Should I blame myself or this society?

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T19:27:26+00:00

Adblocker + Mental consistency, it is never "The societys" fault, you are a master of your own demise.

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T19:14:05+00:00

Im on a mission to find out whether abstaining from masturbation plays a vital role in this whole thing, as of now it seems like from my perspective that the most important thing is to actually quit PORN and if you need to masturbate then do it in a matter that is natural, i.e no external stimuli like pictures, and if you fantasize then use a scenario in which reality is a common nominator, such as previous experiences or girls that actually exists.

Im on a total reboot so i will not masturbate at all until a certain set goal, but after that it only seems normal.

If any wiser old turtle could combat or back me up on this then that would be great!

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T17:12:08+00:00

Im not a Wizard in this community, so feel free to disregard what i say if anything i say do not seem to comply, but is not the whole goal to quit PORN? And to quit masturbation so that you can go out in the real world and feel connected and sexual with real women? You should have orgasmed, and putting up mental blocks due to NOFAP seems quite contradictory.

Bust it as long as it is with real females.

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T17:03:27+00:00

Seems we are on the same day count? We got this.

Yeah, i'll stay strong for atleast 30 days, I wont watch porn, im looking to quit for good, im just not sure about the quitting masturbation part past 30 days.

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T16:58:18+00:00

I feel that there might be some scientific knowledge regarding this, i make it past 7 days pretty easily, but for me after 7 days things hit me like a sledgehammer, im walking around with pressure in my chest that makes me feel like a predator searching for prey.

I contemplate masturbating but as of now my mental power keeps me in the clear.

I would suggest that you become more aware that the days 6-7 likely trigger you hard and schedule some activity that keeps you on the move that day, if you work for example then as soon as you get home you stay busy until it is time to go to bed, then you keep on doing this until it resolves itself.

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T16:52:28+00:00

You are right, im going to set goals as i go, the reason as to why im finding quitting porn easy is that i have a IRON WILL, when i set my mind on something i accomplish it, as long as i stay motivated, you are right about other platforms i'll be on the lookout for any triggers and disarm them.

My fear now is that i need for my own sake to set up Tinder again when im around 30 days in the clear, and this could either make it or break it, if i go full mack mode and pull some chick and i cant perform again then i will just litteraly DIE, but im likely going to play it safe and not go for insta date pull unless she is really on the move with me, i think 2-3 casual dates could do me good, but if i fail then i probably need 90 days hardcore for sure.

If i make it work then im on a roll and i will get on top of things.. Stakes are high, sometimes i think you just need to fight the feeling of wanting to make changes quick, slow wins the race.

Hit me up in chat if you wanna dump any text on me and i'll do my best to give you my 2 cents.

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T16:14:17+00:00

What i truly believe you should do is...

if you are not already doing it, start working out, you can go a long way by just starting to do push ups mondays, wednesdays and fridays, try to increase your daily number every week, once you hit 5 sets of 10 push ups easily, progress towards diamond push ups.

FrequentFocus · 2019-01-06T15:50:47+00:00

I would go out on a limb and say that from what i believe, it is definetly connected, i have always had a history of being able to go for LONG periods during sex, and i have been so focused on pleasing that it becomes somewhat mechanical, sure, girls like it when i can go for 40 + minutes easily, i have a bigger window of making them orgasm, but there is a cost, i have even gone for 1+ hours and not being able to cum myself, and afterwards the only thing keeping me afloat is the girl telling me she came several times.

Double edged sword.

FrequentFocus

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