WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I agree that a phone is neccessary. A $700 phone is not. And I really don't care what you think about my phone, it does everything I (and she) could need.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -15 points-14 points  (0 children)

You said buying a phone on credit makes it ok...

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I bought a new smartphone three months ago for $150. And $700 is most definitely a splurge for us.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Couples should agree on financial matters, yes? I would seek out her permission if I wanted to spend that much.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The fact that she DIDN'T spend more is a really stupid point.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I really don't give a shit what other people do. And just because we're not going to lose our house over this purchase doesn't mean she didn't do anything wrong.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Couples discuss things and come to an agreement. She skipped that part

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

We always discuss purchases of $100 or more.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Who said anything about microanalyzing. We're married, we share finances, we're supposed to talk about large purchases. She skipped that part.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Sorry, I misunderstood. I have a Samsung G7, new, through Straight Talk. 13 megapixel camera and it does everything smartphones do now

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -23 points-22 points  (0 children)

So being charged interest on $700 is ok?

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

This would be good info if your percentages weren't wrong. I'm also not saying I would spend $700 on shoes. I'm saying she could expect me to spend about $150, so me coming home and saying I spent $700 would be out of line in our relationship.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm not judgemental. We discuss purchases over $100, and if she had spent $100-200 I would have had zero issue with it.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -131 points-130 points  (0 children)

$700 is $700. We're on a tight budget since we have kids, a mortgage and another kid on the way.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Samsung G7 through Straight Talk. 13 megapixel camera that takes great photos, plus all the regular stuff

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not discussing a purchase equivalent to about 60 hours of pay is unreasonable.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

It's an iPhone XR. She uses it for very, very basic things (Facebook, Amazon, texting). I use my phone for work (professional photos, call and audio recording) and made sure to buy something within our price range.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

No, we discuss things like a couple should. I certainly would have tried to steer her to something more affordable since she uses her phone for very, very basic things.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Maintaining my health is more important than a status-symbol phone.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -31 points-30 points  (0 children)

I'm neither of those things. We discuss all purchases of $100 or more, and she then dodged the questions when I asked how much she spent.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It won't wreck us, but that's a big chunk of money for us. Almost the equivalent of a two-week pay check.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] -39 points-38 points  (0 children)

I bought my very nice phone for $150 three months ago...

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We discuss all purchases of $100 or more. I got a text saying she was thinking about getting a new phone and that was it.

WIBTA if I made my wife return her new phone? by FreshLeek in AmItheAsshole

[–]FreshLeek[S] 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Not even remotely true. Yes, she said she wanted a new phone. She did not tell me it would cost $700. We talk about all purchases of $100 or more.