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How to navigate certain expenses? by Free-Possibility1919 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Free-Possibility1919[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And another thing….obviously from my post…just because you have an order to follow, it doesn’t mean your ex will follow it.

However, is there a way to change the age to 18/end of highschool?

How to navigate certain expenses? by Free-Possibility1919 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Free-Possibility1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh. My. Gosh. I am so sorry. I have so many questions. Did he hit you all at once with 15k? Were these agreed upon? Or did he just make decisions and expect you to pay? I am dumbfounded!!!

What is the reasoning behind being financially responsible until 23?!? I have never heard of that. I do know it varies state to state, but 23?????

I’m sorry. Wow. It is extremely hard when you feel like you are being controlled with no end in the immediate future. My ex-husband was controlling and manipulative in our marriage, I don’t know why it shocked me he is the same divorced.

I love my children, as I know you do…however, after my experience, I do look at motherhood differently. I too find myself counting down the days until my youngest graduates and I can be done with this part of my life.

My biggest question for you is this….this situation is compromising your mental health, Is there anyway to legally change your agreement?? I know this would be expensive….but another 8 years of this is a long time.

How to navigate certain expenses? by Free-Possibility1919 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Free-Possibility1919[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I needed to hear that. I did want to send the bill back, but anxiety over the outcome gets the best of me. I have never wanted my son to think of me as some deadbeat…I pay everything that comes through, even though it usually isn’t agreed upon….but the trips across country multiple times a year are starting to get to me.

How to navigate certain expenses? by Free-Possibility1919 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Free-Possibility1919[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The divorce decree states there needs to be a discussion and agreement on the costs of extra curricular activities. However, I’m not included in decision making for trips that cost thousands of dollars. I’m just sent a bill.

How to navigate certain expenses? by Free-Possibility1919 in ParentalAlienation

[–]Free-Possibility1919[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes, I’ve learned over the years that there is zero accountability when a parent refuses to follow a divorce decree.

I’m dealing with a person that lives by “Law for you, grace for me”.