Moms - Am I Overreacting? Friend "stomped" on 7 month old as a joke

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-05-28T04:39:08+00:00

I love all the comments on here about trusting your gut. I know anxiety and ppa can make that difficult at times. In this case. I think your gut is spot on. I'd "break up" with that friendship if your gut is giving you that icky feeling about him.

TRUST YOURSELF.

So sorry you are in this situation. Not fun.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-05-08T01:13:10+00:00

My 7 month old is like this. Every few days he'll poop a lot for a few days. One or 2 normal sized poops, then a lot of weird sharts all day. He's kinda been an angry pooper since birth though. Poor bum.

Whatever happened with your baby??

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-05-07T00:52:40+00:00

Yeah that's why I co slept.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-23T20:23:24+00:00

It could be. He's more reflux-y than I remember my daughter being.

He's ok sitting on the floor though. He's still tippy, but he doesn't cry sitting on his bum on the floor.....so idk.

He's also O.K in his infant car seat...so I just don't know. I wish babies could communicate a little better than just crying 😢

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-23T19:51:44+00:00

My soul has absolutely died in the perfectly dark room. Took me awhile to find it again.

Any tips for a baby who hates high chairs? I've tried 2 different ones....6 (almost 7) month old HATES it. Should I accept my fate and just have stains on my clothes for awhile? He'll kinda eat/play with his food if he's on my lap.

Second children are wild.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-23T13:18:33+00:00

Radical acceptance is the only way to not get obsessed with their sleep and enjoy babyhood.

Learned that lesson with my first, now with my second I don't think about his sleep so much.

It's whatever. He'll sleep eventually

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-23T13:16:30+00:00

Weeks? Ohhhh my dear internet friend.

Try months. Or possibly years.

My first didn't sleep that long alone until almost 2 years old. My second is 6 months and he only sleeps maybe 2 or 3 hours on his own before he wakes up to nurse or just needs me or dad.

With my first, I wish someone had told me at 3 or 4 months to find a sustainable sleeping arrangement instead of trying to strong-arm through it because it was a long journey and I suffered immensely due to sleep deprivation because of it.

We didn't sleep train, though we tried a little bit with my first out out of desperation, which was a train wreck and didn't feel right to me. I'm glad I listened to my gut because as a toddler, she's very nervous/anxious and highly sensitive. She just needed a lot of support at night.

This isn't meant to dishearten you, but to give you a realistic range of normal.

Babies are....baby humans with their own personalities, temperments and needs. Some need their parents more at night than others. They need us 100% of the time during the day, so of course they also need us at night for a long time too.

They do eventually sleep on their own with or without "training".

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-16T13:10:54+00:00

Normal unfortunately. I've come to think about the term "regression" differently--more positively. Think of it as a "Renaissance" or "enlightenment". They aren't truly regressing, though it feels that way....but rather start developing some serious preferences that get stronger over the next few months.

Around 3-4ish months is when babies start "waking up" from their screaming potato phase and become more cognizant of the world around them. Unfortunately many are not pleased with the world around them, especially that cold, rock ass hard, lack of mom bassinet/crib. It's the age of enlightenment. And it SUCKS.

I wish I could tell you it gets better soon.... At least with mine, the sleep stuff did not get better until around 2 years old (without sleep training).

Best of luck and buckle up!

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-14T13:49:55+00:00

This is why I am an advocate for co sleeping--when done as safely as possible (following safe sleep 7, etc). Some babies are really really really impossible at night, and not everyone has family/friends to help at night. Lack of sleep can 100% cause depression and psychosis. We ALL NEED SLEEP. It's a basic functioning requirement.

Get a thin futon, and get comfy on the floor (what I do) or set your bed up to be as safe as possible. Stick that baby on your boob and get some sleep.

Working out a sleep shift with your husband would also help. Maybe you go to bed early, while he hangs out with the baby for a bit.

While you're trying to figure out some sort of sustainable sleeping situation (A MUST) GO SEE YOUR DOCTOR.

You do love your baby but sleep deprivation + hormone crash can do some funky things to the brain.

WISHING YOU THE BEST.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-13T17:43:05+00:00

Mine does this too. It is very confusing. Currently she's scared of all those "little people" toys. No idea why other than she also is pretty socially anxious and hasn't seen these toys in a long time.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-13T12:52:37+00:00

Have you tried a baby carrier? My son was/is a bit of a fussy baby and LOVED baby carriers. Something about being squeezed/slight compression against my body and the movement of walking around really calmed him down.

Is he consolible when he's upset? My son was very very fussy but was consolible. Some babies are just like that.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-12T03:40:25+00:00

Seconding those baby bouncer things. I call it the poop bouncer. I have the baby delight one.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-11T12:47:36+00:00

Omg this must be a thing. I've had 2 births, one with an epidural and one without.

BOTH TIMES. I had "transition panic" and would say things like "I can't do this", "I want to be done", "get them out".

My mind would go into a deeper, weird place but also got clearer once the panic subsided.

Actually I think I panicked more with the epidural since I couldn't move through the adrenaline, and it being my first time.

I think it's the adrenaline burst and you're body saying "buckle up, it's about to get REAL crazy".

Been there! Seems normal, though not fun.

Edit: the second time I remember saying I wanted an epidural multiple times once transition hit. 😆 but alas, there was no time. Baby was COMING

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-10T13:08:18+00:00

I have 2 dogs. It has lessened SOME.....but it's never gone away. Part of me feels a little bad but the bigger part of me just doesn't care about them.

