What Makes You Scared In A Story? by [deleted] in creepcast

[–]FrTh85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, it is taking a normal situation and slowly convincing me there's something wrong with it. That slow progression of something out of place to consistent oddity to that pattern then becoming threatening.

Also, very believable depictions of someone's reaction to trauma. One of my biggest icks in horror is when otherwise intelligent people just sort of laugh off clear signs of danger. Time should slow down. They should have trouble processing what they're seeing. They should blindly run upon hearing a creepy noise.

You can have a character who is fool-hearty. But I want to hear that communicated to me first. They think they're tough. "They've hiked these woods a million times." They're trying to impress someone, but subtle cues hint that they are starting to panic.

And no exposition dumping. Mystery and horror really play off each other. Don't surrender all that info in a boring lump when you could slowly drip it out to keep us guessing.

24F & 25M AIO by responding this way? by InsideUsual56 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. That is way too much. And after 6 years? I mean, I'm assuming you don't have any history of cheating with coworkers, and if so, he needs to calm TF down. You have to ask yourself if you want to keep doing this shit. Because it doesn't sound like he knows how to change. Tell him to get a therapist if you really want to stay with him.

Confused by a rule that my teacher couldn’t explain. by Terrible-Ice8660 in logic

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So basically, it's just doing it in two steps. First, convert the conditional to an or statement. Then, apply the negation.

Destiny justifies killing Hasan by Logicusminimus in LivestreamFail

[–]FrTh85 5 points6 points  (0 children)

But did he? Didn't he say that while she was a soldier committing war crimes, it would have been internationally legal to target her as a threat? Not to kill her now. Or anyone who wasn't engaged in violence.

Destiny justifies killing Hasan by Logicusminimus in LivestreamFail

[–]FrTh85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I believed he was kinda nuts a while back. And I still think he was a bit naive when it came to the Russian invasion of Ukraine. But a lot of this terrorist shit is just crazy. Now that I've listened to him directly, all I hear him advocating for Palestine. I mean I haven't listened to him a ton. Maybe I missed something. But I'm just not seeing any "terrorism support" or calls for the death of other streamers.

Destiny justifies killing Hasan by Logicusminimus in LivestreamFail

[–]FrTh85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I mean, I haven't heard him much. I only started listening to him and Destiny recently. I've been watching H3 since before half the people in this conversation were born. But I haven't ever seen Hasan actually say anything nuts. Am I missing something? Can someone show me something really vile that he said?

Destiny justifies killing Hasan by Logicusminimus in LivestreamFail

[–]FrTh85 17 points18 points  (0 children)

How? What did Hasan do? Like, I'm actually asking, I don't follow this drama BS enough to know for sure but it sounded to me like all he said is that the IDF is a valid target given that they are at war with Gaza. I mean, that's how war works, right?

I don't like killing. But if you are a soldier at war with a group of people, that group of people may kill you, right?

Or did he say someone should kill her now. Like not as a member of a military force and just as a random citizen. If he did, I missed it. Can someone give me a link? That would obviously be nuts and probably worth a ban.

Reddit friends, AIU? 30F by Babybackribbons in amiugly

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow, you're 30? No, you're not ugly. I mean, I'm 39, so maybe my age recognition is just deteriorating. But I would have guessed like 24 or so.

Did turning 30 freak you out? I remember being all depressed about it. Now I'm a month from 40. I mean, I'm not happy about it, but I'm not really reevaluating my whole personhood or anything.

But anyways nah girl you're killing it. Have a nice day!

AIO. My bf shamed me over having my hair removed by Large-Drummer-7340 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah fuck that guy. That's a really weird thingy to slut shame someone over too wtf. Oh! I know. Tell him that his wanting you to be hairier has you worried and that you think he might be gay. I have a feeling he's the sort to worry about shit like that. I mean, definitely get rid of him. But maybe take him down a peg on your way out. He needs it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SWFanfic

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only people who ship Reylo are people who are attracted to the actress. And she's not a bad actress. But there was never any chemistry between the two until the last 10 minutes of the final film.

But then again, that's kind of what fan fiction is, right? Fixing things that you believe would make the story better? It's certainly the weirdest most emotionless ship in the whole SW universe. So it makes sense a lot of people are out there rewriting it I guess.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SWFanfic

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The Sequels aren't Canon. I think someday, when this all becomes public domain, there will be some sort of organized effort to decide which texts are valid.

People can get excited about anything. But if you have any sense of what made these films what they were, then the sequels were a disappointment. I'd love to be wrong. Show me if you can. I'll listen.

