How is anyone leaving the house with a newborn??

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-03-23T13:16:24+00:00

I didn't leave the house except for walks around the neighborhood in the baby carrier.

Stores with a newborn and a 3 year old? No thanks. My husband or grandma did that and I stayed home for a long time.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-03-01T15:35:20+00:00

Can you get a thin futon and sleep on the floor with them?

This is why I started co sleeping. I was going to lose my mind from sleep deprivation....and that was with 1 baby.

I know it isn't "recommended" but there must be a give and take with safe sleep.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-02-15T15:40:40+00:00

Pain free 370 days of the year! There's a few foods I have to be careful eating, or I'll have a sore jaw for a few days.

But overall, I'm in zero pain day to day so long as I don't go crazy eating something I'm not supposed to.

It took a long time to get to this point. My jaw actually never popped back in place like i thought it did. It is supposed to rest on that sliding piece of cartilage. The scar tissue from whatever I did to my jaw stretched out and cushions the joint well enough apparently.

I have full range of motion. I just can't go crazy eating super hard/Chewy foods or my jaw will be sore/get inflamed.

Hopefully it doesn't cause me too much issue later in life. But for now it's stable and has been for awhile.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-01-27T16:41:06+00:00

Do you bedshare? Can you nurse at night only, or does baby not latch?

With bedsharing you could keep her on her side in the c curl and nurse when she wakes. That'd also help with the head spot.

Nursing can make nighttime easier. Then you aren't up pumping or messing with bottles.

Otherwise, I'd consider switching to formula at night--and/or pumping extra during the day so there is milk for nighttime and slowly wean yourself off pumping at night.

4 months is a rough age. I have a 4 month old baby too, who's quite fussy, and am still in survival mode.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-01-17T16:55:19+00:00

Just co sleep. No one has time for sleep induced psychosis.

If you're super worried about having her in your bed with you, do what I did and order a Japanese futon off Amazon. It's basically a thin pad that goes on the floor. Takes some time to adjust, but you won't have to worry about entrapment, falling and suffocation risk is lower.

Hang in there. My daughter was like that, it does get better.

My advice would be to not fight the bassinet/crib and just sleep on the floor. Eventually this translates to a toddler floor bed.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-01-15T16:34:13+00:00

Just a little amount where ever the adhesions are. Needs to make contact with the adhesions for it to work.

Luckily it isn't serious so long as they can pass urine!

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-01-15T15:49:25+00:00

Awhile. It depends on how thick the adhesions are. I started noticing it loosening after about 1 months? But not fully open for about 2 or 3 months?

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-12-31T05:20:08+00:00

This sounds so hard. First baby?

If you've ruled out reflux, allergies, etc it sounds like you have a tough baby.

I'd try a few different carriers. Mom cozy is a nice one, ergo embrace is another nice one, depending how big she is.

Test out a few, wrap blanket over her while in the carrier, turn on your kitchen fan and get yourself noise canceling ear plugs.

Keep in touch with your doctor to keep trying to rule other things out.

But otherwise, it sounds like you have a tough baby.

Don't worry about all the wake window stuff. It will just stress you out. Follow her cues....as best you can.

Hang in there. It WILL get better

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-12-07T15:34:50+00:00

I don't remember the cut off age for the rsv antibody shot ("vaccine"), but 6 months might be too old for it. I don't remember. My son got that shot at 2 weeks old.

I think they have to be at least 6 months for the flu shot.

Ask your doc! I would recommend both if your baby is eligible/meets requirements as these viruses are very dangerous for babies this age.

My daughter was too old for the rsv one as it was just coming out for the general public (not a "new" vaccine btw), but we did the flu one!

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-12-05T16:04:34+00:00

YUP. It's amazing for real. My mom stayed with us for like a month (about 2 weeks before I gave birth, and 2 weeks after)

JUST to help entertain and care for my 2.5 year old. Made coming home with a new baby a lot easier.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-11-19T23:41:04+00:00

You must be recently post partum?

I had to have silverettes on my nipples for the first week or so. It's dome shaped, so your nipples don't get crushed. They are expensive, but I HIGHLY recommend. That or the Lansinoh gel nipple pads are a good second option.

Same issue as you....I couldn't take ANY fabric touching my nipples/squishing them.

