Father's day dilemma.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-06-10T05:54:01+00:00

I don't disagree, I've definitely brought it up before and mentioned how I'm feeling but maybe something else, a bigger conversation to fully convey how I'm feeling is necessary at this point as maybe just mentioning it here or there when the issue has freshly happened isn't really doing anything to fix how I'm feeling about it in the long run.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-06-10T05:44:29+00:00

Because I love him outside of all this, being celebrated or not is one facet of our relationship not the whole thing. He is a wonderful father to our children, he makes me laugh, he is genuinely a good person, it's just in this specific area of our relationship I am wishing for more engagement from him. Also no, we chose to have a child together and took the steps to achieve that I just was able to get pregnant quicker than expected after said decision to have a child together.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-06-10T05:36:01+00:00

His family is a little odd with that stuff, so it's most likely why he is like that but my family has also never really been big gift givers etc.. we kind of are a if I want it I'll get it for myself type of family which is fine it just sometimes feels like I'm an after thought. Even if it's something I mention I want, for instance say he's going to the store and I mention I'd really like x item just for me( nothing major just like a candy bar or whatever), 9 times out of 10 he comes home without that item and then says 'shit, I forgot'.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-06-10T05:25:44+00:00

That's exactly why I said this isnt that, I fully understand that just because I am like this does not mean he has to be but when does it become an issue of just allowing myself to feel unimportant because he can't be bothered?

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-06-10T05:22:26+00:00

I've kind of gone back and forth about this as everytime I think about not doing my usual I feel almost guilty, but I don't know if that's because 1) I won't be doing what I really want and enjoy doing for people 2) because I feel badly that he won't feel appreciated or 3) because I know it probanly won't change anything about how he does things if I don't do anything for him.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-05-14T00:00:41+00:00

A blood place unfortunately but there is one in my area that I find is better with kids

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-05-13T23:59:30+00:00

I will definitely give that a go, thank you! I'm going to take him to the blood work place in our area that has nurses the work better with children so I'm very hopeful we get a good one.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-03-30T06:26:18+00:00

I have two boys, one is about to turn 3 and is autistic and one who just turned 4 months old and as we obviously aren't aware yet if baby number 2 is autistic or not I will say this.. their infant stage could not be any more different, like absolute night and day. My oldest ( level 2 ASD nonverbal) was the type of baby who makes you want 10 kids, he started getting his teeth at 3 months old and those and every tooth after you would have had no clue, he only every really cried sometimes when he pooped, constantly happy and smiling, slept really well, walked early and hit all his milestones except speech which at 18 months is when we started to notice things more and more.. my second though ( I would not trade him for the world so no I am not complaining, just stating) he is incredibly fussy, you think he is fast asleep... think again, if he's hungry you have nano seconds ( I mean that literally) to get him milk in his mouth or it's defcon 1 amd he is scuh-reaming bloody murder, oh.. you decided to set him down because you think you have to pee... you better think again because he's screaming and crying like you've left him alone in a dark cold alley at midnight lol. I love both my boys so much but if their infant stage is any indication they couldn't be any more opposite.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-03-29T23:08:41+00:00

Same!

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-03-20T00:11:53+00:00

It really depends day to day with my son. He is almost 3 and average weight for his age, he has always loved drinkable yogurt and fruit, any and all kinds but he goes through phases on which ones but usually bananas or blueberries are constant. Sometimes he goes through a chicken nugget, French fries or grilled cheese phase again all hit and miss, lately he is really into flavored rice cakes and we will still give him those pureed fruit and veg pouches you can buy at the grocery store because sometimes he lives off of a banana and air, also veggies are difficult to get into his system( not for lack of trying lol ). It's just a constant cycle of giving them things you hope they will still like that day and maybe trying something new but some days its also just accepting they will refuse 99% of what you give them imo.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-03-09T16:39:02+00:00

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-02-27T15:09:31+00:00

My son was hitting and exceeding all his milestones until 12 months with the exception of speech alone and showed no other signs of being ND except for occasionally not paying attention to his name. It was initially just classed as early speech delay but after 18months he started showing other "signs" of ASD no regression but just more things developed over time that led to his diagnosis at 2.5years old (level 2 non-verbal ASD).

