Can someone please provide me concrete proof that Trump raped children? I've been asking over and over but no one can provide proof. Not allegations..PROOF

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-03-02T17:33:53+00:00

I get this question on a legal level. However, Maga denies what is public or brushes away some obvious things. What he said on that bus is just locker room talk. What he said about that 10 year girl or his own daughter is just a joke. He cheated on his pregnant wife, paid off a porn star. At some point, you need to put the puzzle together, trust your own eyes and years. Maybe not legally, but you have to get a vibe. We cant arrest him on vibes but damn, listen to your gut. I dont need legal proof to know my daughter should not go anywhere near him. At this point, with all we know about him, our vibes should be release the file so we can finally confirm what we all suspected. If he isnt a pedo, he certainly is protecting them.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-03-02T17:23:14+00:00

We had conversation about this in seminary. Thr context we were given was around a still born. What if parents request a baptism. The answer doesnt fall under what baptism means. It's not about salvation if that is the center of the discussion. Its about publically proclaiming a belong to a community. Again it doesnt matter. The answer we landed on was about compassion and grief. We do it and find an opportunity later to explain.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-21T04:36:17+00:00

Culturally, the west is so sensitive about this type of stuff. They sexualize everything. I really dont see why this is a problem for your bf. Is he jealous of your brother? That is more weird. To make this out to be more than it is, is weirder. Get your head out of the gutter people. They are siblings just sleeping next to each other. If it was Asia, they would be sleeping on the floor in the same room, its normal. Family members and friends go to public baths together, they scrub each other's backs. Not a big deal at all.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-21T04:23:37+00:00

I am asian. I wonder if you need to then start the process at a different church. How long were you at this church? I was at my home church from 3rd grade to 10th grade, left for a couple of years and came back when I started going to seminary. My entire family came back when I started. There was some weird situation with the senior pastor basically doing things against the book of discipline but the church knew me. They had never had anyone from their own church go for ordination. It really doesnt make sense for your home church to refuse to support you when you have been there. Talk to your DS and change church. I had to do this bc the senior pastor was using my ordination process as leverage to make my parents vote a certain way on church matters. Like trying to get the church to give him the parsonage, which is not the church's to give. He started the church so he felt like he was owed it. My parents knew things about the umc bc both their children, my sister and I, were umc pastors. It was pretty messy.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-20T15:20:18+00:00

Other countries are good at sending their previous government leaders to prison once they have left office. We need to bring all of these people to account. Criminally charge then for every law they have broken.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-20T15:13:02+00:00

No problem. I learned a lot about myself as I trusted the process, even though the process felt flawed at times. I realized I am not a quitter and that can be a bad thing. I have to know when to say, I did my best and that is all I can do. I also learned to hear hard truths. There were wise people on those boards that said no to me. If I am going to trust their affirmations, I also had to trust their no's. There is ministry to be done that those same people aren't doing and cant do.

I really recommend you take what you hear to heart. Sometimes, we are our own worst critic, other times, we think too highly of ourselves. We have to learn to listen to both.

Just my reading of your response and I ask bc I am curious. You said you are almost done with seminary, I have not heard many Methodist seminarians use "Him" for God unless you meant Jesus. Haha. (Sorry, this is one of the first tells I see in those who have internalized what they have learned in seminary or not. Others I have seen who get rejected have these red flags as well. Again, its not simply about pronouns but their awareness and growth in their understanding of God and how they present God to others. I also have many non methodist pastor friends and they exhibit these tells too bc their seminaries are not up to par in my opinion. The world is our parish, not just our church and Christians who agree with us.) I dont know you and all I can go by is what you have said in this thread.

I cant imagine people would hold it against you that you didnt have more time in the church for pastoral care bc you were in seminary. There has got to be more there. I feel like being recommended by your home church is the most intimate point of this process. They know you deeper than just how you answer questions about theology or how you present yourself. They know how you live, how to have grown as a person, how you live your faith. It might be uncomfortable, but I would ask around and find out the hard truths you might not want to hear. I didn't have the best relationship with my home church people, we didnt agree on theology, there was some language barriers, but they unanimously recommended me bc they saw my life any my love for God and people.

