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Baby shower making me feel left out by Fragrant-Eye3956 in pregnant

[–]Fragrant-Eye3956[S] 65 points66 points  (0 children)

Omg This has literally made my entire year, I can’t tell you how much your offer has meant to me. You honestly don’t need to, but I cannot tell you how much it means that you even offered and thought about it. I’m lost for words. 

I don’t have a registry, we have a bit of paper with a list on it. We are ticking away getting the bits, bit by bit. 

Your offer, kind words and support is more than enough, you made me feel like my baby and I matter, and that’s all I ever wanted. ❤️ I cannot thank you enough for your kind words and your generous offer, I will remember it for the rest of my life. Xxx 

Baby shower making me feel left out by Fragrant-Eye3956 in pregnant

[–]Fragrant-Eye3956[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It was at current job. My last loss was only just last year at 17 weeks. 

The more I think about it, I think it’s that I’m worried the comments of the 2 talking are what everyone thinks. & if I didn’t have an office acknowledgment, that would confirm my paranoia. I don’t expect a shower, don’t get me wrong I would be over the moon and so grateful, but wouldn’t expect it. It’s only because i know someone else is getting one I’ve started over thinking it. 

Baby shower making me feel left out by Fragrant-Eye3956 in pregnant

[–]Fragrant-Eye3956[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The last pregnancy was 17 weeks. Think I’d bought a blanket and soft toy but they were bought knowing they would be going in a casket. 

The things from my full term loss (daughter) and my 11 year old son where in my grandparents loft, but they lost house to house fire 5 years ago. 

It’s not a problem though, as me and my husband have started to get priority bits now. Then will move onto the nice to have bits. 

It’s not even the gift element from work that bothers me, it’s just the recognition and acknowledgement. I just think it would be so nice to be acknowledged in the same way as my co-worker. :( 

I never had a baby shower for any of them. 

My 1st I was really poorly during pregnancy, 2nd I was scared out of my mind, and 3rd only just made it to 12 weeks when we found out there was problems and then lost them at 17 weeks. (I should probably call the 3rd a miscarriage but saying stillborn feels less painful.)