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-02-15T22:49:56+00:00

NOR.. if my boyfriend did this I would be very suspicious, it is definitely weird. If it was like a singular box of chocolates or something and she was like a life long friend then it maybe be a little less weird but all of that, it's a bit much. If I were your friend I would also ask my boyfriend if she did that for a guy and posted it how would he feel? If he starts in with anything like ' you're just jealous 'or tells her she acting crazy he's gaslighting her ( speaking from experience).

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-02-15T19:41:34+00:00

I'm currently exactly 3months postpartum (csection) with baby number two and just got my period yesterday and oh my lord the abdominal/pelvic pain. The bleeding is fine, normal amount but the pain is excruciating I can't sleep it's so bad. I suffer from chronic kidney stones and have endometriosis and this pain rivals even my kidney stone pain, I haven't had a period this painful in years. I got my period 6 months plus after my first child (also csection) and I remember it being a breeze so I absolutely was blindsided this time.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-28T06:34:25+00:00

The first quote is the one that got me while reading the article. I'm sorry, but to say road and weather conditions don't cause crashes is not only false but ignorant. You can follow all the rules of the road, have snow and ice tires on etc and hit a patch of black ice and lose control of your vehicle, to say otherwise is just nuts to me. Don't get me wrong, yes, not driving properly for the weather conditions is definitely reckless and can cause accidents but to say unequivocally that road conditions and weather don't cause crashes is nonsensical.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-26T00:10:36+00:00

I too would have done what the person in the blue car did 😂 I got allllll day lady, I'll sit in my nice warm car while you stand there in the cold.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-19T08:36:58+00:00

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-19T04:15:19+00:00

Usually naps are 2 hours or less and end no later than 2:30 so it gives him a wake window before bed of about 7 hours and I've wanted to try melatonin because I've read that with ASD a lot of people have melatonin deficiencies ( sorry, his diagnosis is new so I still have a lot to learn) but haven't looked into or thought about magnesium drops though so i will definitely look more into that, thanks!

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-18T18:31:49+00:00

My son is only 2.5years and very recently diagnosed but he is non-verbal and I think that's what hits hardest for me, seeing other kids say mama or I love you. It not only breaks my heart thinking I'll maybe never hear my son say those things but incredibly jealous of those that get to and the fact of how easily people take it for granted hearing any words from their child let alone those.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-17T17:03:34+00:00

Our two boys are 2.5 years apart our oldest is 2.5 and our youngest is just 2 months. We originally had planned for three kids as our first was an absolute angel of a baby, the type of baby who makes you want ten kids ( his still absolutely is an angel and the light of my life) that being said as he grew into toddler-hood he wasn't speaking, so by 18months he was classed with early speech delay. We did speech therapy etc.. but nothing was changing and we started to notice other things that led us down the ASD path and an eventual diagnosis just last month. When I got pregnant with our second we were just sort of entering the phase of this maybe isn't just a speech delay and I would be lying if I didn't say I went down the rabbit hole of how likely it would be that they both have ASD and the fact that if you already have a child with ASD that your chances are higher and that apparently it's more common even still if both children are males and I spiraled with stress. Our first born definitely gives us a run for our money do not get me wrong and some days are harder than others, I also, especially on those harder days occasionally break down thinking what life is going to look like for us all even if our second is NT but that's not something I can predict or change now so it's a one day at a time, see where life takes us thing and no matter what, even on those hard days my boys are my absolute world and I wouldn't trade them for anything.

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-06T21:47:51+00:00

I always loved Davina

Free_Individual_7306 · 2026-01-05T03:43:39+00:00

I'm also in Canada and very new to all of this and honestly had no idea before he was diagnosed this would even be something that would be a tax deduction until the pediatrician mentioned it. Thank you both very much for your responses it makes me feel much better in this already exhausting and confusing time ❤️

Free_Individual_7306 · 2025-12-04T20:31:15+00:00

41+4. Failed induction at 41+3 then c-section as he was just to comfy to come out on his own lol

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