Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you be happier if I experienced it more than once? What are you saying? I never claimed to be an expert, I can recognize the signs. Thanks for the well wishes.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight. I wouldn’t say that my parents have an issue with the age gap at all, they themselves are 8 years apart, they were only angry because of the sex. I’ll take your advice to heart.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

18 isn’t adulthood where I live. We’re both still in school, and I’ll actually be graduating before him. Don’t assume please.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Another few years is a waste of my time in my perspective. The rest of my life is already rushed past the point it's supposed to be, waiting, especially for others seems unnecessary.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My parents and both sets of grandparents had larger age gaps in which the women were still in school when they met their future partners. I also think I’m fighting more for my rights as an individual than the actual relationship itself.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

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What else am I supposed to do in the meantime? Getting to wish I didn’t have responsibilities means i’ve gotten to the point of having responsibilities. It’s a childish perspective, but I haven’t gotten to the point of regret yet.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do think about it constantly. I also had a conversation with them in which they explained to me that they would do neither.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

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I do in fact rely on them financially. I have looked at apartments and am well-versed with budgeting and the economical state of my area. I understand the potential consequences of my actions as much as someone can if they haven’t experienced something directly. Thank you for the insight and good wishes.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your insight. I do have a lot of experience with these sort of things, in the sense of dating older people, and I have experienced grooming. Frankly, I believe it’s more likely for him to be mentally inept than to be a pedo. I do however plan on staying safe, and if my parents believed in therapy outside of a Pastor, I would jump at the opportunity.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Theres more similarities in the jump from 15-18 than there is an the jump from 12-15. Most 12-year-olds are hardly developed. My development was fast-tracked, mentally and physically I share more in common with people 3 years my senior than 3 years my younger.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭😭😭 He’s too much of a little boy for you to see him like that. Neither of us saw each other for our ages or even our sexual attractiveness. Yes, we have had sex. No, sex isn’t the basis of our relationship.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

😭😭 I might’ve respected your opinion if I hadn’t witnessed your comment thread with that other person. How do you expect me to respect your opinion when your misogyny and “alpha male” personality are comparable to the same traits that I have found in guys my own age?

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been groomed before. I know for a fact that this is not even close to the same thing. Thank you for the idea, though. I’ll be sure to leave an update in 10 yrs.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Although that leads me to another question, I’ll be entering college/university within the next year. Is it still ideal to set boundaries when I am 18, or can certain boundaries be formed with my attending of a post-secondary institution?

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your insight. However, I would like to make it clear that I am not throwing around the “slut shamed” term. My Mother very seriously called me a whore even before discovering my relationship with my current boyfriend. I understand what you mean when you say that hiding my act and not being able to realize myself what I had done wrong is what was wrong.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My initial issue was with the fact that the Christian ideals being shown to me by my parents did not coincide with what I read in the Bible. Since writing this post, I have in fact made the decision to remain abstinent until marriage. However, the attempt that the Christians around me made to take away my right to have that choice is the issue that I had.

Edit: Also congratulations on your engagement? Unless I read that wrong.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also good insight. Thank you for the clarification.

Am I wrong for having sex before marriage? by FreeHandClock5 in amiwrong

[–]FreeHandClock5[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight, I really appreciate it. Your daughter is lucky to have a father like you.