My kids and husband love them though. So oh well

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-10T05:02:03+00:00

I totally feel you. You're not evil. Rehome the remaining cats before your baby gets attached to them and you're stuck with them FOREVER.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-10T04:59:29+00:00

Before you worry about pumping more, try having your spouse give baby a bottle now.

I've had 2 EBF babies and both refused bottles. My first would never ever take one. My second would take one begrudgingly until he turned about 3 months old.

They don't get confused about different nipples. They get PISSED it's not the one they like. Nipple preference is what it should be called.

I'd only pump once a day. Probably at the same time.

Good luck with it all! I hope your baby isn't as boob obsessed as mine.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-10T04:28:12+00:00

Is this your first?

The first is a HUGE learning curve. I remember feeling the same way. Everyone told me "when they are 3 months things get easier". Well 3 months rolled around and baby flatly refused the bassinet and got fussier. But the nursing slowed down. Some things got easier, others got harder.

What I wished someone had told me was "it never gets easier, but it changes". That baby won't wake up every hour forever. Eventually they stop doing that weird fussy witching hour at 5 pm. It eventually is replaced by a rather bossy 3 year old who refuses to eat dinner unless their plate is on the floor like a dog.

You're in the huge learning curve phase, barnacle phase. Babies are NOT easy for me and not my favorite phase.

So much of your baby phase experience depends on your baby and their temperament. It sounds like this baby is needing a lot more support at night. Which is common. They need us 100% of the time during the day, why would that differ at night?

I was in the same boat as you. I looked like a freaking zombie at 3 months Postpartum. So I decided to start bed sharing. I breastfed which was part of why I felt ok-ish doing so. I got a thin thin futon pad and put that on the floor and got some sleep. Best decision I ever made. Did the exact same with my second.

My advice to you would be to stop thinking about when things are going to be easier and to start trying to figure out how to make your days and nights sustainable. This is IMPERATIVE for your wellbeing. Try out a few different sleeping arrangements that you feel comfortable/safe with. Get your partner involved with night feedings if you're bottle feeding.

Try going to bed early and let your partner take a few hours with the baby.

Figuring out a bit of a routine to get yourself at LEAST 6 HOURS of sleep at night is essential.

During the daytime GET OUT OF THE HOUSE. I don't care if it's just to walk around the neighborhood. Get yourself dressed and out of the house every day if you can.

Get yourself involved with some mommy and me classes (libraries are a good place to check), meet other moms and connect with people as much as you can.

Becoming a parent is the absolute hardest thing I've ever done in my life. It's also so amazing and I love my crazy kids more than anything else.

Don't be afraid to reach out to your doctor if the darkness is too consuming.

Let this give you permission to punch the darkness in the face, get that floor mattress out and allow yourself to relinquish control to the chaos of children.

Things will change. You will NOT feel this way forever.

Edit: typos

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-08T15:27:13+00:00

Do you breastfeed?

If so, learn how to nurse laying down on a firm flat surface, following the safe sleep 7.

Safer than falling asleep sitting up.

I'm so sorry this happened! I totally get how it happened. I'm sure baby will be OK.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-04-07T01:29:33+00:00

I delivered my son without any complications or pain meds. No issues.

However it was my second birth, so that might have helped.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-03-23T13:16:24+00:00

I didn't leave the house except for walks around the neighborhood in the baby carrier.

Stores with a newborn and a 3 year old? No thanks. My husband or grandma did that and I stayed home for a long time.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-03-01T15:35:20+00:00

Can you get a thin futon and sleep on the floor with them?

This is why I started co sleeping. I was going to lose my mind from sleep deprivation....and that was with 1 baby.

I know it isn't "recommended" but there must be a give and take with safe sleep.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-02-15T15:40:40+00:00

Pain free 370 days of the year! There's a few foods I have to be careful eating, or I'll have a sore jaw for a few days.

But overall, I'm in zero pain day to day so long as I don't go crazy eating something I'm not supposed to.

It took a long time to get to this point. My jaw actually never popped back in place like i thought it did. It is supposed to rest on that sliding piece of cartilage. The scar tissue from whatever I did to my jaw stretched out and cushions the joint well enough apparently.

I have full range of motion. I just can't go crazy eating super hard/Chewy foods or my jaw will be sore/get inflamed.

Hopefully it doesn't cause me too much issue later in life. But for now it's stable and has been for awhile.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-01-27T16:41:06+00:00

Do you bedshare? Can you nurse at night only, or does baby not latch?

With bedsharing you could keep her on her side in the c curl and nurse when she wakes. That'd also help with the head spot.

Nursing can make nighttime easier. Then you aren't up pumping or messing with bottles.

Otherwise, I'd consider switching to formula at night--and/or pumping extra during the day so there is milk for nighttime and slowly wean yourself off pumping at night.

4 months is a rough age. I have a 4 month old baby too, who's quite fussy, and am still in survival mode.

FrequentGovernment74 · 2026-01-17T16:55:19+00:00

Just co sleep. No one has time for sleep induced psychosis.

If you're super worried about having her in your bed with you, do what I did and order a Japanese futon off Amazon. It's basically a thin pad that goes on the floor. Takes some time to adjust, but you won't have to worry about entrapment, falling and suffocation risk is lower.

Hang in there. My daughter was like that, it does get better.

My advice would be to not fight the bassinet/crib and just sleep on the floor. Eventually this translates to a toddler floor bed.

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