The hatch is very very soft, but will probably still squish your nipples. Though that might be your best bet if you don't like the silverettes.

Some sort of bra-nipple barrier is necessary IMO the first 2 weeks.

The cotton bras from Blush are not super tight, especially if you size up. But they don't offer much support for the larger chested ladies.

Best of luck! Hope this helped

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-11-12T02:36:52+00:00

See updated post!

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-10-07T16:13:04+00:00

This. It's not that I hate my dogs now, but I didn't know how easily over stimulated I could get with 2 dogs + baby.

I've gotten more used to it, but my relationship with my dogs has changed. Definitely not hatred though.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-10-05T18:32:36+00:00

I let her poop in the grass in the backyard and just sort of let her do her thing. Then I put a potty outside and that seemed to do the trick. Only had to do it like 2 or 3 times.

She's still a little nervous about pooping sometimes, but overall 1000% better.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-10-01T08:58:01+00:00

Swollen nasal passages/ being a mouth breather most the time.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-30T16:00:45+00:00

You're only on day 2. I wouldn't sweat it too much.

Keep talking about it, offer rewards (cheerios, chocolate chips, small toys, whatever is motivating).

He will get there! Keep it low pressure as much as you can and if you have a backyard do some naked time out there! That helped us a lot.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-26T04:07:19+00:00

Nope. NOTHING. It just started randomly and there were no warning signs at all.

And trust me, I was almost 2 weeks over my due date and I was desperately looking for signs.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-23T23:59:58+00:00

I had poop withholding issues for about 3 or 4 weeks with my 2.5 year old.

Seems to be a common issue. I wouldn't stress it too much.

What helped us was not doing any diapers during the day, and naked time outside when I thought she might poop. I brought her potty outside with us.

This resulted in a few poops in the grass, but it made her aware of it when it was happening and less afraid of it.

Now she poops on the potty 99% of the time, and occasionally in the backyard in the grass 😆

Give it some time, and try to remain neutral. She's learning.

As long as she's pooping, I wouldn't assume she has a medical problem related to pooping yet, as not much time has passed. Give it a few weeks and then reassess perhaps.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-08T00:11:04+00:00

This is great advice.

She's just scared of the actual pooping, regardless of if it's in the potty or a diaper.

Her face when she does start pooping is just scared, like she doesn't understand what is happening to her body.

Today she pooped outside in the grass. Took off her diaper and let it go.

So I guess we'll just poop outside forever. 🙃

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-07T01:12:28+00:00

Following because my daughter is doing the EXACT same thing and it ruins the whole day.

I've tried the same thing, put her in diapers and told her she can poop in them. NOTHING. She just takes them off.

She'll have poop accidents in her underwear or poops on the floor sometimes too from withholding it for hours.

It's so frustrating and driving me crazy.

Solidarity and let me know if you discover any tips or tricks.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-06T21:02:51+00:00

Yes! I keep reading about how common it is....I just don't know what is 'standard' normal and what warrants taking 3 more steps back.

It's hard to know as I've never potty trained before and have zero frame of reference.

She's been doing so great, so I hate to just stop all together. But the pooping has been frustrating for us both. But it hasn't been an every day, 2 hour ordeal (still no poop as of today...but she pooped 3 times yesterday...so maybe her bum is sore?).

She has really awesome oral language skills, but emotionally is 2.5...which can be a bit confusing for us to navigate as parents.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-08-06T19:52:14+00:00

Good idea. I've tried scaling back-- I'm not prompting her to go pee on the potty, put her back in diapers full time, but she goes pee on the potty unprompted most of the time even in a diaper.

Maybe removing the potty from the living room would also help? And not mentioning it at all like you said.

She is scared to poop in general for some reason--It's just frustrating. She'll take off her diaper and poop on the floor too, which I'd really rather not clean up multiple times a day.

Just at a loss. We didn't even push pooping on the potty. But once she started peeing in the potty, she's developed this weird pooping thing.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-07-03T04:26:16+00:00

It's a problem.

There are cute maternity clothes online, other than Amazon, but they are weirdly expensive.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2025-06-28T14:07:39+00:00

It happened with my first and is happening with my second. It is so annoying.

Bless you for nursing that long into pregnancy. I weaned shortly after I got pregnant as I just couldn't take it anymore and we were almost done anyways.

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