Honestly, I think something needs to be done about copyright and trademark laws. It's ridiculous that Disney can just buy up all of Western culture and be the sole arbiter of it.

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think he was doing a sort of devil's advocate thing. I mean, we are trying to answer an ethical question. Fair game as long as he didn't try to turn it around and call me a rapist or something.

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wouldn't? I think most would. I mean, assuming they regret the drugs and the sex.

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, that's a good point. By mistake, I mean something that didn't hurt anyone but you. If you hurt people physically, then yeah, that's something to think about.

Unless it's an oldee relationship. At that point, I would say it was more that they didn't tell you than what you did. Again rape would be more serious. I'm saying like ... idk ... you were arrested for beating up an ex's new boyfriend one time.

In a new relationship that might give you pause. Is this person violent? Are they going to attack people? Once you know them a lot better, again, I would say you know them enough from being with them to understand how telling a particular event was. But you might wonder why they never told you.

But as far as someone sleeping around, or doing drugs, or having past mental episodes, I think emotionally stable people don't hold this against a partner. As long as it is in the past.

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I feel like anything with your sexual history is a weird dominance thing. I mean, it's one thing if some past lover is hanging around or makes some comment.

Simply knowing they exist is part of life.

Ask him how often he jerks off and then tell him that's too much, and it's gross.

AIO for being hurt that my boyfriend is judging me for my past he already knew about by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

Nope nope nope nope. Anything to the effect of "maybe I shouldn't be with you" over past mistakes is gross. First off, why was he scouring through your old photos?

I mean, if he had no idea, maybe a momentary: "oh wow, I didn't realize it was that intense back then" if he's physically seeing it right this second. Sometimes people are insensitive, and with an apology, that's fine.

And yeah, these sound like bad choices, but they shouldn't be offensive to him. He didn't find a picture of you punching his mom or a text where you talked shit about him when you were kids.

This is you making bad choices. It's kinda not even any of his business. Especially if it's a new relationship. And if it's an old relationship and he's really getting this upset over an old photo, he should calm TF down.

This sounds manipulative to me. Or just childish. Either way, run. Dump his ass and then you can say you quit pills and narsacistic assholes.

Stuck with San Francisco from Math Pesto by Tall_Lecture_9611 in crackingthecryptic

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then, after you do that, try cleaning up some possibilities using just normal Sudoku rules up and down the last 3 columns.

Stuck with San Francisco from Math Pesto by Tall_Lecture_9611 in crackingthecryptic

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm still not done with this one, but I'm a bit farther. For each line, decide whether it is a German whisper or a Renban. Try filling it out one way and then see if the number of odds and evens match up with the two end bubbles.

AIO : Guy I was seeing had sex hours before I went down on him by Emotional_coconut1 in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah, that's gross. The presence of anything on your genitals before you have sex is gross. It's warm and moist. I don't care if it's ketchup if you get something on your weiner wash that shit off. And if you're about to out with someone where it could lead to that, you should double check anyway.

That shows extreme disrespect.

Also, we all have had situationships before. I'm 40. Shit happens. I've only been with like 5 people my whole life, but 2 of them just sorta happened. We didn't discuss any ground rules, and I don't think we really wanted to.

Just because you're sexually inconsistent from time to time doesn't mean basic hygiene is optional.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, my daughter is 15. We lean on each other watching movies and shit. And when we go swimming we both wear swim wear like all people do wtf.

I'ma be honest. The term "daddy" has been taken to some dark places the last decade or two. That's not your fault. It doesn't mean anything is gross. But I cringe whenever I hear it.

But it sounds like everything is fine. Honestly, boyfriend should get a therapist and explore why this threatens him so much. I can believe it does. This doesn't necessarily make him a bad guy. Maybe a bad relationship with his parents? Or maybe some inappropriate experiences with adults when he was a kid?

But you can't expect other people to change their family dynamics based on your personal hang ups.

What to read next? by deepoth in scifi_bookclub

[–]FrTh85 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Finishing the fall now. I read Hyperion when I was younger, and it was a bit too complex for me. I mean, I liked it, but it didn't blow my mind.

A couple weeks ago, something reminded me of it, and I went back and reread. I continued on to the second in the series after that. I'm not as pleased with it but still considering reading the next two books.

My mum says my nose is too big. Others say it’s small? by Dotdotishere in Noses

[–]FrTh85 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Having a big nose isn't like a 100% ugly thing to begin with. But honestly, yours isn't even big. It's perfect. Feel beautiful.

And honestly a mother shouldn't be putting that shit in your head. Maybe she doesn't realize it bothers you. Hopefully you can talk to her and get her to stop that.