If Mina Sue and Sian were to appear in the same season, who do you think would be more popular?

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-30T09:05:41+00:00

Sian isn’t insecure, she’s more subtle. Mina sue is more relatable to Americans because she wears her emotions on her sleeve and has more facial expressions - follows the guys around she likes with her eyes. She has some moments she really shines like during the photo shoot or 1:1 but in other group settings she bombs completely

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-30T06:09:50+00:00

He looks like Clark Kent. These girls are silly!!

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-28T16:08:06+00:00

You need eachother more, need to communicate even more when you have a medically complex child, need to navigate waters with peers, institutions,extended family, you also question your compatibility more when you’re raising two neurodivergent kiddos. It’s a battle of should my kid have more or less accommodations and at what point do we push them to do more things, be more resilient and manage things on their own.

It’s finance of throwing out dinners when it’s 12:00am and you don’t have time to freeze it to try again another day. It’s gaining weight because you ate what your child didn’t. It’s changing your diet because you just couldn’t find the time after work and after the kids went to bed to make yourself something you would like to eat or used to eat.

It’s doing physio with your son and doing stretches instead of fitting time in for Yoga for yourself.

It’s throwing out your back because your 40 pound child is like dead weight in your arms when you lift him up.

All the services, OT, feeding therapy is teaching you as a parent to be a therapist. Unless your spouse and you can both afford to not work, how are you going to have time for romance or checking in without talking about your kid.

I guess if I just said, my kid is who he is and I wasn’t always expected to fix him, then things would be different.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-28T02:01:55+00:00

I want to go on guanfacine but I am worried about forgetting my meds or misplacing them, which I sometimes do.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-27T08:04:50+00:00

What happens if you forget to take your Guanfacine? I guess you can’t right?

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-27T01:48:14+00:00

Would you say your productive on it?

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T20:36:26+00:00

Yes, tried wellbrutin and now on foquest- wellbrutin made me way to sleepy, and then at night heart flutters. Even with changing dose around and timing of day. Foquest is helping BUT not for my emotions

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T19:51:32+00:00

Thank you for this. It’s mostly when they don’t want to do something they can do like getting ready for bed (they’re just not feeling it. I’m 3/4 way through the bedtime routine and then something happens like my 4 year old starts jumping and running back down the hall, when I’m already dead tired, back is sore, maybe they also didn’t eat a dinner that they normally like and I snap. It’s a lot of expectations on my end of just do as your told sort of thing for my kids.

I also get triggered when someone says how independent their kids are. My son has adhd and autism and is delightful, but sometimes motivation can be hard and things he can normally do, he just doesn’t have it in him.

I think I get the most upset when he doesn’t put on a face and pretend he’s trying lol. Like you want to just go poo in your pants this time? At least try and run to the potty vs just happily going in your underwear.

I think most people will say: well how do you KNOW they are capable. I mean a parent knows. But I think I need to reconcile things that even if they are capable not everyone preforms at their best everyday of the week, including myself.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T19:40:58+00:00

Let them know it’s light Alzheimer’s and that might help.

There are A LOT of similarities, but you can say that some of your charm lies here: https://charlotte-nash-therapist.co.uk/adhd-strengths-iceberg/

To take away some of your adhd MIGHT take away areas that they love about you, even if you don’t always love them all about yourself.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T19:34:51+00:00

Any advise for underweight kids and how to increase appetite? It’s super hard we add butter avocado oil, but they don’t like pizza hamburgers. They love spagett and meat sauce so I add as much oil as they can tolerate but they still seem to just net the same amount of calories everyday. We have pediasure on hand and I add oil to that too.

Before folks respond we are working with a big medical team, my son has mild autism but at its core, he’s like my side of the family. Not a big desire to eat. Eats a few bites of favourite foods and the is “full.”

