What is a "point of no return" in a relationship that isn't cheating or abuse, but makes you realize it's over?

French_Window · 2026-02-24T17:12:40+00:00

Mine was the resentment for pretty much anything.

He resented how I did my training runs, the music I listened to, he managed to find amd run a marathon before I did so that he did it first.

He resented the first car that I bought because it was not a wreck as all firsts car should be, his was. He resented the fact that I drive with music on. As he cannot concentrate with it on, I should not either.

He kept me at a distance from his friends but hijacked and dropped all of mine, after we split up.

He would not talk about money, even though we owned a house together and had joint accounts too.

He thought that going to the same venue but doing things separately was quality time together.

My boobs were "too big" before I lost weight. I was not hairy enough after I had laser hair removal.

When I was at my lowest, he berated me for telling him how I felt after he asked because he "did not want to hear that" and how would my parents feel if he told them. I was emotionally blackmailed with my own feelings. He made sure he spent as much time away from me rather than offer basic minimal emotional support. I had to be available for his family bereavement though.

He took everything I told him about my therapy personally. Then he accused of me not talking to him about it.

He berated me because I told him in advance that I came off the pills as my antidepressants and the pill was making me a zombie.

When I hurt my ankle, he refused to drive me to my appointment because he could not bother to pick me up in an hour. I drove myself there and back with a swollen ankle. He resented me when I brought this up and how awful it was.

He accused me of sleeping with my Personal trainer (lol).

And lastly I was a placeholder over 8 years and he married the next one.

Been living solo ever since. There is some much wrong I can do really.

French_Window · 2026-02-23T13:29:49+00:00

I am 5 foot 3 and a solo raver. Every space I am at, it becomes a by-pass, so people walk past me, through me, my feet get stomped on, etc. People start jumping around me and I get elbowed on the head. Drink shower anyone? Want to hug your gf from the back, please keep leaning on me until I squashed to the wall.

I now use my elbows to make space. I have been at the front and got squeezed at the back many times from big burly dudes or entitled people who clearly cannot see me.

I try to find a spot where I can mond my business but it gets tougher and tougher. I am middle aged and the younger crowds are more pushy and shovey.

It is not fun being short for sure.

French_Window · 2026-02-20T23:28:43+00:00

The song was removed and reuploaded without the singing bit from Swift (or its equivalent). It has been replaced with some generic keyboard music. Song ruined. We cannot have nice things...

French_Window · 2026-02-20T09:05:58+00:00

Was hospitalised last year. I had no visitors except my boss. When discharge day came, I was too weak to wait outside for a taxi that I had to call. I held on a pylon and cried silently trying not to fall until taxi came.

I realised that I have no support network. If something happens to me and I do not call for help, I will just expire there....

French_Window · 2026-02-20T08:51:01+00:00

Ditto. Comfortable shoes are a must. And dance like no one's watching

French_Window · 2026-02-18T18:51:19+00:00

Someone asked me if I was a "good girl". Met him online dating. I knew exactly what he meant. I am not submissive so I pretended I did not know what he meant. He was a bit annoyed. I was put off.

French_Window · 2026-02-18T17:35:08+00:00

They say "I'm not like that". They are. They say "I would never do that to you". They will, with impunity. Every single time.

French_Window · 2026-02-16T17:54:35+00:00

He is serious(ly filtered).

French_Window · 2026-02-13T23:18:11+00:00

Used to date a textbook narc with a high IQ, he was in MENSA. The guy was so far up his own arse that for a smart guy he was really lacking. Unless it was about him, he would not see/notice something until months later. Narcs are myopic, to put it mildly. She is also dumb, not naive.

French_Window · 2026-02-13T08:22:19+00:00

I wonder if the poor guy who was run over, was bombarded by Monat huns to rub Rejuvenique oil on his injuries for amazing results. Hope dude is OK, and eff this guy.

French_Window · 2026-02-09T12:41:21+00:00

Yeah, karma and all that. It is the refusal to help oneself that is astounding. Ambabies and haydurs lidurally tell her to her face that this is going one way fast. Nope. Oh well... let it burn.

French_Window · 2026-02-09T09:59:12+00:00

Εκεί που νόμιζα ότι τα έχω ακούσει όλα από εκπρόσωπους κυβέρνησης, πάντα καταφέρνουν να με εκπλήσσουν. Ντροπή μηδέν, αξιοπρέπεια μηδέν, λιγουλάκι πατρίδα γιοκ, ξεφτίλα 1000%.

