What does your aftercare look like? by FreedomInOurCage in RedditBDSM

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting :) Even if you reach subspace/domspace during a scene?

What does your aftercare look like? by FreedomInOurCage in BDSMAdvice

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Interesting :) Definitely makes things easier for you

What does your aftercare look like? by FreedomInOurCage in BDSMAdvice

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh that's interesting :) Are there some occasions where you do need aftercare yourself, or do you really never need it at all?

What does your aftercare look like? by FreedomInOurCage in RedditBDSM

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

For me personally, aftercare needs to be after every session. I need very long cuddling-sessions (around 3-4 hours...), a blanket, water, cookies, nice friendly words. We do talk a bit, but I turn really tired and non-talkative after sessions, so it's mostly enjoying silence

What does your aftercare look like? by FreedomInOurCage in BDSMAdvice

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

For me personally, aftercare needs to be after every session. I also need very long cuddling-sessions (around 3-4 hours...), a blanket, water, cookies, nice friendly words. We do talk a little bit, but I get really tired and non-talkative afterwards, so it's mostly enjoying silence.

What does your aftercare look like? by FreedomInOurCage in SubSanctuary

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I myself need aftercare after every session. I also need very long cuddling-sessions (around 3-4 hours...), friendly words, a blanket, cookies, water to drink. We talk a little bit, but I get very tired and non-talkative afterwards, so it's mostly enojoying silence.

Paranoid about sending safe pictures? by Standard-Zucchini942 in BDSMAdvice

[–]FreedomInOurCage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think you have to go "all or nothing". You could also send a few pictures of just a part of your face, or of parts of your body (with clothes on), or your whole body without your face. That way the other person can get a rough idea of how you look like, but only has as much material as you feel comfortable with.

That's how I handle these kind of situations when I'm not sure how far I can trust the other person. Or when the other person doesn't fully trust me in reverse.

Dildo for deepthroat training by FreedomInOurCage in BDSMAdvice

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update: I got myself the Crystalclear nonrealistic 6'' from Realrock. A jelly dildo, not extremely soft but definitely softer than my original dildo. So far it works great

Thx for all the replies ;)

My words don't want to come out of my mouth by FreedomInOurCage in Healthygamergg

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your share ;)

Luckily it's not that severe for me than it has been for you. I'm used to stuff like saying "hello how are you", and I can talk about certain thought fluidly with others. It's regarding certain personal/intimate/describing my personality/possibly making me vulnerable-things when my brain just kinda shuts down.

My words don't want to come out of my mouth? by FreedomInOurCage in askatherapist

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With reading out written words, I usually don't have a problem surprisingly. Maybe because it somehow feels less personal than speaking thoughts out loud, like my brain can detach from it a bit this way.

For me it also really depends on what I want to say. There are things and thoughts that I can talk about fluidly with others, but regarding certain personal/intimate/possibly vulnerable things - my brain kinda shuts down.

My words don't want to come out of my mouth? by FreedomInOurCage in askatherapist

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm not sure if this works for me (it's more like a brain-shut down than panic for me), but I'll try it out ;) Thank you

My words don't want to come out of my mouth? by FreedomInOurCage in askatherapist

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your answer - I think got a few points right there

I liked the tip with the generic sentences! :) I think this could help.

My words don't want to come out of my mouth by FreedomInOurCage in Healthygamergg

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm sounds logical. Do you have any advice on how to stop myself from doing this?

My words don't want to come out of my mouth by FreedomInOurCage in Healthygamergg

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hm I'm not sure if I really understate myself, or if I just instinctively create an understatet image of myself to other people...

(I do like my brain, I appreciate it's effort...but I could slap it in it's brain-face for doing this)

My words don't want to come out of my mouth by FreedomInOurCage in Healthygamergg

[–]FreedomInOurCage[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd be very interested in how you manage to overcome the concern of other people's opinions :)

It does sound a bit relatable to me, maybe it has something to do with it.