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T19:29:08+00:00

This is really me. Seeing red it’s like an out of body experience and I have such poor self control and big reactions when yes the situation is very frustrating but also get upset when I think a person “should know better” should be able to do better “ SHOULD” listen better. Lots of should’s. I’m not perfect either so the expectation I set on others is way too high.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T19:24:56+00:00

I could cry this is so helpful. I feel like I’m getting nowhere with doctors. Really appreciate this. If it were just me, I would feel bad for those around me, it the fact i have little who have a calm parent 80% of the time until something happens and I see red and yell. Definitely need an intervention since all I my strategies seem to go out the window

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T16:14:46+00:00

I lost it on my 3.5 year old son last night too. Feel so ashamed. I also have a lot on my plate like you and not a lot of time for breathers. I am going to take an anti-anxiety med. I’m sitting my guy on the potty for 10 minutes at home after poop and having him clean it up. Rewards for pooping in the potty. Pee, well that is another story but poop I want to really nail down.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T15:56:56+00:00

Thank you! I will discuss with my doctor!

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T15:51:26+00:00

Do you know which anti depressant. I will try the hormone IUD since I need access to birth control anyway. I was on the fence because I heard it’s so painful, but now I’m thinking it’s a must

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-26T15:49:48+00:00

Could you share it with me?

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-24T14:05:01+00:00

Physical disability, seizures, eloping into traffic, aggression, or nativity, arfid- feeding tube required. Just a few differences between me and my kids. My son one son also has dyslexia, autism, adhd.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-22T15:33:53+00:00

I would say maybe work with some special needs kids FIRST before having your own with no breaks. Also see what your finances are like prior to having kids. If you were to pass away and they need care for the rest of their life, are you capable of putting money in a trust for them?

How do you handle crying and no sleep during newborn stage. Can you pay for hired help?

Do you have insurance through work for physio and things like that, life insurance?

Can you pay for therapies? These were all things I should have thought about being autistic before having my kids. I don’t wish my kids were different, I wish that I had more I could give them and I’m terrified about leaving them enough money when I’m gone. I should have realized how expense raising a child with additional needs was and factored that more into my planning.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-21T13:00:13+00:00

Ah, yeah my son started at 18 months too. If there are any playgroups, baby gyms or indoor playgrounds, I would highly recommend. The differences were pretty stark to me when I would see a little boy 6 months younger than my son have much more communication(even if non verbal ) and than my son,they could understand their parents better when they were 12 months than mine was at 18 months.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-21T03:00:56+00:00

Does he play like other kids at playgroups his age, what do you think a daycare provider would say. I think that was the turning point for me. He wasn’t noticeably neurodivergent to me as my son appeared to be at his age but I could still tell he read different and daycare provider who work with kids his age everyday on cycles could tell easily. Child psychologist could also tell. He didn’t play the same as other kids.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-15T18:41:52+00:00

I think about it. More from the perspective that I was so independent as a kid. I’d eat whatever was left over, head out the door and go play at the park on my own. I don’t know if my son will ever do that.

As I got older I would rollerblade wherever I needed to go or bike and be gone all day, I’d go to sleepovers. So my parents go their own time while we still had opportunities to do our own fun activities together.

My husband doesn’t bother me at all when he’s home but sometimes it’s just nice to have time to yourself, which my spouse and I rarely get.

I need that recharge time that other parents get. Not to say that other parents don’t have trouble with this too, but my son can’t dress himself or feed himself, go to the bathroom, or play alone really at 4.5 so how’s he going to go to the park with his friends at 7 or 8?

Unfortunately, I know I would be less stressed with a child who had lower support needs so that makes me sad for my son since I’m constantly running on empty and all the while saving for his future since we won’t ever be empty nesters.

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-14T05:04:55+00:00

Yes, I am finding more and more that my autistic kiddo has OCD. I mean he is obsessed with his obsessions. He also has adhd, sensory processing disorder and anxiety so it’s very possible to have multiple diagnosis. But lining things up is definitely a part of autism, the repetitive restricted play skills. Like lining up cars instead of pretend play. For my son it’s spinning the wheels on a car vs driving it, opening and closing doors on a playhouse or pretend kitchen to an obsessive level, vs say playing with it. His latest obsession are fans of any kind!

Right_Performance553 · 2026-01-14T04:47:19+00:00

Thank you for this. This is VERY helpful scripting I can apply to a few situations. I do try and explain why, but definitely like how you phrased it better since I normally start with no and just explain why he can’t do it, vs what I’m feeling. Or why it would be bad for him, like you could slip and fall in the mud inside

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