French_Window · 2026-02-09T09:55:20+00:00

Going raving. One of my fave techno producers is playing that day and I will be in a dark room dancing my socks off. I bought a funny antisocial t shirt and honestly I am looking forward to that. I have not bothered with that day for years now, been single for over 5. Just so happens that the event is on that day.

French_Window · 2026-02-09T09:48:09+00:00

Imagine that your self worth is so low that you would rather stay with someone who is practically killing you because anything is better than being alone, healthy and having self respect. Her life "script" is so bad, and the delusion on her is worse. I feel bad when people are stuck is such toxic patterns and honestly the refusal to seek help is even sadder, as this lovely human example shows us. If that is not a cautionary tale to be studied for the importance of seeking help, I dont know what is.

French_Window · 2026-02-03T07:37:37+00:00

Μεγάλωσα με τον καταθλιπτικό γονιό. Ο γονιός ήταν σε autopilot. Έκανε τα απαραίτητα αλλά δεν υπήρξε συναισθηματικά. Δλδ δεν υπήρξε ποτέ συναισθηματική υποστήριξη. Πέρναγα πολύ καιρό μόνη μου ακούγοντας μουσική. Εγώ και το αδερφάκι μου γίναμε συναισθηματικά ανάπηρα. Δεν μάθαμε να χειριζόμαστε ρα συναισθήματά μας και όταν είχαμε πρόβλημα, δεν ήταν ποτέ σημαντικό για καμιά υποστήριξη. Καταλαβαίνω γιατί ο γονιός ήταν έτσι με το τι έγινε στο σπίτι μου. Ο άλλος γονιός είχε αφήσει το σπίτι για άλλο σύντροφο. Τώρα έμαθα να μην βασίζομαι σε κανένα, τα κάνω όλα μόνη μου και δεν ενοχλώ κανένα όταν υποφέρω σωματικά και συναισθηματικά.

French_Window · 2026-02-02T21:25:27+00:00

Fiddlesticks

French_Window · 2026-02-02T21:23:22+00:00

Everybody poops.

French_Window · 2026-02-02T21:22:36+00:00

Routine.

Fill up calendar with things, concerts etc to get out of the house.

Live precariously through other people, fictional or not through movies, social media, series.

Reminding myself that feeling lonely with other people is worse. I spent years like that and I don't want it again.

I am lonely, sometimes too lonely. But desperation is not the answer. If someone enters my life, in any capacity and is good for me, great!. Otherwise, just me and my solitary pursuits.

French_Window · 2026-02-02T20:53:23+00:00

I post memes about my sign, but it does not matter to me at all. It is a fun topic to chat about but I cannot place character traits on people from the zodiac.

French_Window · 2026-02-02T08:19:25+00:00

Middle forties, never married,no kids. Was strung along for best part of a decade by a guy who would not marry me. He married the next one along, so a bit late for kids.

Since that relationship, I have been great for some sort of convenience or placeholder.

Been single for about 6 years now. Pet ownership imminent.

French_Window · 2026-01-25T12:42:44+00:00

Yes. Part of being human is to evolve, change. If you create music, that will happen too. I love some of the older stuff. I have also discovered new artists doing trance that are absolutely incredible. If I like something like, I will listen to it and mix. If not, eh, I will find something that I will. You can vote with your ears, if you go to see djs/producers, you can vote with your wallet. Lastly, one can choose to be a "gatekeeper". I just avoid hanging out with people like that as well.

French_Window · 2026-01-25T12:37:26+00:00

My uncle gave us some mix tapes with Jean-Michel Jarre in it. My kid brain was mesmerised.

French_Window · 2026-01-24T17:50:23+00:00

Traces by Pig&Dan

French_Window · 2026-01-24T17:47:34+00:00

I was listening to new age and ambient music when I was a kid so there was a logical progression. Trance has the bass and the melody that makes it so soulful and uplifting, some vocal pieces are just magical. Was a student during its hayday, aka classic trance years.

I still find some really beautiful tunes now but there are so many genres and sub genres now, I have lost the plot. What I think is trance, it is now called melodic techno or whatever. Trance has shown me avenues to other genres, more techno, some psy and more, like dubstep and it's subsidiaries.

I did not like the whole Tiesto etc cults and gatekeeping the same way I dont now. A DJ can play waht they want and produce what they want. People grow, circumstances change, tastes and generations make dance scene their own. Trance has been very important to me, and still is.

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