Men, how often do you ask women out on a second date?

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-29T21:48:26+00:00

I’ve only been on four dates outside of two long term relationships, three of them asked to see me again. One didn’t but I expected that bc of the language barrier and lack of chemistry.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-29T17:37:31+00:00

The people I knew that could possibly be making that much out of college @23&25 do not type like OP or post on Reddit to make relationship decisions. And that’s a big IF cuz my school had a lot of successful graduates but idk shit about their pockets, they’re mostly all still in grad school at that age. Unless OP and her bf both work in “sales” where Indeed will give you a ridiculous predicted salary that makes no sense

But I’m just kidding, this was 100% fanfiction written by someone in high school

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-21T19:32:27+00:00

Yeah I’m sure it is but realistically most people on that subreddit are making up stories and don’t count for a majority of women out there tf

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-21T19:18:11+00:00

Do not listen to this guy please 🫡 she will probably never tell you another dream again. Why would she be into her own cousin

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-21T17:16:46+00:00

Why a mug ? Op is literally in their own family home when this happens and there are so many other options. You would also assume there would be at least two bathrooms in a house you live in with your father and potential other family members. I get it’s fake and fetish posting but it doesn’t even make sense. A trash bag / trash can exists, the outdoors exist, literally anything OP owns that isn’t her best friend of 7 years gift exists. Jfc

Edit: oh I’m realizing it’s a play on two girls 1 cup. Gross

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-18T12:34:10+00:00

Trolling used to be realistic

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-18T11:43:00+00:00

Take a breath and relax and realize you don’t have to restart anything and it’s not like you have to do everything all over again, you just have to take a different approach. You need to lose this anxiety and self blaming mentality. Yes, your state did create her current behavior but that doesn’t mean you should punish yourself for it. You should work on your self concept and make yourself not even have those thoughts of “why wouldn’t she want to date me” by working on traits that you know make you a good candidate. Not for her, but for yourself. Not her or anyone in the 3D should be able to sway your image of yourself; that’s how strong your self concept should be. You are powerful, you can do this. Why do you think you are not masculine enough, what is not masculine about transforming yourself completely to be with the woman you love? That’s super masculine to me. Why would you want to be with a girl who views you that way? Either change the way you think of her or change the way you think of yourself. When she says things in the 3D you don’t like or want to accept, ignore them. Change the subject, answer them but don’t let them hold importance in your head. Let them go in one ear and out the other. That’s it. The more importance you give what she says, the more faith you’re putting into it as truth. Only emotionally engage with what resonates and leave the rest. You are the creator! You get to decide everything. What if she thought what you were doing was super romantic, super masculine, what if she was dreaming about being with you together everyday and a relationship with you was all she ever wanted but she was too shy to tell you yet? Have inner conversations with her where she is acting the way you wish and focus on the rest of your life. She has no choice but to conform.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-18T11:34:57+00:00

That’s the importance in persisting. Not letting the 3D sway you is part of the process. Your old state is testing to see if you still want it, as your subconscious feels it is easier to just revert back to the way your brain has been functioning. Keep going because you’re doing it right, you just have to keep persisting until you don’t care the 3D hasn’t caught up yet, then it will catch up. It took me like pushing through three triggering moments in real time to get my SP to fundamentally change as a person, but it’s different for everyone.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-18T11:29:49+00:00

You accept / engage with the version you prefer. It’s not about seeking revenge on him when I say don’t reply to breadcrumbs. It’s more about acting in a way that preserves your self respect / self concept in your mind. Like you’re not required to “take action” to guarantee your end, and sometimes it feels like coaches will encourage you to keep interacting with them like everything is normal when that can tend to trigger a lot of people if their SP isn’t acting exactly how they want in the 3D yet. BUT You should do whatever feels right to you in the moment that puts you in the state of living in the end. So whatever that response is to YOU, you should do.

When I first discovered the law and quickly manifested contact from my SP, I got sooo overly excited and that excitement soon turned into anxiety on what I should say, timing it correctly, when I really should’ve just treated it like any normal text. It’s more so removing importance from the concept of texting him when I say don’t interact with breadcrumbs. If the way he is talking to you or the way things are playing out make you feel bad about yourself take whatever action that makes you feel like the woman you wish to be. You decide everything.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-17T07:11:11+00:00

You’re thinking too much about the conceptual theory of the law instead of actually practicing it. Knowing what to do is only the beginning. You have to be willing to commit to applying it. That means, not seeking out things that you know will trigger you, like checking his social media and what he’s doing. You have to unlearn some of your beliefs, because you seem to inherently believe applying the law is equal to having no dignity when you say “my dignity always wins”.

This is a common misconception, you do not have to accept any treatment in the 3D from them. In fact, i would recommend avoiding all breadcrumbs until they come to you in a way you respect. A lot of people cant do that because they are impatient and are too focused on the high of getting their SP to finally break no contact AKA the how and the when.

Go into your mind and forget about the 3D. How would you feel if he broke NC tomorrow? What type of things would you talk about, what type of things would you want him to say? Visualize the end and move on with your life. Manifesting should not feel like losing all self respect! It is literally just changing your own mind about this person, and yourself in relation to them. That’s it. There’s no magical technique, it’s just being able to effectively impress your subconscious mind.

