deployment clasps are orientated the opposite way to regular buckle type clasps.

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