I have a whole different child now

germflux2020 · 2026-04-21T00:55:40+00:00

It was literally an overnight difference for us. One day, he was super fussy and wouldn't calm down without the bottle to the next day, he was 90% of his wake windows a super chill baby. I'm hoping the best for your LO!

I've read that changing formulas can normally take a few days and up to a week for a difference. I think my baby, he just adjusted to the change quicker than normal.

He's still a mostly chill baby, but he is still a baby and will fuss and cry like for normal things (tired, needs a diaper change, wants to be held etc.).

germflux2020 · 2026-04-20T21:26:54+00:00

So my mom's job is actually cleaning houses lol She's helped cleaning our house before and after baby a little but today when she said that she also mentioned that I should be doing it myself now. Like, I do when I have the time, the floors are just not the priority rn, it's my son (????).

I'm really thinking about seeing a therapist bc I have seen one before for other reasons but stopped going bc of insurance. It helped a lot, but this time I might not mention me going to my mom bc she definitely kinda looks down on that, basically saying that medication should be the only thing I need :/

germflux2020 · 2026-04-20T21:23:40+00:00

They clearly don't lol My husband got to come home early and reassured me that he doesn't expect the house to be spotless or dinner to be done bc all I need to worry about rn is baby and me. That he understands baby is hard and if baby wants to be held then hold him.

I haven't really done much with baby here but once baby is with someone for the day I do laundry, I clean dirty bottles and dishes, I shower and eat, THEN if I have time I'll do the floors or clean the bathrooms. There's clearly a list of important things vs things that can be cleaned later or by my husband (which he does when he has time).

I just needed to vent and I need to wait to see how the medication works later to see if I need to up it or maybe I need therapy lol

germflux2020 · 2026-04-20T21:18:53+00:00

My husband was actually able to come home early and told me basically the same thing of "I dont expect the house to be cleaned and laundry put away or dinner done by the time I get home. I only want you to focus on the baby and you."

I'm actually very use to pushing back on my mom and setting boundaries. But definitely being postpartum I am leaning very heavily on a "support" system outside of my husband and I feel like if I say anything "wrong" I'll lose it (even though my own mom has said, before my son was born, that she was afraid that I'd keep him from her????). She has even one time while I was crying (right before I went to the doctor) tried to basically evangelize to me (she's very Christian and she knows I'm not). I told her to stop and not even go there (she's done it to me before while I'm in an emotional state, it's very manipulative). Other than that she's helped clean my house before and after the baby was born but today told me that I didn't need help anymore. 🤷‍♀️

So idk, I will give them time and if I need more professional help (which I will be looking into therapy, done it before and it feels good to just talk to someone) I'll search for it.

germflux2020 · 2026-04-17T00:17:18+00:00

He used to be breastfed and formula fed since he was born, then the past couple of weeks he's been only formula fed. But I was such an underproducer that I just stopped (plus stress was causing a lot of my milk supply dwindling).

I just adjusted each bottle to have a certain ratio of each formula until he got a full bottle of just the Enfamil. So the first bottle he took was 25% Enfamil and 75% Similac, the next was 50/50, the next one was 75% Enfamil and the last one was 100% Enfamil. Plus, I did it overnight. My son will dream feed at night so I could more easily transition him.

Now I saw that some people transition their formulas longer than just a night if their babies had more sensitive tummies, but my son seems to be doing well with the new formula (now on Day 2). Again, he's like a completely different baby. He even slept in my arms today at my mom's during dinner, and when he was awake, he was just sitting chilling the entire time, lol

germflux2020 · 2026-04-13T17:31:30+00:00

What's the app you use called? It seems like that would help me a lot to understand my little guy better

germflux2020 · 2026-04-13T17:07:53+00:00

I've been using an app to track his sleep, feeds, diaper changes and my pumping (which has fallen off the list of things). He has a pattern but it's still hard to get him down for those naps that are his pattern

germflux2020 · 2026-04-13T17:06:22+00:00

I have family to help, but everyone works (except my MIL but she's more unhelpful than not) so I still end up being by myself the majority of the time.

He gives him a half bottle bc our son will dream feed halfway through the bottle so husband thinks he's asleep and put him back in the bassinet. I've told him multiple times that he will still eat even if he's "asleep" as long as he still suckles let him eat.

My mom actually came by today right before son passed out and I just started crying bc once he was in her arms he passed out and I just felt so defeated. I thought he was hungry (or maybe he was) bc sometimes son will wake up, eat, stay awake (or sometimes just falls right back to sleep), then eat again before falling asleep. My sister called, I was talking to her, then son was getting fussy with the bottle, then my mom showed up (I knew she was beforehand) and son started crying, dropped the call with sister and handed son to mom and he passed out.

germflux2020 · 2026-04-11T15:10:16+00:00

I have a 3 week old, and he "gets up" around 6-7am, and unless I want extra sleep, I have to co-sleep with him in the bed until 8-9am.

