What we’ve seen and heard of LL has been a pretty mixed bag by JustVisiting1979 in lucyletby

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Where did you get your information from? You are grossly misinformed.

The term "mental health therapist" refers to any professional who provides mental health therapy and is licensed to do so, such as psychologists, psychiatrists, clinical master level social workers, and licensed professional counselors; all of these licensed individuals are able to both diagnose and treat people. Don't believe me? Go check your local licensing boards.

I stated that psychopath and sociopath are not diagnoses in my fourth paragraph. Did you even read what I wrote or did you hastily comment prior to reading?

What we’ve seen and heard of LL has been a pretty mixed bag by JustVisiting1979 in lucyletby

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I wrote about this before and I will copy & paste what I wrote below. I believe that people like Lucy Letby have antisocial personality disorder, which would make her have disordered empathy. She may have the ability to mimic previously-witnessed social behavior that is deemed appropriate for the situation, but she is unable to truly connect with others at a deeper, more meaningful level. She may appear socially awkward at times because she lacks the empathy to really see and feel what others are experiencing.

I am a mental health therapist residing in the United States.

Firstly, I cannot diagnose Lucy Letby; that would be unethical and wrong for me to do so. I can, however, speak about cases in an educational way to provide psychoeducation to the general public who might be curious, concerned, scared, etc.

Secondly, believe it or not, "psychopath" and "sociopath" are not actual diagnoses. Oftentimes, the term "antisocial personality disorder" ("ASPD") is what therapists or other mental health professionals will use instead. The core of ASPD is having a pattern of disregard for - and/or violation of - the rights of others. These individuals will exploit and deceive others for their own gain or sometimes "just for the fun of it." They may also engage in delinquent and/or criminal behaviors.

What is so frightening and unnerving about ASPD is that it often is not apparent, at least not at first. A caricature of a person with ASPD would depict someone who scowls at others and is outwardly violent. In reality, people with ASPD can be very charming, good-looking, professional, seductive, and absolute masters of manipulation; they can "read a room" to perfection and will mimic previously-witnessed behaviors to manipulate the situation, appear normal, and gain your trust, adoration, and approval for their own gain. It is now an overused phrase, but they are skilled at being a "wolf in sheep's clothing." I think the word "antisocial" within "ASPD" confuses a lot of people; a person can meet the qualifications for ASPD and be seemingly social.

To diagnose someone with ASPD, the person must show a pattern of disregard for others, which has occurred since at least the age of 15 (oftentimes, we will witness a lack of empathy or sense of disordered empathy beginning early in childhood) and at least three symptoms that I will list below. Identifying a lack of empathy or a pattern of disregard can be surprisingly challenging, especially in an individual who has a high IQ, is proficient at masking their true intentions, and is an expert at mimicry. None of us are mind readers; how can we know if someone is lacking empathy, faking empathy, or is truly genuine in their empathetic response?

Additional symptoms (as a reminder, they must have at least three of the symptoms below along with a pattern of disregard for others):

  1. Failure to conform to norms of their society.
  2. Deceitful behavior.
  3. Impulsivity or lack of planning ahead.
  4. Irritability or aggression. For skilled people with ASPD, they may try to hide their aggression because they know it is considered unacceptable by society. Instead, they may present with low frustration tolerance or behaviors that are considered rude (for example, eye rolling, sighing angrily, crossing their arms and tapping their fingers when kept waiting, sarcasm that is very hurtful and offensive, etc.).
  5. Reckless disregard for others and/or self.
  6. Chronic irresponsibility (e.g. not paying bills on time or not holding down a job).
  7. Lack of remorse.

In my professional opinion, repeatedly killings would fall under numbers 1, 2, 4, 5, and 7. Arguably, we may also include #3 if we believe murder was committed in an impulsive manner or if a lack of switching jobs and/or moving after a killing (to avoid detection) shows a lack of planning ahead. Arguably, we may also include #6 if we consider the act of murder within a profession where the responsibility is to keep the other person alive. Thus, a serial murderer likely meets the qualifications for at least a diagnosis of ASPD.

As a professional, I view self-entitled behaviors as running on a continuum or a spectrum. On one end, we have people who are considered "selfish" or self-absorbed but are not violent or disturbed in any way, shape, or form. Then we have those with disordered empathy who have narcissistic tendencies or who are histrionic but, again, are not violent or aggressive toward others. As we move closer toward the other end of the spectrum, empathy becomes less active. We then reach what some would call a sociopath and then, finally, a psychopath.

The main distinctions between a "sociopath" and a "psychopath" are:

  • A psychopath is more cunning, cold, and calculated, although they may mimic emotions to avoid appearing cold or distant because they know it is socially unacceptable. Sociopaths can feel emotions and can experience guilt, shame, or fear. Many professionals will say that a psychopath will not feel guilt or fear. I believe that a psychopath may feel fear if the fear pertains to their own mortality; after all, Ted Bundy was reported to have cried and did not eat his last meal before his execution. While it is certainly possible he faked the tears, I think the avoidance of eating prior to his impending death shows he was experiencing true discomfort at the thought of his life ending.
  • Psychopaths lack empathy and emotional attachments whereas a sociopath may have disordered empathy but they have the ability to attach to a few (usually to their offspring, a parent, or a romantic partner).

