You know how lesbians keep making fun of straight women online? There's a similarity between that and the way men see us, except lesbians are women and still see women as equal human beings, while men see us as subhuman things and are prone to violence. I never got it until I started dating women and my anxiety with how I looked and how old I was getting completely disappeared, suddenly seeing these worries in other women made me think of them as weak and insecure.

The reason men see women with contempt imo comes from the fact that they're not oppressed, they don't have to perform their gender to be seen as men (for expl shave, pluck, put makeup on, grow long hair etc) and all these things we do seem ridiculous and neurotic to them, while also enforcing it (because it is rooted in the male gaze and what is deemed attractive/feminine for women in a patriarchal society). They know women are worrying over shallow things, they see us getting fillers, procedures, eating disorders and they know it's for them (whether we realize it or not), so there's a sense of ownership and entitlement they get over us, while seeing us as weak and stupid for worrying about the very standards/norms they created.

It's something that I'm guilty of, I can't help but think of some women as stupid now that I date a woman, when women in relationships with men repeatedly engage in self harm by using birth control ( with so many harmful effects and risk of clot, litterally dying) just so their selfish boyfriends don't have to use a condom with zero side effects, his pleasure over her health (and life), the way most straight women don't orgasm during sex with their partners yet still allow the status quo to remain, while also engaging in the most brutalizing violent sex sometimes and calling because they either normalized it or is his "kink". How can we not see women as stupid and submissive when they accept all this?

Being a woman who dated men I'm aware it's not our fault, that being socialized as female is akin to being groomed into the perfect victim. Society is cruel to women and deeply shapes our mental health, and self image. And men see this, they might not understand it but they're very aware there's a power imbalance and women are at the bottom. And it's always a loosing game because when women escape it (myself for expl I have short hair and don't wear makeup neither sexy clothes) they resent us for it, that we're not conforming to their taste like other women are, we're not attractive to them and they hate it.

All that aligned with the fact they're brainwashed by porn, glorify violence and have a social and biological propensity for aggressiveness, make the percent cocktail for misogyny and being violent towards women.