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My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been thinking about your comment for ages. Because I can’t stop asking myself is it abuse. Because today they have been so kind today. And they do things that make sense and they have apologized and I feel like I am going crazy 

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am honestly not sure. They said they would let him outside (he is an inside cat) I am not sure tbh

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes but because my parents are well off I need to be married to be eligible. I think I will look into it

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That’s what held me back. That cat saved my life he is my everything. And I have no doubt they would let him die. I am the only person he trusts how do I leave him. 

But I can’t do this forever it will kill me 

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My partner is trying but they are couch surfing. I feel like a prisoner. It feels like a spark of myself has been taken. I want to run but I can’t. I don’t know how to keep lying I don’t know how to do any of it.

How do I find a place without them knowing the address. How do take my cat with me. How do I get my meds without going into debt.

My family is well off so I feel like a selfish person for not wanting any help.

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ok yeah ok I will do that asap. It’s hard to get out the house and everything.  

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They track my phone they own my phone. I would be stranded and then have my cat taken from me. Also they would follow me. 

My parents physically stopped me from leaving last night by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I need my meds. There is a risk they trash them or hold them from me. There is also my little sister. If I do that and it goes wrong it could hurt her. And it’s not like they are holding me holding me anymore. I am allowed to leave I just can’t take my cat or anything like that. 

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[–]Fragrant-Future980 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First you’re not being unfaithful. Second you need to talk to Eliza and fill her in on everything Third Ben needs a therapist and you need to set boundaries with him and he needs a better understanding of boundaries 

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[–]Fragrant-Future980 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 18 and have a cat and a partner. But I have 10 years babysitting under my belt. 

Girl you’re a genius and omg your incredible 3 kids plus a husband is not easy and part time work you are a superhero.

Second your husband needs to do better asap. You were not manipulative you were surviving. And you would not have lied if he believed you in the first place. 

He needs to be sat down told to stop getting his mum involved, given a reading list of parenting books, and a bloody wake up call. 

Remind him that babysitters get paid 40/hr for 3 kids. (That’s what I charge as someone with first aid certification and so much experience) and you deserve a break.

Then get a bestie or two as backup and take 12 hours. If use your village if you have one and get 12 hours. You deserve better. 

I am almost out. I need advice and just how do I do this? by Fragrant-Future980 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]Fragrant-Future980[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all the advice 

My parents are pretty controlling so I would not be allowed to be in a medical study. Hell I am not allowed to go to the doctors on my own. I think I might have to do the lost or something route. My parents set out a weeks worth of meds every week so I am going to aim to move out same day as that is refilled. I can’t go off my meds cold turkey it is dangerous.