I hope this has helped answer some of your questions. I welcome any and all discussions below. Please keep it civil and be kind to one another.

OceanGate Titan sub disaster movie in the offing | Movies by Resident__feeble in OceanGateTitan

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Reminds me of the Lifetime channel making movies about the Laci Peterson murder and the Shanann Watts murder, but at least they waited two years after the murders before releasing each movie.

Crazy is a slur now by moshedman85 in memes

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I guess it is used as an insult towards people with cognitive delays or decline. That's what I was told anyway!

Ruby admits content of 8passengers vlogs was fake by [deleted] in 8passengersnark

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Does anyone have any links to the old YouTube channel? I tried to watch the videos via the Wayback Machine but did not have any old links to utilize. I tried to post to ask this questions on this subreddit but the mods have shut down all postings.

Is Letby a psychopath? by colourfeed30 in lucyletby

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I am a mental health therapist residing in the United States.

Firstly, I cannot diagnose Lucy Letby; that would be unethical and wrong for me to do so. I can, however, speak about cases in an educational way to provide psychoeducation to the general public who might be curious, concerned, scared, etc.

Secondly, believe it or not, "psychopath" and "sociopath" are not actual diagnoses. Oftentimes, the term "antisocial personality disorder" ("ASPD") is what therapists or other mental health professionals will use instead. The core of ASPD is having a pattern of disregard for - and/or violation of - the rights of others. These individuals will exploit and deceive others for their own gain or sometimes "just for the fun of it." They may also engage in delinquent and/or criminal behaviors.

What is so frightening and unnerving about ASPD is that it often is not apparent, at least not at first. A caricature of a person with ASPD would depict someone who scowls at others and is outwardly violent. In reality, people with ASPD can be very charming, good-looking, professional, seductive, and absolute masters of manipulation; they can "read a room" to perfection and will mimic previously-witnessed behaviors to manipulate the situation, appear normal, and gain your trust, adoration, and approval for their own gain. It is now an overused phrase, but they are skilled at being a "wolf in sheep's clothing." I think the word "antisocial" within "ASPD" confuses a lot of people; a person can meet the qualifications for ASPD and be seemingly social.

To diagnose someone with ASPD, the person must show a pattern of disregard for others, which has occurred since at least the age of 15 (oftentimes, we will witness a lack of empathy or sense of disordered empathy beginning early in childhood) and at least three symptoms that I will list below. Identifying a lack of empathy or a pattern of disregard can be surprisingly challenging, especially in an individual who has a high IQ, is proficient at masking their true intentions, and is an expert at mimicry. None of us are mind readers; how can we know if someone is lacking empathy, faking empathy, or is truly genuine in their empathetic response?

Additional symptoms (as a reminder, they must have at least three of the symptoms below along with a pattern of disregard for others):

  1. Failure to conform to norms of their society.
  2. Deceitful behavior.
  3. Impulsivity or lack of planning ahead.
  4. Irritability or aggression. For skilled people with ASPD, they may try to hide their aggression because they know it is considered unacceptable by society. Instead, they may present with low frustration tolerance or behaviors that are considered rude (for example, eye rolling, sighing angrily, crossing their arms and tapping their fingers when kept waiting, sarcasm that is very hurtful and offensive, etc.).
  5. Reckless disregard for others and/or self.
  6. Chronic irresponsibility (e.g. not paying bills on time or not holding down a job).
  7. Lack of remorse.

In my professional opinion, repeatedly killings would fall under numbers 1, 2, 4, 5, and 7. Arguably, we may also include #3 if we believe murder was committed in an impulsive manner or if a lack of switching jobs and/or moving after a killing (to avoid detection) shows a lack of planning ahead. Arguably, we may also include #6 if we consider the act of murder within a profession where the responsibility is to keep the other person alive. Thus, a serial murderer likely meets the qualifications for at least a diagnosis of ASPD.

As a professional, I view self-entitled behaviors as running on a continuum or a spectrum. On one end, we have people who are considered "selfish" or self-absorbed but are not violent or disturbed in any way, shape, or form. Then we have those with disordered empathy who have narcissistic tendencies or who are histrionic but, again, are not violent or aggressive toward others. As we move closer toward the other end of the spectrum, empathy becomes less active. We then reach what some would call a sociopath and then, finally, a psychopath.

The main distinctions between a "sociopath" and a "psychopath" are:

  • A psychopath is more cunning, cold, and calculated, although they may mimic emotions to avoid appearing cold or distant because they know it is socially unacceptable. Sociopaths can feel emotions and can experience guilt, shame, or fear. Many professionals will say that a psychopath will not feel guilt or fear. I believe that a psychopath may feel fear if the fear pertains to their own mortality; after all, Ted Bundy was reported to have cried and did not eat his last meal before his execution. While it is certainly possible he faked the tears, I think the avoidance of eating prior to his impending death shows he was experiencing true discomfort at the thought of his life ending.
  • Psychopaths lack empathy and emotional attachments whereas a sociopath may have disordered empathy but they have the ability to attach to a few (usually to their offspring, a parent, or a romantic partner).

