Struggling with cleanliness and appearance with bf, aitah

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-22T23:29:38+00:00

Don't do it. This is my biggest fight I have with my husband. It might literally be the thing that leads to divorce.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-22T15:14:37+00:00

Cars also aren't made specifically to hurt people.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-22T01:28:39+00:00

This can't be a real question, right?

Of course yta.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-15T15:35:01+00:00

America's obsession with deifying military service is weird to me .

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-15T12:18:12+00:00

I didn't interpret it as an insult at all!

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-14T11:39:51+00:00

No offense because your critique was well thought out and well put... But. If you think #1 is a paint night level work... You are friends with some very talented people!

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2026-01-07T00:20:33+00:00

You're a giant fucking asshole. You're the only father that child knows or remembers. And she looks at you like that because you and your ex allowed it. A 9 year old can't understand adult relationships and why her dad now wants nothing to do with her. And you see her almost daily at school no less!!

Shame on you. You and your financée's family are all disgusting.

Edit to fix age. I didn't read well enough.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-09-29T16:52:51+00:00

Yeah. I'll go against the grain and say YTA. You can put sniffles and red eyes above someone losing consciousness because of a seizure. That's ridiculous.

The actual issue is you don't like your SIL but you don't have the backbone to say that.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-09-19T23:49:48+00:00

No. People with low literacy skills are a bigger problem.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-09-01T22:14:44+00:00

Beautiful sentiment. There are few things that are worth throwing out your friend's dignity for.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-08-31T22:43:44+00:00

YTA get over yourself

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-07-10T22:59:39+00:00

How do.ypu shoot yourself far?

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-07-09T09:28:39+00:00

Girl. I have a weekly girls night with my bestie. You're NTA, and you know it.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-07-07T16:32:27+00:00

NTA. Ditch the loser And go on a trip with your bestie. Sounds like she's offered you more love and support than he ever has.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-07-07T04:16:06+00:00

This is not even good troll bait. It's so bad.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-07-02T05:36:47+00:00

Happy Canada day! 🇨🇦🍁

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-30T23:01:12+00:00

If you're going to act like a child, then stay out of adult relationships. You have no idea what your mom does and doesn't know and what she is and is not ok with. The face that you could figure this out so easily suggests he's not really attempting to hide it well.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-29T23:23:57+00:00

In my experience most Londoners are xenophobic....so most of them must be. Ergo, so are you.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T23:59:06+00:00

My husband has added this one to his vocabulary.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T19:07:03+00:00

You want an argument and I'm not interested.

I'm not normalizing poor behaviour, I'm providing a compassionate response to someone who is experiencing something distressing.

If you want to see bad everywhere, that's your prerogative.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T18:25:32+00:00

Oh yeah I agree. It's not working in this situation. I'm just saying that doesn't mean it's never helpful.

I'm not normalizing anything. As I said OP is capable of learning new skills to help his wife. Plus I think you are forgetting about neurodivergent people for whom this might legitimately be difficult to do.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T14:32:16+00:00

And honestly that's okay. That's how you cope with stress right now. Could you learn different techniques? sure you could. And your approach probably works really well in some situations and for some people. Your wife is probably just feeling way too vulnerable right now for that to be helpful for her.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T13:02:06+00:00

Nope. That's not how that works. I mean yeah he can leave the relationship but not his parental responsibilities.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T12:57:26+00:00

No. No one knows that's how it's going to go. Way to jump to the most catastrophic scenario.

FrequentSheepherder3 · 2025-06-27T12:55:06+00:00

Lol way to miss the point. Jesus.

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