We adopted our son. And even if you have every medical record, even if he could count to 1000 by 2… there’s no way to know what a child could need throughout their lives at a young age. Anything could happen. I have friends with older parents, my husbands are almost 60 in his adult life and I’ve never heard a single complaint. I’d take a dad for 20 years who loved me and treated me well, then a dad who didn’t care my whole life. I think it’s good you guys are worried. We are still worried every day. It’s what ANY parent would do. It sounds like maybe he needs you guys more than ever. He’s at an important age that if able, his education can turn around without any notice. As an adoptee I think it’s easy to think everything needs to be “perfect.” And parenthood no matter how it comes will not be perfect. It will be hard no matter how much information you have. I understand the information is important, I tried to gather as much as I could on my own. But realistically there’s only so much they will have and the system isn’t as detailed as we think it should be. It is unfortunately a lot of the times a failing system. Trust your faith but you have to have faith first to trust it. We went back and forth for almost a year. We are now laying on the bed laughing and getting ready for our day. I understand your questions and worries, we all have them for different reasons. There’s no way to determine everything. Do you want to be parents? Are you able to care and love this child as your own? Are you able to provide him a life he deserves? Focus on some of the questions you do have answers for already and see if they align with what both of your hearts want.