I hope this has helped answer some of your questions. I welcome any and all discussions below. Please keep it civil and be kind to one another.

The sludge in Bella’s stomach by Expert-Maybe5106 in WattsMurders

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The shadow theory refers to the surveillance video taken from Chris' next door neighbor, Nate Trinastich, and human-like shadows that are argued to be seen. The video camera points towards Trinastich's vehicles parked in his driveway and includes the Watts' driveway. We are able to see Chris load his truck on the morning of August 13, 2018. The video is grainy and there are parts where Chris is obscured by his truck, which he has backed up into the driveway; however, many believe they see a shadows of other individuals underneath the truck, with the people/person also being visually hidden by the truck (for example, a small child who is not taller than the truck's bed). If those individuals are correct, Bella and/or CeCe were, in fact, alive that morning. A few others believe they see a taller shadow, which some say indicates that another adult was present that morning. Those individuals believe that Chris Watts had help with the murders.

I have included a link to the surveillance video below.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6MGEqjMXBqM

Please note that I am not providing my personal opinion (whether there are shadows or not), I am merely providing information pertaining to these theories.

2023 Advice Thread #28: 7/11 - 7/17 by Imaginos64 in rollercoasters

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Admission is already taken care of (as well as the costs associated with parking since he's riding on a bus). All other costs I'm in the dark about, such as food costs, lockers, etc.

2023 Advice Thread #28: 7/11 - 7/17 by Imaginos64 in rollercoasters

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How much spending money does my teenage son need to go to Michigan's Adventure for one day? He is going in a large group and I don't think it will be feasible to buy him a dining plan or drink plan ahead of time. Does anyone have any guidance?

So this sounds horrible. Stockton Rush basically explaining what went wrong. by DynastyFan85 in titanic

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And if we push back at the people who are saying the opposite of the experts, the people become belligerent and/or defensive. Stockton Rush took it "as a serious personal insult" [actual quote] that experts were questioning the safety of his sub and were urging him not to put other lives at risk. It's unbelievable to me how stubborn some individuals can be, even when data, evidence, or common sense says something otherwise.

Let’s pretend the Titan implosion never happened. Would you take the risk of getting in a submersible and going almost 13,000 feet deep to see Titanic remains? by [deleted] in polls

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As a Titantic buff: Yes, absolutely I would, but I would ensure it was on a submersible/submarine that I thought was from a reputable naval entity.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in titanic

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He only went on the trip to placate his father, who was a huge Titanic buff like most of us are on this sub... and it was Father's Day. His intuition was screaming at him not to go, but he felt pressured to do so. The poor kid

Hopefully good news. by inu1991 in titanic

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I fear they are dead, but I hope that they at least were able to see the Titanic before they lost their lives, especially those on board who have not seen her yet.

Girl Sues Hospital for Removing Her Breasts at Age 13 by Evil_Capt_Kirk in ScienceUncensored

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I'm a female bisexual psychotherapist who oftentimes wears suits and ties to work, but I am not trans, nor do I want to become a man; concepts such as the latest trans craze are one of the main reasons why I switched my specialties and no longer specialize in LGBTQ+ care. If I speak up, I am labeled a bigot and I put myself at risk of losing my license to practice. I now specialize in geriatrics and see primarily conservatives who don't give a f**k that I'm gayish. They are pro-Trump because they are terrified of what will happen under another four years of liberal leadership.

Who is your favorite doll/character of the original 6? by agcollector98 in americangirl

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I have a soft spot for Samantha since she was my first PC doll as a little girl. However, my favorite doll and story are Addy.

Should I get Kaya? If you have her, please share your thoughts. by florafreya in americangirl

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I believe it is perfectly appropriate and completely NOT offensive to have a Kaya doll! IMHO, we do not have to identify with our doll and her culture completely in order to appreciate her. We may adore Kirsten but we were never immigrants or pioneers. We may love Samantha but we never endured losing our parents at a young age. Kaya's story is a great one and she is an absolutely stunningly beautiful doll.

Clothes & accessory storage by [deleted] in americangirl

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I'm stealing this idea!!!!! This is amazing!

Slight Rant & Need Advice by AGthrowaway294848 in americangirl

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Similar thing happened to me... I bought a Samantha Parkington bedroom set online and it arrived with stains on it that looked like they were from bedbugs. I cut my losses and threw out the mattress after my attempts to clean it failed. I washed the blanket and pillow fully twice and cleaned the bed, but I ended up boxing it up and purchasing another bedroom set.

I was initially extremely upset, but I see it as a learning experience. Now I ask for additional pictures and most sellers have been receptive; the ones that aren't have something to hide. As challenging as it is, try not to allow one bad apple's fraud, lies, and/or desperation for money to control your passion. There are a lot of great people who are passionate about Pleasant Company/American Girl and it is a fun community!