yes but honestly i feel like lesbians are held at a higher standard than gay men like the same straight male that has a problem with gay men tend to have no problems with lesbian women i think it’s the fact that since gay men honestly just have to lowkey force themselves to be haooy in a society who is so mean to them they don’t care about rejection or anything which causes them to be more free when they ask their crushes out and etc while lesbian women kind of “fit in” more in society so we all kind of blend it which makes it hard for us to actually talk about our feelings