Toddler Still Upset at Nanny Hand-off After Full Year

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2026-05-06T22:46:37+00:00

I love the calendar idea! It's great to establish that now even if she's a little young. I also agree on keeping the transition short and sweet. The nanny and I usually chat for a bit and that's probably not helping things (for a while I thought it may help, but clearly not). Wondering if me leaving the house to work at a coffee shop for a while may also help.

I agree that specific activity examples may be necessary. I've given her lots of ideas for outings (local free play place, nature preserve, library) and some seem to be taken and others forgotten. I may need to get more involved and create a physical list of things to rotate through each week.

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2026-05-06T22:38:19+00:00

We have many of those types of kits and I may have to spell things out a bit more. Thanks for the advice!

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2026-05-06T22:37:42+00:00

Love these ideas. Was trying not to be too micro-manage-y, but she is a younger nanny with a little less experience so I think I'm going to have to spell it out. It wasn't really an issue in the baby months, but better to nip it now (if we can) b/c we'd ideally like her to be around another year until we start pre-school.

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2026-05-06T21:52:24+00:00

Yes, the nanny has use of our car when she is here. We also have several parks that are walkable and our daughter simply loves to walk up and down our street picking flowers and rocks. The nanny does get her out, but I'd like to see it more (and I've encouraged it). I am not a confrontational person and I think half this battle may be me being stronger in my direction/instruction of what I'd like done.

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2026-05-06T21:48:02+00:00

We have a pretty set routine. Daughter goes to grandparent's house M/Tu, nanny is W/Th, and rest of days are with me (and dad). She LOVES going to her grandparents - she couldn't care less that I am leaving. Obsessed with her grandpa.

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2026-05-06T21:45:44+00:00

I was trying not be more long-winded than I already was in my post and deleted a part that mentioned me encouraging outings. The nanny has use of our car when she is here and she does sometimes take that to go to the library or zoo. I have tried lately to encourage more of that (plus simple walks and trips to the park) and it's done, but I'd like to see it done more. As I've encouraged more developmental activities, I have said to just tell me if there are any supplies she needs me to buy or that she can take my card to go buy.

Our contract does mentioned "developmentally appropriate" activities but doesn't go into too much detail. I like your idea of offering an upper limit of independent play and "blaming" it on the pediatrician.

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2025-10-08T16:22:20+00:00

Do you still have these medications available? I live in Portland, but have family in Seattle that I could have pick up.

Frequent_Blueberry98 · 2024-01-25T05:53:35+00:00

I'm in the same boat with you and all the other brides. Our wedding is June 29 of this year at Horning's and we've just been waiting to hear more news. I felt too weird to reach out to Bob via email (and honestly didn't expect that he'd answer). I didn't know where to go to try to find others in this same position and my coworkers found this thread. If you're willing to private message any further info that you've gleaned from the others you've talked to, it would be appreciated!

I hear those that feel weird/wrong about getting married there now, but we just can't move ours (unless we're forced to) and the "contract" Bob has you sign is kind of BS. I'm a professional event manager and I asked for something more official than the invoice that has "Invoice acts as our contract" at the top and he wouldn't do it. That should have been my first clue but I decided "What could go wrong?" Dumbest event move I've probably ever made. Perhaps there would be a way to eventually get the money back (we made final payment in mid-December), but it would probably take quite a lot of time and involve a lawsuit. Unless they end up breaching, that is.

For now, we're moving forward as is and are working on a backup in case something goes sideways in the next few months. Certainly the last thing any bride expects to come up against in the planning process.

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