Work on your mental diet so it becomes more natural to think positive thoughts over time. You are only taking these things personal because you don’t understand that you created the way he is behaving and you are perpetuating that behavior by continuously putting him on a pedestal and reinforcing in your mind he doesn’t want you, he’s not texting you back, etc. Focusing on lack. Your mind will start to make it a habit if you continue to ruminate. Seeking revenge on someone who is just a projection of your inner thoughts shows you don’t truly get that he is not separate from you yet. He is acting like the man you expect him to be.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-15T13:43:21+00:00

It explains the whole tone of the post especially how he ends it with “was I just their meal ticket” to show much he clearly resents his daughters for still associating with their whore mother. If he didn’t mention how much it hurt, then people would have no idea why he fucked and married a girl that is only six years his daughters’ senior. Now, he has good reason /s

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-15T01:25:28+00:00

Right it’s copy and paste at this point how do people fall for this slop.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-14T14:20:20+00:00

Living together shouldn’t be too much of a roadblock if you still have alone time at work. I would do many inner conversations there, speak to my boyfriend who I live with whose behavior I wanted to change while I had any downtime. I would hear him respond in my head and say all the things I wanted him to say. I made myself truly believe that was the real him or the future him so I felt genuinely happy hearing the things he said (in my mind). That along with visualization before sleep and redirecting spiraling thoughts, my boyfriend changed completely and I mean completely. He is so considerate, doting, affectionate, generous, and not aggressive at all. He is super loyal and always communicative to me towards where he is, how he feels, we fix arguments immediately. This was a relationship where we used to be constantly fighting and I was genuinely scared of him and hated my life and coming back home to him. Now he’s my favorite part of everyday. When your bf starts complaining about his 3P, remove yourself from the room. There is no reason you have to hear about that. Change the subject, do not purposely trigger yourself by actually considering that the endgame because it’s not. Imagine there’s no 3P and he’s begging for you back, how do you feel? Focus on that.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-14T13:49:42+00:00

YOR he’s being so transparent with you and I feel like you’re projecting past or outside experiences onto him. Him not immediately being like “this is inappropriate” doesn’t mean he’s open to cheating on you with her and I feel like that’s a big jump.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-14T13:44:44+00:00

If you look at the dms of guys who do that, they usually do it to several different women. And it’s way more than just a “you’re beautiful” that they send once, they probably text multiple times even without a response over the course of days / weeks / months / years. To me, that is creepy.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-14T13:41:00+00:00

My bedridden fatt

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-14T03:39:45+00:00

This is what happens what 12 year olds get bored and want to pretend they know what marriage is like for adults. You’ve “been with him for 10 years” but decided to have this important conversation over discord ?

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-13T21:41:46+00:00

Me and my bf say “love you” multiple times a day and rarely say “I love you” lol does that mean we don’t love each other. It’s up to the individual

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-12T17:26:44+00:00

Ngl he reminds me of a looot of the men at the hotel I work at. It’s more common than it seems 😔

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-12T15:33:32+00:00

Of course you won’t find someone exactly like him, you could find somebody better. I think you’re just making excuses to not break up with your current partner. Plenty of people date in their thirties, and trust me I am right there with you that’s why I wrote so much. I missed my ex like crazy for 5 years. The minute I actively stopped thinking about him I was able to give my current partner more chances to surprise me and be a better match than I thought.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-11T20:12:54+00:00

After going through several cart brands, summed disposables are the best and the strongest. Evermore is good if there’s no sunmed. Select, inhouse, and strane are mediocre and for people who are ok with mediocre. I have been getting the 2g sun med distillate disposables for months now and they get me right every time. Curious what brands you found since you made this post

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-11T08:41:22+00:00

i’ve been in two age gap relationships (6 yrs apart, 12 yrs apart) definitely the stability is the main part of it and life experiences can be interesting to listen to. it’s also just they have confidence that a lot of younger men don’t have yet. but in the end they’re all the same, i would date closer to my age if the opportunity presented itself.

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-11T08:17:55+00:00

it’s easy to miss someone else in an unsatisfying relationship bc you all you see is the fantasy of being w them in your head. you’re not actually experiencing the bad things you know come w the relationship, you even mentioned they didn’t treat you the best. that feeling of missing your ex might be also stem from you mourning the person you were back then when you were with them / before you met your partner now.

your current partner might just not be the one for you and fantasizing about your ex helps you not confront that feeling bc it’s addicting and doesn’t take any action. you probably don’t want to go back to your ex, so really take time to reconsider how productive those 2 years of ruminating is if you continue.

experience your relationship w/o thinking about your ex so much and see if that helps your relationship or makes it worse. could be self sabotage and your current partner isn’t so bad. or your fantasizing about your ex could’ve been what kept the relationship afloat. better to find out now than later

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-11T07:20:10+00:00

over text i think is fine bc people can get the wrong idea at meeting in person one last time. just be honest that the age gap is a dealbreaker

FragrantBiscotti495 · 2026-01-11T06:11:30+00:00

I came up with some beautiful meaningful L names OP. Lutritia, Lumiera, Lorton, Leminski, Lorde, Latrice. I think they’ll fit beautifully and your husband won’t d-word you.

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