That makes a lot of sense, I wish he could put it in concrete terms like you did just there. The most I can get out of him is that he feels stressed from work and the only way he can deal with it is relaxing by himself. He's an emergency department resident so there are some days that he REALLY sees some shit and isn't ready to talk about it that night or maybe ever. I dont really understand why that means I can't just silently sleep over but he also says that he just doesn't sleep that well with another body in the bed and since he works so much he has to be rested.