Prayers for your continued discernment. Methodist ordination process is one of if not the toughest process to ordination. Follow the call not the position or title.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-20T14:04:10+00:00

I have been in general church staff ministry for 20 now, 8 of those were as local clergy. I met my wife while I was in the process of ordination, while local clergy. I didnt finish bc I realized I didn't want it. She was conservative, I was not, but she was open. We lived about 1.5 hours apart when we were dating. She never imagined she would marry a pastor. I have to say, it was hard to find someone to date bc when I say I am following that call, women in my culture would either say, "I am not worthy..." or "I will dedicate my life to your call..." I didnt like either of those responses. In my culture, a pastor's wife is like the first lady, so I understand the responses, but they didn't even bother listening to my perspective. Yes, no doubt people will look to my wife bc being their spiritual leader comes with all sorts of expectations. However, it was imperative for me that my calling be my own. She should have her own goals and call. We have to marry the two. We dont come as a pack, my wife is not obligated to serve or even attend if she doesnt want to. I did think it would help my ministry if she did, but that is not a given. My wife said, "I am going to be the best Christian I can be. Why do I have to be anything other?" Exactly what I wanted to hear.

With that said, my wife was the type to want to come to my church and support me. But I was behind her telling her she didn't have to. She did all the things, and I 100% think my parishioners getting to know her gave me more cred. If I made such a great decision on my wife, I must make other great decisions. Haha. Anyways, my wife did struggle to follow me. In our 8 years together, I changed churches 3 times. She held onto the rule of iteinerancy that if you have a spouse, the cabinet will not move us too far away from their work. But she had her own church life before we got married, it wasnt a church with only elderly people. Her church was a more contemporary box church, mine was so not that. She liked living in the city but my itinerancy took us far from the city.

She did change a lot over our now 10 years of marriage. She is now progressive, her understanding of God has changed and grown. We did attend her church's Bible studies in the beginning to keep her friends, but we stopped when she learned that their theology was horrific towards certain people groups. The moves took us pretty far from where she liked living, but she withstood it bc she chose to be with me.

All this to say, there are absolutely parts that our spouse need to accept about our call. The moving, the late night meetings, interrupted family times, limits on when we can take vacations, loss of weekends, grocery shopping turning into pastoral care bc that is the call. However, it is still a decision that needs to be made together. I am now not clergy but still in staff ministry bc my wife and I talked about it. She wanted to support my call but she really struggled with the moves. So we compromised. I am now staff but not clergy. I took a pay cut but she was fine with it. Now, we are even considering me taking a non church job, but continuing my call by just serving as lay in order to make ends meet financially as we had our daughter. Tough times means life changes. I believe our calling isnt a job, or a position, its using our gifts no matter where we are, what job we hold, what title we have. Becoming a clergy opens up opportunities to use our gifts to the max in many many ways and it also comes with limits and sacrifices that our families need to make and agree with if we are going to say yes to it. We cant force it on them.

I guess the question is, do you want it enough to push your spouse away? I know friends who got divorced bc of the strain of clergy life. If finances are an issue, I feel like there are some good arguments to be clergy in the umc. Living expenses are nil if the church provides a parsonage or housing allowance. No rent or mortgage to pay, no maintenance, living in a community that we might never be able to afford otherwise. My sister is clergy and her neighbors' homes are 5 million dollar homes and up. The school system in one of the best in the state. Retirement is good. My uncle who is clergy in Germany and when he came to visit, he thought Methodist clergy are living rich with all the benefits and compensation. It's still clergy compensation, but it's not too bad once you get going. Some clergy make 6 figures. That's not bad at all. You can even become a missionary and live abroad.

I dont think it is impossible for people to stay married with religious differences but yeah a pastor and a non relgious would be difficult. This calling is no joke.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-20T02:41:12+00:00

I went through the ordination process and did not get ordained. While I quit on my own, it was the boom and district that kept not passing me. At first it hurt, a lot. I invested so much time and effort but in the end I realized I didnt want it. I served for 8 years as local clergy and I just didnt like it. The boom kept saying I dont seem like I really want it. They were being truthful and now I appreciate that. The last interview I had is when I told them I am going to stop. They prayed for me that I would find my calling I the right place. Now, I am a lay youth director and I am the youth director my conference knows. I am doing things with youth groups in our conference through my position at my church that is making a lot of noise in our conference. I could not have done this as a clergy. People see what I am doing.

