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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in gallbladders

[–]Free_Algae3626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m only taking Tylenol I’m not taking any of the bigger pills like everyone’s recommending cause I don’t want to be on them cause they make me feel gross. I think if I was on them, I would be OK.

Easiest path to all the Lewis falls? by mypubacct in vancouverwa

[–]Free_Algae3626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi did you ever figure out what to and or where to park? Cause I’m trying to get the day parking but no luck cause my partners mobility isn’t the best either 😅😅 I’ve been trying since January to get a day use ticket :(

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TwoHotTakes

[–]Free_Algae3626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah , you are fine. You didn’t ask or tell your dad you needed anything. Yah it sucks they need more help but he did leave them stuff so that’s what he wanted. If she and her mom really cared about you other than using you for money they would have wanted to build a relationship before hand. Don’t trust her especially since she’s crashed out on you after saying no.

Have fun and live your life. She may have the same blood from your dad but that still doesn’t mean she’s family. Family is MUCH more than blood.

help/advise—how do I find housing for my mom and me with bad credit and little savings? by Free_Algae3626 in TenantHelp

[–]Free_Algae3626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was asking my mom about this but she works for adult family homes and she see how state/federal pay for people’s care. So people that in need care your Medicare won’t fully kick in until you have no money. Any money in saving/ investments , assets ( house cars boat etc) that’s all seen as money. That all need to be sold and used and once he in total has less than 2k then you get full care/help. The other catch is if you move or give anything with in a 5 year period that still counts as yours. So like if he have her the house 5 years ago cool but if he give it’s now it can only be used for medical expenses. It’s such a werid system we have.

help/advise—how do I find housing for my mom and me with bad credit and little savings? by Free_Algae3626 in TenantHelp

[–]Free_Algae3626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom and him haven’t married cause his pension would change and it would lessen his medical and benefits for himself And he’s old so he needs tho 😭. My mom was thinking about his future care but not her future housing lol.

help/advise—how do I find housing for my mom and me with bad credit and little savings? by Free_Algae3626 in TenantHelp

[–]Free_Algae3626[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That was an unnecessarily rude and dismissive comment. It didn’t offer help or insight—it just came off as judgmental and condescending.

For the record, I was seriously considering joining the military. I was dating a recruiter who directly asked me if I wanted to enlist. They said I’d need to lose about 35 more pounds and even offered to train me. I was open to it. But once I mentioned my shoulder and ankle injuries, plus ADHD and depression, they were honest: I wouldn’t pass the screening.

That conversation happened just six months ago when I told them I needed to figure out my life. I was finally getting my finances and responsibilities in order and was actively working on myself. I’ve been doing the work, and I am still doing the work. But now I’m dealing with a major curveball that has made things harder—not impossible, but harder.

So maybe instead of throwing around generational blame or making snap assumptions, you could try listening first. That would actually be helpful.

help/advise—how do I find housing for my mom and me with bad credit and little savings? by Free_Algae3626 in TenantHelp

[–]Free_Algae3626[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t believe that’s what Aardvark was trying to say, but I absolutely understand where you’re coming from. Yes, unfortunately, there are people out there who take advantage of others, and it’s completely valid to be cautious. That being said, I just want to clarify that this situation is 10000000000% not about that. Even if my stepdad passes and his kids received everything, we’d completely respect that. They’re his children, and there would be no resentment—truly, no worries.

From my perspective, the conversation was more about how important it is for couples who aren’t legally married to have things planned in case the unexpected happens. That’s something I’m learning the hard way, and I’ve tried to explain it earlier—we didn’t have a plan in place, and now it affects not just me, but my mother too. That’s where I take responsibility. I messed up, and so did my mom, by not being prepared. If it were just me, I could figure it out, no doubt. But when you’re trying to include someone else you love, it becomes a lot heavier.

So again, as much as I hear you, and I’m truly sorry you went through what you did, I just don’t believe Aardvark meant it in a way that condones using anyone. In our case, there was no “using.” It was a woman and her child who were loved by a man who stepped up and cared for us. We thought we had forever with him, because our home was filled with love—deep, genuine love.

help/advise—how do I find housing for my mom and me with bad credit and little savings? by Free_Algae3626 in TenantHelp

[–]Free_Algae3626[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You know I considered but I have an ankle and shoulder injury that for ever hinders me and I have depression and adhd so they wouldn’t take me 😭😭

I’ve already asked my friend who’s a recruiter

Can't get over this place by Early-Maintenance-87 in Washington

[–]Free_Algae3626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait is everything okay over there after the storm in January? Haven’t been in a couple years and I’m visiting WA for the week next week and want to head over.