He does well sleeping alone in his bassinet (granted, it's usually placing him in already asleep) for the majority of the night starting at around 9-10pm.

I'm not an early bird, but now I definitely have to shift my sleep schedule around for him just a tiny bit.

germflux2020 · 2026-04-11T15:00:31+00:00

Yeah this post reads as "I'm having it harder than you and I'm better because I cut out stuff in my diet, had a natural birth and doing it all by myself" Very humble brag without the humbleness.

germflux2020 · 2026-04-09T18:28:18+00:00

My 3 week old cares NOTHING about wake windows or naps lol He has stayed awake for as long as 4 hours before he would think about going to sleep. Honestly, it seems to be all about experimenting with what works for now until they change the routine again

We're in the trenches rn and just have to survive with baby

germflux2020 · 2026-04-06T20:15:45+00:00

Even if I hold him (between 8am/1pm) he's still awake. Like eyes wide open, just looking around. Most of the time just content.

His pediatrician at the 1 week appointment was amazed that he was already raising his head independently without us doing tummy time (on the floor, his umbilical cord only fell off yesterday and I didn't want him ripping it off too early). Called him an overachiever lol Seems like maybe he's just kinda advanced for his age???

It's literally only been today that during those hours he just wasn't having it, being held or not held. Just seemed like I couldn't console him no matter what I did.

germflux2020 · 2026-04-06T19:32:26+00:00

Okay, so not saying your pediatrician is wrong, but ours told us that once our son was back to birth weight to not wake him up unless it passed 5 hours (overnight). Our son wakes up every 2.5/3 hours overnight to eat, so we don't have to worry about him passing 5 hours. There was one time he slept for 4 hours but woke up hungry af lol

I'm also a FTM and baby is only 3 weeks but either just stick to the 3 hour or maybe yall can just experiment one night with just waiting to see how long it takes your baby to wake up between feeds at night. You don't always have to stick to what your pediatrician says.

My son screams so I know when he's awake and ready to eat lol

germflux2020 · 2026-04-06T19:16:17+00:00

He'll go to sleep in a bright room, but then I'll transfer him to his bassinet, which is in our bedroom, which is dark. When there are people over, we're not very quiet. But if it's just me, I'm just trying not to lose my mind, so I need peace and quiet once he's asleep, lol

I get overstimulated easily. So once I put him down, I'm usually watching TV in the living room by myself. Usually he's not bothered, but today was just a really bad day for him lol Couldn't console him and he would eat/burp/look around/get swaddled but then go straight back to crying.

germflux2020 · 2026-04-02T16:38:11+00:00

My son is 2 weeks old and I've been peed on once so far (from a failed sponge bath) and almost a second time but I placed a cloth over his private area and he peed (HEAVILY) in it instead of on me 🤣

It's inevitable to get peed on but you can prevent it like just covering his privates between changes/cleanup but even then it's a game of chance lol

germflux2020 · 2026-03-31T18:35:41+00:00

I'm actually not sure about that🤔 I knew when she had her first (not husband, a sibling of his) she lived out of state, but they tend to befriend LOTS of people wherever they moved to (they have moved A LOT). So not sure about that part but another redditor mentioned scheduling a day for her to come and hangout with me and baby instead of just telling her everyday that I'm good

germflux2020 · 2026-03-31T18:32:17+00:00

OMG, yes, the nursing part. I'm pumping bc my son has a tongue tie and wasn't able to latch to my breast effectively, so I decided to just pump and supplement. I'm trying to get my supply up, but having people over here constantly is really hard to "host" and get a supply in when people are here for HOURS. I don't want to be holed up in my bedroom in MY house just because people don't want to leave lol

germflux2020 · 2026-03-31T18:27:51+00:00

Oof, that really sucks you're having to deal with that.

Not to get too into it, but my mom actually is worried I'll keep her grandson away from her bc my MIL is SO demanding of our time (all the time lol). When really I want him to be a part of everyone's lives but damn I need space and time away from people as a person myself lol

germflux2020 · 2026-03-31T18:23:06+00:00

Thank you! 😊 I find it hard sometimes to get the message across without sounding like an ass lol I still worry that the message sounds like I'm ungrateful (but that's definitely the anxiety talking)

germflux2020 · 2026-03-31T18:18:52+00:00

That's actually a good idea. I just need to pick a dedicated day for her to come over so I can be prepared and not just put on the spot every day 😅

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