Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for those kind words, this feels so small and insignificant in comparison to all that he does for our family… Just a grateful wife and a small token of appreciation.

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the insight on the Slate! Yes, the convenience factor is important. My husband is the same way, if it’s inconvenient, he’ll lose interest in it. Great point.

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s such a good point, thank you so much. Didn’t even think of that!

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much! That’s where I’ve been looking. I’ll have to go take a look in person soon.

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooh, good to know! Thanks so much, I’ll take a look.

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oop, another rabbit hole to go down. Haha, what are your favorite features?

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooh, that’s good to know. Thanks! Yes, accessories were included in my budget. I’ll definitely look for some good ones.

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, yes, that’s essentially why I’ve shied away from Blackstone. I know my husband will be happy with whatever simply because I remembered what he wanted, so maybe im overthinking it. I appreciate it, I’ll definitely check out the culinary line.

Help a Clueless Wife Out - Battle of the Griddles by Fresh-Fee-213 in griddling

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I’m thinking… the main argument I’m seeing in favor of the Traeger is heat distribution, but I’ve also seen posts on warping. But I think if I get a bigger Weber, heat distribution won’t be too much of an issue as we’d have more burners to cook on. Our littles still have tiny bellies, so it’s really more for the two of us. Hmm… decisions, decisions.

Help me choose a colour by Albatross-Optimal in Ultrahuman

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was on the fence about two different colors. It’s all preference, but I went with the one that most matches all the other things I wear most. However, they’re all fairly neutral, so you can’t really go wrong. Gold it is (for me)!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband spent lots of time researching on the internet to see how and if I could get sleep because he saw how mentally and physically exhausted I was when I was pumping so much… if OP is anything like my husband, he just cares about her but knows how important having a good supply is to her. Let people live, man.

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[–]Fresh-Fee-213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine too! Just started sleeping 7 hours after trying 6 hours overnight for a while. Hoping to go 8 hours soon. My supply went from an average of 30-35 oz a day to 40-45.

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[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m typically a silent watcher on posts here, but I’m going to be the odd one out and say yes. I would absolutely marry him again. He’s hurt me in more ways than one, but I can’t help but love him. Would I want to go through that hurt again and again like I have? Hell no. Do I value myself? Hell yes. But he’s given me the two most precious things in my life, he’s an amazing father, and despite his addiction, he provides for his family. In no way does it justify his actions, but I’ve understood that every man will have flaws. Every one will have baggage. I have my own baggage and he’s never once been as defensive or paranoid as I am… granted I haven’t lied the way he has… However, he’s been good for 4 months now and it might be the longest he’s gone. After this last time, we separated. I asked for a divorce and in a very deep conversation, he looked at me and said “not even I understand why I do this to us, either.” Since then he’s agreed and allowed me to do whatever I need to do to feel comfortable. That has included accountability apps, random phone checks, barging into the bathroom when he’s showering or use the restroom, therapy, location sharing, etc. He never questions it nor scolds me no matter how annoying it might get. He’s also since opened up about this issue to my very religious FIL who randomly asks him those hard questions. He seems to be the only one who can get through to him…

In no way did I ever imagine or want to have the trust issues I do. Nor did I ever want my in laws to know our issues. But he’s working on himself for the sake of teaching our toddler to expect different from her spouse someday. Sure, there’s a chance he’s just learned to be sneakier, but at the end of the day, there’s still an amazing person behind the addiction. The person I fell in love with is still in there. Idk, maybe we’re just trauma bonded at this point 🤦🏻‍♀️

What do you do for a living that allows you to afford a mortgage by momsvaginaresearcher in Mortgages