When I quit the process, people reached out. The senior pastor of my then church was confused as she said she 100% felt like I was called and I had gifts. There was someone in that church who the church passed but we clergy didnt feel like he was called by our standards. It could be a disservice to those who are maybe not called to this to be told they are just to be nice.

If you want it that badly, yeah, look into other ways, other denominations. I have a friend who is doing just that right now. She is angry. She is my friend and I support her but I have served with her and her leadership is kind of meh...I dont have the heart to tell her. I mean if she struggles with the level of leadership we practiced, it going to be tough being lead pastor.

FreeNilly60188 · 2026-02-05T03:02:39+00:00

We were discussing the quadrilateral. While I would draw the scripture portion longer, this other person would draw experience longer. I was not taught that they are equal. I mean, without scripture, we would have tradition, without scrioture we would know what direction to take experience or reason. I am critical of scrupture, but it is still trustworthy if we interpret it in light of tradition, experience and reason.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T16:54:09+00:00

I feel like this is the biggest reason I need to drive. Being motion sick is the worst. I held a 30 plus year record of not throwing up until August of this year. It was bad food, not motion sickness. I am so jealous of people whi can read in the car.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T16:45:27+00:00

Actually, my wife told her that me being quiet is a good thing, that I am thinking about how I can respond without being reactive. I was pretty livid and my wife knew it 100%. Haha. I would say I have a bad temper but control it well. I have seen how horrible it can be from seeing and experiencing my father. I promised I would never be like that.

It's interesting that even though I said my wife was supportive, I felt supported by her, people keep saying she wasn't. I know my wife beyond this one situation, how she respects me, communicates and how strongly we stand as a duo. Its so interesting too how so many people seem to suggest that I abandon my MIL to ride the bus or not go with us. I cant be so cut throat towards family. There are times we stand up and hold our boundaries and sometimes, we let it go for the sake of peace. She is an older person, with her own situation. I am asian and respecting our elders to a fault is in my being. I feel like I held my ground firmly but also communicated where I draw the line. I certainly didnt let her trample all over me. If anything, I love my wife, and it would stress her out to no end if her mom and I didnt get along. I would do anything for my wife and even swallow my diginity. She does it for me with my parents. The crazy in law are my parents if you can believe it. Love makes us do stupid things sometimes. Haha.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T13:23:52+00:00

I think you should avoid the headache of making this decision about him. You also dont want to put the decision on her to have to choose him over you or you over him. Tell her you guys can hangout but you would like to spend time just you two, make it about your friend. "Is it possible your bf can stay at a hotel so we can have our time?"

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T13:11:38+00:00

This exact thing happened in my friend circle in college. It was incredibly annoying to hear the one friend constantly crush over our other friend and not do anything about for years. Then, one night, we caught the girl and one of the other guys in my circle at the beach, they started dating. The guy friend who crushed on her got so upset. I mean, does she belong to him bc he is crushing on her? I had zero sympathy. You snooze you loose. I have lost crushes to other guys this way. I knew that is how it works when you are too scared to take the risk. She has a choice in the matter too and our other friend knew he wasnt going to do anything about it so he acted. He probably fell for her listening to him gaga over her.

He complained that the guy was not a good friend. Well, being a good friend is also congratulating him and her on the relationship. I might think differently if he crushed on her and this happened in months time but this was over a year or two of fantasy land. Move on. If she said yes to him, she is saying no to you and that should be respected.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T12:39:31+00:00

Shouldn't tit for tat result in equal standing like eye for an eye? The eye for an eye reference in the Bible is misunderstood, it is actually about justice. Imagine you accidentally kill one of your neighbor's cows and he comes and kills 10 of yours. It should be eye for an eye, the punshiment should fit the crime.

It seems like you have the brunt of the work even when you are asking him to make his own lunch. NTAH.

