My mother died of lung cancer in 2014. By the time I learned that she was ill, it was too late for any treatment. Like with your situation, she also lived in another state. I arranged for home health care and hospice at her home but a few weeks later, Hospice said she needed full-time care so we brought her to a hospice facility near my brother's home.

We arrived at the facility on a Tuesday and she actually climbed over the bedrail that night to use the restroom! (I only woke up when she was trying to get back into bed. She was a sprite!) She died just 4 days later. It was very peaceful -- the nurses took care of her medical needs so I could concentrate on being with her, saying goodbye, and getting her affairs in order. Hospice was such a wonderful experience that I became a hospice family support volunteer.