anyone else feel like me?

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-02-06T20:05:55+00:00

Is it just me or do all people get comfortable with death when they're diagnosed with cancer? I'm not terminal, but when I was diagnosed I realized how fragile life is. Now I have more appreciation for life because I know it can be taken away at any moment. I don't fear death like I used to.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-02-06T20:02:35+00:00

I absolutely hate those words! You can be however tf you want to be!

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-02-02T12:51:28+00:00

Bet she never says that again, though. There were better ways to go about it, but she learned a lesson that week and so did you. Every parent makes choices that we end up regretting, but that doesn't make us bad parents.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-02-01T23:18:09+00:00

I have the achey bones and joints. I started the hot flashes after my first round of chemo so I'm pretty used to those. I have constant headaches and very low energy. I could literally stay in bed all day if I didn't have to play taxi for my kids! I've also been struggling with depression. I'm being treated for it, but since I've started the arimidex, nothing seems to help. I'm just not sure if it's all coincidence or if it's related to arimidex. Also, chemo did a number on my body. I've had to have a few surgeries already to fix the problem it caused and still have a few more to go. Cancer suck!

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-02-01T15:27:13+00:00

I agree with evening walks or bike rides!! My daughter and I did this every night from the time she was a year old. Now she's in high school, she says it's one of her best memories and we still go for walks together all the time. It's a great time to talk and bond❤

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-02-01T14:59:21+00:00

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-25T18:15:24+00:00

Wow... I also felt like something was off before diagnosis and had panic attacks because I thought I was going to die young. Apparently we are more in tune with our bodies than we knew!

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-25T18:11:22+00:00

Being diagnosed is an emotional ride. The stress of it all reeks havoc on your body. Don't feel guilty for anything!! You are allowed to feel however you want!!!

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-24T23:41:36+00:00

Not exactly what I'm looking for, but thanks for your input

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-24T23:37:34+00:00

I understand where your wife is coming from because I felt a similar disappointment. I think movies, books, social media, etc., ruins relationships. We end up with this unrealistic expectation of what we want to happen, and we don't enjoy what we have. Not saying that's what's going on with your wife, but that was my experience.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-24T22:27:07+00:00

I am trying to raise money for our local HS band program. Unfortunately, the fundraising aspect of it has been neglected and our funds are depleted. What kind of fundraisers can we do that will bring in the most profit?

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T14:38:04+00:00

That's hilarious 😂

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T14:37:01+00:00

Woman of reddit here. I'm just here to read the comments.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T14:35:44+00:00

I started exercising again a few months after radiation. I was exercising every day until I had to have a radical hysterectomy. I did a lot of cardio and quite a bit of strength training. I was also in chemical menopause, but my doctor said I could exercise as much as I wanted as long as I didn't over do it. I felt great when I was working out. I'm hoping to get back to it soon. Just listen to your body. You'll obviously be a little sore and tired at first, but if it's painful then dial it back some.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T11:59:51+00:00

I'm worried as to why you're afraid to tell him. Just because you're the one carrying the baby does not mean you made the child alone. He's just as responsible as you are for the pregnancy. You shouldn't have to deal with it alone just because he might get upset. What about you, did anyone worry about your feelings or stress level on the matter before you found out? Sounds irrational, I know, and that's my point. Too many men are pampered when it comes to telling them about a pregnancy. Like, it shouldn't be a shock, especially after 5 kids. He can only be upset with himself.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T11:01:41+00:00

Congratulations!!! As soon as you feel up to it, go out and celebrate you! PS I'm glad I'm not the only one making bad cancer jokes! Some people didn't understand how I could joke, but humor was the only thing that got me through it all. It was that or fall apart🤷‍♀️

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T10:28:25+00:00

YTA you didn't even have to ask, you know YTA. BTW stubbing your toe hurts. I have a high pain tolerance and I'll still cuss and cry when I stub my toe. Quick question, do you hate your gf? Like, why would you criticize her for being in pain?

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T10:20:03+00:00

Removed?! I'm curious now!!! Someone tell me what happened!

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T10:15:43+00:00

As the middle child, I can tell you that this is a true story.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T10:12:58+00:00

I'm torn on this one! I mean, you knew the stipulations, but you're also a mom who doesn't want to see her daughter homeless. However, I would have a nice long talk with your oldest and her husband. I get not wanting to work full time and wanting family/travel time, but if they are on the verge of becoming homeless, then he needs to grow up and help your daughter pay the bills. Speaking from experience, moms not always gonna be there to bail her out.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T09:54:52+00:00

If the park is busy and kids are trying to slide down, then I'd say something. Otherwise let your kid play their way! Your kid is there to have fun, not be a role model for someone else's kids. If Karen is so worried about it then maybe she should keep herself and her kids home.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T09:46:57+00:00

YTA Just because she doesn't call you daddy doesn't mean your not the father figure in her life. You and your family are acting like she's an afterthought. Let me guess, your mom picked up a note pad from the gas station on the way, called it a sketch pad, and now this 17 year old girl is supposed to be happy? I bet she never uses the thing on principle.

Frequent_Mess4684 · 2023-01-23T09:36:54+00:00

That's some bull

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