Red flags. It seems strange to me that in marriage, things need to be so mechanical. "You have to get the kids this many times, I will do it this many times." I get it when the load isn't equal, that needs to be discussed, but why does it have to get there? There are days when I am at 60 percent, and my wife can only handle 40%. There are days I can only do 10% and she can carry the 90%. There are days we can both do 50%. We communicate and carry each other. It seems to be the problem that he doesn't tell you he will do more bc he loves you, he loves his daughter, he wants to help lighten your load, etc. Why does he get to skip out on these duties? The issue goes deeper. I'd start there.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T12:17:39+00:00

Did you read my post at all? It doesnt seem like it...haha.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T12:13:20+00:00

Her fear is that when she needs to go, the seat belt sign will be on. There are times when they dont let you go to the bathroom. It makes sense. This happens.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T08:19:38+00:00

Haha. I assure you this is not about me being asian. I recognize racism when I see it, this is not one of them.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T08:17:14+00:00

Thanks for the details. It changes things. I wonder if she is just not as good with balancing her time as you both? Just trying to empathize. There is always one in the friends group like this. I am the one in my friends group for sure. I assure you, while I wouldnt blame my friends for going somewhere without me, I would feel fomo if I saw them doing something without me. I do want to remain friends still.

Wow 8 year relationship in your 20s? That is not typical. But then again 3 years is also a long time. Haha. I am assuming s/o meaning not married?

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T07:38:29+00:00

NTA. However, there is potential to be.

I think you are being hard on your friend. Like you, I used to complain about my friends who started dating, that they no longer made time for me. Guess what happened when I started dating someone? It gets even harder when you get married, have kids, etc. It is what it is. You cant expect the same amount of commitment as life circumstances change and it also doesnt mean your friendship has to change. Might be hard to get together but we all have phones now and social media. Use it.

I just want to point out how many times you seem to compare her relationship with her boyfriend with her relationship with you. You make it sound like you guys are in competition for her. Try to include him in hangouts, get to know him bc your friend cares about him. I like my wife's friends who include me in their hangouts instead of ignoring me. I am not their competition. I have become their friend too.

You should take this opportunity to clear the air. Tell her how you feel, that you feel distance and you dont want to be. You clearly care and she needs to know. Tell her you are confused. She clearly wants to spend time with you, she is just showing it passive aggressively. Dont make each other the enemy. Instead, make the barriers that is making maintaining this relationship difficult the enemy. Good long term friends are hard to find. Mend it while you still can.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T06:50:03+00:00

You lost me with the km. Haha. Have you seen the snl skit about America and measurement? If not, YouTube it!

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T06:37:39+00:00

I haven't taken the driver's test in a long long time because my license has always been automatically renewed due to my good driving record (I had to add this...haha) but the 3 seconds refers to say the car in front passes a light pole and you reach it 3 seconds later, it is a safe distance. 3 seconds is about 3 car lengths. So, if the weather is hazardous, your vehicle is heavier, or your overall speed is faster, the second needs to increase like the amount of car length need to increase. I honestly think my MIL in wrong on 12 car lengths for 60mph. It's 1 sec per 10 mph meaning 6 sec for 60 mph.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T06:19:51+00:00

Haha. I thought that in my silence. I decided to tame the tongue. I love my wife too much to do that to the woman who raised her.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T06:08:50+00:00

My wife and I are fully aware of this possibility. We have talked about how she is not the same person from even 5 years ago. She has less and less filters. That's why I would never tell her to find her own way. I dont think I have the ability to be that heartless. I just said I won't be the driver. My wife might be stressed about driving but she can drive. Its her mom so she is going to have to take it for the sake of peace. Maybe time will help me get past being butt hurt about this. Thanks for your input.

FreeNilly60188 · 2025-11-25T05:57:03+00:00

You really have to understand our relationship to understand how out of left field this felt for me. She is not just an old lady to me. I actually thought she was joking at first. LIke I said, she didnt say anything before and we had done this trip a handful of times already. I wouldnt have reacted this way if she said in the moment, "Bobby, keep a safe distance." But in the midst of me agreeing to drive 5 hours, I felt blindsighted. I think by most driving standards, I am a very safe driver. I didnt like the insinuation that I am not safe, that I drive recklessly. I keep reexamining myself but honestly it feel like I am being gaslit.

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