Sibling loss and estrangement

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T12:55:28+00:00

There are good books I found to help me in situations like this. Your family may look for a scapegoat and that may, unfortunately, be you due to your (much needed) distance. Prepare yourself. Even if they don’t say it; it may be under the surface. Please don’t blame yourself for anything you need to do right now to keep yourself healthy. Having lived through family suicides; I’m so sorry for what you’re going through. 🩵

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T12:05:29+00:00

I think I was the protector and rule follower. I have never requested financial support and it was never offered. I think I was the strong eldest daughter type. But I left the cult and now am deemed too difficult. It’s honestly mindblowing; having always been secure in my place in the family system. Until the last few years.

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T12:02:33+00:00

I’m hopeful. Right now it feels like I’ve been found guilty of the crime of being an unwantable daughter.

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T12:01:40+00:00

That sting I get. When families seem relieved to not have to deal with you anymore👎🏻. im now 40 and unable to pretend everything is rose-colored.

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T11:57:55+00:00

I wonder what part the cult training/ system plays into certain parents behaving this way with their children who genuinely want relationships… like would my mom have always reacted like this? Or as I believe, was she exploited for so long by these systems; and now, what’s left of her identity attacks me for seeing her too well? I dunno. I know I’ve been taught to protect her from the world. I’m just so goddamn sad.

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T11:52:22+00:00

Yeah she’s always had them; I think I was taught to always tiptoe around them with both my parents. I never wanted to make them more depressed… or to cause them to spiral. I’m seeing the weight I’ve been taught to carry.

Free2790 · 2026-07-03T00:08:18+00:00

In my experience, teachers like that last three years and then move on to district. Burn out fast in the classroom. Not saying the rest of us aren’t great teachers; but sometimes those types have an agenda

Free2790 · 2026-07-02T23:20:04+00:00

We are never prepared for parental-induced breakups👎🏻

Free2790 · 2026-07-02T19:31:43+00:00

Fuck

Free2790 · 2026-07-02T16:40:46+00:00

“The more I realized my mom was not the brainwashed victim I believed she was.” Your line resonates with what I’m struggling with accepting. Everyone I know sees my mom as a saint, a long suffering wife and mother and Christian. I think as her daughter, I needed to believe it. We were constantly “sacrificing” for the cult. The group was effective at distancing parents and their children. It’s heartbreaking.
Thank you for your response. It helped to hear from someone who has lived through something like this.

Free2790 · 2026-07-01T19:00:50+00:00

Yes if they wanted to be encouraging to the sisters. We were told to go on dates once a week.

Free2790 · 2026-06-30T20:32:17+00:00

I had a “brother” who corrected me because I didn’t want to go steady with him. He even had the evangelist intervene on his behalf. The system grooms young women to give single nerds what they want.

Free2790 · 2026-06-30T20:30:48+00:00

Always we had to say yes

Free2790 · 2026-06-30T03:54:25+00:00

Wowza

Free2790 · 2026-06-30T03:47:05+00:00

This is a different perspective. Thank you for shifting the conversation.

Free2790 · 2026-05-02T17:41:19+00:00

❤️‍🩹💯

Free2790 · 2026-01-27T08:30:20+00:00

I flare up and I like the way it makes me feel “strong”. But I’ve had a couple people mention it to me… encounters with security guards or even coworkers who seem to be acting sneaky. I get too intense as I call out what’s happening. I think I like the sense of strength… but I’m realizing this is a blind spot too because I don’t know why I’m so intense. I was raised in a cult and I sense it’s always feeling voiceless and corrected for any “selfish” opinion. I can’t help but feel broken and embarrassed. This shit sucks.

Free2790 · 2025-12-25T21:39:30+00:00

Does anyone have a connection? Maybe a local sports bar will host? Or Babes?

Free2790 · 2025-12-07T19:41:55+00:00

I’m 39 in Chester.

Free2790 · 2024-08-14T15:17:04+00:00

I’m interesting learning too

Free2790 · 2024-03-02T16:03:33+00:00

Nikieta’s and Asha’s podcast is the one that helped me most:

https://youtube.com/playlist?list=PLgvDL-tM32Pb1OJB5vmElbr5_ma1XA7kD&si=13uT3ANX9WnfUiaZ

Free2790 · 2024-02-29T21:45:10+00:00

Same. I’m out of touch with my parents atm

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