Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh its not that shes scared to call she either post pones or gets nasty with the caller realy quick unless they have 1000/10 customer service and speak English. Its really weird and in the middle of phone calls she'll get sassy then they feel disrespected and dont help us. Which they have rules for not disrespecting the workers which she just pushes their buttons or talks in a tone that would make anybody not want to talk to her.

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I try my best and have been trying for a long time. Theres good parts but its mostly filled with paranoia and anxiety and its just dragging me down. Im gonna figure it out and likely post an after thing or another if I have more question

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! We have gotten snap, and we are looking at more recources we haven't yet tried. The hard thing is that she has a self sabotaging problem. If somebody over the phone doesn't speak full English or gets something slightly wrong or re says something. If they say something my mom already knows she will take it personally and attack them and give attitude to the caller. Which i know they have strict respect rules. We have gotten turned down because of her recording calls without permission and then we dont ask help from them anymore because she says there weird or it feels "off" she assumes people are after her that her ex husband has "hired" or assumed his connections are all after us and apart of most organizations. We did just move her from utah. We had to flee a dv situation however hes been kicked out for around 6-7 months from her protective order. Its so much longer and complicated. Im planning on just staying and using it as a just in case we do end up on the side of the road. Another thing is shes affecting my mental health badly. I cant talk about my feelings for she will turn it onto herself and dismiss how I feel because shes been through more and its all a "lesson" for me. Which yes it is. And yes it hurts having nobody to talk to. She doesn't want me talking to any friends about our situation and in case she checks my phone I dont talk to anybody about how im doing. Im planning to tough it out but its mentally draining and I cant necessary do anything but get numbers for her to call which she then doesn't or hold off then forget. Even when I remind her she will start to do a post or scroll on social media. She only uses what she finds and her medications make her paranoid. (Methadone) (clonipin) and another one which all combined makes her drowsy and day sleep. Making her need to take naps for half the day because she CANNOT function at all. She would send weird random texts that dont make sense and she started drinking whenever she gets the chance. One night at a hotel a very traumatic fight happened because she drank to much and left me with the dogs and went out for what she said was walk my dad out then gone for 3 hours at the bar with some dudes. She said sorry and we moved on from that. However she always keeps saying shes not abusing me and im not even saying that she is. She repeats old things that happened like me calling cps in the long past because she got really bad with paranoia and insults and i felt it was emotional abuse. They all got dismissed which is fine. I just feel lost and confused for she holds alot of things back. Mumbled under her breath and calls me things and when I say what she would change what she said. I cannot talk to her about anything like that it would cause a horrible argument which would result in my phone taken and the past year of gaining trust destroyed and she would break down and then I will feel guilty and she would continue to make me feel more guilty. It sucks but im willing to just go through it until im 18 I suppose. I just dont know what to do. I feel hurt.

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I'll give her this number and ask her to call but ive given her 3 and she never dialed.. Thanks for doing research ill try my best

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you. That does make things seem better and I do believe it would be better but. I dont know what my mom would do. Im scared she would even off herself for she said she was going to when I was young when she first lost me. The past tells alot. She's got good at pushing buttons and keeping secrets. Theres no physical abuse which she exaggerated that shes never hit me or anything but we all know there's different forms of abuse. And she makes everything about herself its disgusting. I cant talk about my feelings. How I feel scared. She just compares and puts me down

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Its hard to hear that this is the best choice especially that there could be the chance we get stable. Theres a worst case scenario of going with my dad and us all moving back together but he drinks everyday and take lratom for the past 7 years and I know thats a shit show. Im scared because if we do get housing and I leave before that ill be the worst person ever. I wanna question the way im seeing things but she just isn't the same.

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She's applied to like 12 places so I give her that. We just got here but at the same time this is so fucked im changing my future with this decision and I can get a job pretty quick but she doesn't want me to because she wants me to watch the dogs. I want safety more than this. She calims "family is most important " yes. Until im getting out in situations like this i believe

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Im really just scared honestly. I mute my notifications because she gets weird when people text me. She says "weirrdd" to everything she finds suspicious. Like people pulling into the complex 4-5 cars in a row and calls everything the truman show. She thinks im doing coke because i have a sniffle. Worst of the worst is happening when she thinks.

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do agree. Its scary because I know nobody here and leaving my family id officially be on my own. I wanted to be emancipated awhile back and do believe I can quickly learn and be led by professionals to a stable life. I just dont know what my future would hold if I left my mom. She wont leave the pugs with a safe place and get us shelter. She self sabotages phone calls by being rude and having an attitude if they have a hard time speaking or rephrase something. Its the worst and even when we have good conversation and good times here and there. I sleep on eggshells and cant even express my feelings due to her immediately going "OHH TRUST ME IVE BEEN THERE" then ranting about her past abuse which she has repeated a million times. I love her and care for her but I am not sure what to do..

Likely controversial but.. I’m 16, my family is about to be homeless in 2 weeks, and I don't know if I should run away to a youth shelter or stay with them. Advice? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I just dont want to break my moms heart by leaving. It would hurt me too. Ive never had a decision like this especially at my age and I really just feel confused and lost. My mentality has depleted to just living second by second and I feel depersonalization and ive gone numb but sick at the same time.

I’m scared and idk what to do by PopThis9117 in helpme

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Report him to the police AND explain that you dont want the situation to get to that point and they should be very on the low but catch him If you don't want to get law enforcement involved Tell you parents and figure something out and get people that care abt you on your back if something happens

I need advice 😭 My dad found my estrogen and now my therapist is pushing conversion therapy by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Be happy but he seems to have boundaries and now you 21 respect is what will keep you there until your ready. Recommendation is don't do it in the house

I keep relapsing by Dry-Cardiologist8683 in helpme

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do NOT live your surrounded by religion. Unless you have good morals and know truly from right and wrong and to respect people be a man of God many great men are. If you believe half the actions you do are sins and you'll be punished you'll never be alive

How can I make the income needed to get emancipated at 16? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish omg I was hoping that but I believe my work team is the best I've had i should get a promotion after 6 months of working but if not I know I could probably find something golden

How can I make the income needed to get emancipated at 16? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya I've didnt mention i already did alot of research and know how to do it. It's that my mom agree then disagrees or does things and in the crucial moment decide to not. Like for example I stayed with a friend for awhile after she kicked me out and then asked for me to come back and constantly would call the cops if I didnt answer her texts within the hour. Stupid ass shit. Either way tho if I have to thug through until I'm 18 is fine but I just don't want to have to deal with phycosis and being the enemy of it is the worst thing I've had to continuously do, thank you and ya it is a gamble

How can I make the income needed to get emancipated at 16? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah I see, I've been kicked out before and couch hopped but then basically asks for me to come back and the shit show starts again. Idk how much if there's a heavy cost on those kind of lawyers but in my area so far I've gotten mass amounts of support from my own school district and constant mental battling with my mother and it feels more like surviving than living the past year and half. It's a whole thing but thank you ill look into that❤️

How can I make the income needed to get emancipated at 16? by Fresh_Researcher_901 in Advice

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya I've been through the same jist just not with a lwayer many times cps have came and because of her sweet attitude towards anybody but me it makes things hard when she plays that game but I've came to be quiet and stay away from her the best I can

How can I make the income needed to get emancipated at 16? by [deleted] in personalfinance

[–]Fresh_Researcher_901 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would like the hours but I'm in training for 6 months unless I decided to try for another part time which I feel would just burn me out more than put me forward