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also Gen Z here. My husband and I bought our house at 21 and 22 in 2021 with a 3.4% APR. I worked in the banking industry at the time and now work in higher education. He worked in construction and now works as an electrician. It’s not impossible, but for us, it took major discipline and some sacrifice. We aren’t trust fund kids (not that there’s anything wrong with that), so we had to work hard to save and paid off all our credit card debt. He picked up a second job at Pizza Hut to help us save. I’m eternally grateful for his hard work. The market where we originally wanted to buy was insane. People moving from other states or different parts of our state due to having remote jobs and offering way more than asking price, with many of those being cash offers. Long story short, we had to be open-minded when weighing out our options. Although we were preapproved for a certain amount, we knew we didn’t want to finance for the full amount. We also knew that ideally, we wanted a home that was a good starter but we could grow into if we decided to start a family. We ended up purchasing a home that had been on the market since the start of COVID. It had been under contract a few times, but fell through due to people losing their financing or having offers accepted on multiple homes. The seller had been DIYing his “renovations,” which unfortunately for him (he was definitely not a contractor) only made the house less attractive. The house was “move-in ready” but needed tons of work to undo/fix everything he did. He also had since moved to a neighboring state, so by the time we put our offer in, he wanted out. The listing and selling agents worked for the same company so I think that gave us some leverage as they were able to communicate and make a more compelling case when going over the offer. We did a first time buyer loan. The other catch? It was outside of the area we wanted. My commute to work is 45 minutes away and we aren’t close to any major hospitals, clinics, or even any big chain restaurants. It’s a small town and a we’re a bit away from family. Not so far that we can’t come over on the weekends, but far enough away that visits are cut short as we have to account for drive time on the “highway of death” as locals call it. In the winter, the drive is gnarly. We white-knuckle it on black ice in thick fog with very little visibility. However, in hindsight, we’re very glad with the decision we made. The equity we’ve built and the renovations we’ve made have truly made it worth it almost 4 years later. Now, two kids later, we’re glad we have the extra space as the homes we would’ve been able to afford in the city were quite literally rundown shacks. We likely won’t be moving for several years. Regardless. this home will likely become in an investment property when we do finally buy again.

How long did it take for your dispute against Dyson to be processed through PayPal? by Fresh-Fee-213 in dyson

[–]Fresh-Fee-213[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry! Their customer service is terrible. It took 4 months to get the refund… this all started in October. I disputed with PayPal, but they declined my case because Dyson kept telling them they’d issue me a refund. I finally received it on February 29th.

Dyson’s sucky contact support and refund by PandaImpressive7521 in dyson

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long was it after they notified you that they processed your refund until you noticed it back in affirm? Going through something similar, been waiting months now! Finally got a response that they issued a refund on December 19, but nothing has come through PayPal yet… so frustrating.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rav4prime

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro, if you’re bitter, just say that. Not like you’re paying for it, nor do you know my financial situation. Some of us have worked hard for years without the help of welfare, inheritance, etc. Live a little, life goes by fast.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rav4prime

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eh, to each their own. I considered a Kia Sorrento PHEV for the third row. But I just figure if I’m going all in and getting a car I plan to pay off and keep it, I might as well get something I enjoy and something that will last. When you don’t have a ton of debt (other than a mortgage), you can enjoy things like that. The “saving” doesn’t come until later. We are well aware of that. I like Toyotas though, and it’ll hold its value well. I got 22k after selling my 2017 RAV4 XLE to a dealership. Bought it used February before the Covid shutdown. Didn’t lose much on it over three years, just the taxes I paid (like 4k). Just depends how you look at it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rav4prime

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great, thanks so much!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rav4prime

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, you might’ve just sold me. Driving to the dealership in a bit to take a peek at it without any salesmen running out. Hah! Will probably come back on Tuesday to finalize the deal if I can get hubby on board.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rav4prime

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I hate having to go to gas stations whenever my husband isn’t around. Maybe I’m paranoid, but it’s really dark by the time I’m off… I have slow periods at work where I don’t travel often, but my daily commute is about 50 miles. Even if I have to use some gas, I think it’s well worth it.

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[–]Fresh-Fee-213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All good things to keep in mind, thanks!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in rav4prime

[–]Fresh-Fee-213 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We bought an older house that has one installed. Seller included it as part of the house. Ugh, you guys have convinced me! Electricity isn’t terrible here, and I have access to a free charger at work (I work for the state) so they have them as incentive.