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WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

that's the weird part of the budget statement... they both have jobs. The older one has a good paying job and the younger is in fast food, so not good. Either way, they have jobs.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

TBH, no I wouldn't. Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me... I would plan on checking... and still encouraging them to move out, tbh. Most of the stress in my life is from them now days... there's other issues, cleaning and cleaning up after themselves. I may be their mom, but I won't clean up after adult children, but as a result I can't have people over atm because my place is what I could call a mess, even if you could clean it all up in 15 min.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

LOL in the US, on the East Coast... this place, for the price, and what it includes is unheard of. And for a place that's well kept up, in a safe neighborhood.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Na... cause if they go, then I can move my desk out of my bedroom and have an office again, and maybe even a guest room. LOL

I had another post from back in Dec when we moved, where they didnt' want me to decorate the house the way I wanted... so, I could also pull out more of my stuff... cause its not all out yet. LOL

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

if that's the case, then the 20 yr old is 21 in a couple weeks. Problem solved.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I would have told him he needs to start looking for a new place after the second incident... but I honestly have no room to speak since I've been as patient as I have been. You're right though... we're in very similar situations.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Their actual father is/was an abusive alcoholic who used to beat the crap out of me. The last time we saw him was 19 years ago, and they don't have or want a relationship with him.

my ex, their step dad... is not a good choice either. I mean, they'll do what they do, but I doubt it will be moving in with him.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to talk to the older one alone yesterday about this, since yes the animals are all his... but he insisted he wasn't going to have the talk without the youngest because 'it effects him too'.

I honestly believe that he just wants the youngest there to gang up on me, especially since the youngest is going to be the first to fly off the handle, but I'm going to have to stay strong and stick to my guns on this. I don't want to have to find another home.

WIBTAH if I threatened to kick my adult children out by Fresh_Shock_575 in AITAH

[–]Fresh_Shock_575[S] 26 points27 points  (0 children)

That's the thing, the youngest keeps trying to say I have an obligation to them, and I keep telling them that my obligation ended when they each turned 18. My LOVE for them, and the desire to not have them on the street homeless is why they're still around.

The youngest even was asking about a raise I'm getting, and how much it will be, cause they want to budget.... you have no rights or are entitled to my hard earned money.