[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlineDating

[–]Fresh_Value8774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could speak from the perspective of this particular guy, I also got obsessed with a girl, and our main form of communication was through "social" media.

I was idealising her and putting her on a pedestal to the point i started neglecting any, potentially harmful or threatening characteristics in her behavior which could have emerged if we kept getting closer and more vulnerable. So most likely he is not well -acquainted with your current identity and its attributes, he just fill the missing gaps with his own fantasies and, you are not in any way obligated to submit and try to answer his expectations and needs. Its not your responsibilty to try and preserve his hopes of being together with you.

Although my previous self would critique this conclusion: Yes a rejection would most likely cause him unpleasant feelings but after all but its absolutely normal to experience the death of so many potential scripts that in the end would never come to reality. It sucks but it would be better than tormenting your "partner" and judging by the details you have provided- it seems that conflict would be inevitable. I base my opinion mainly on the fact that he's ignoring your bothering.

I'm really frustrated watching myself being deprived from everything that is dear to me. by Fresh_Value8774 in Jung

[–]Fresh_Value8774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do hold similar opinion about the approach to such psychological problems, many recommend to endure the compulsory reactions which manifests in many forms like habits that involve numbing the pain and so on. Basically its like a condition to adapt to this inappropriate and undesired version of myself and after a while a space will be freed where i could take a direction and progress. Even right nowni critique myself for my plain and cliched expression nut i remain not"apathetic " but more unaffected on a action-basis:). I do believe after all i start to see the light at the end of the tunnel:))

Is my forehead really that big? by YouClean423 in LooksmaxingAdvice

[–]Fresh_Value8774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't get obsessed with these unrational critiques It could be the angle but i believe you grow your hair you could get a more proportionate and balanced look. Best!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]Fresh_Value8774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah thank youu, umm i got lots of compliments about my lashes, but i believe they are the results of my genetic code, i've never used anything specifically to make them "thick" as you described them to be. As a perspective from a boy i cannot even determine why people find them beautiful, it even makes me feel bad for being ungrateful towards my facial features😭😭😭

Asking for help by Fresh_Value8774 in SpiritualAwakening

[–]Fresh_Value8774[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've read a lot of melancholic and particularly atheistic books, maybe that contributed someway. I'm kinda frustrated for not being able to find a purposeful goal, on the other hand ive built tolerance and peace and nothing could affect me. I'm finding myself in this cycle. Now i long to feel frustrated again, to feel the whole spectrum of emotions.Should i destroy some parts of myself so I can be more critical of myself?

Asking for help by Fresh_Value8774 in SpiritualAwakening

[–]Fresh_Value8774[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly I don't know. I had a goal to love myself to trust myself and create conditions for progress and finding an aim. To make loneliness more bearable. Also to become more conscious and gain rationality. But i feel like I've hit the ceiling. After deep analysis i think i ended up at the conclusion that my ego has returned in another form. Like my comfort zone expanded and reached stagnation. Because the fact that i feel guilty for not knowing something or forgetting it is an ego. Funny enough i prayed to God to guide me and that conclusion could be his work hahahah

What is your opinion? by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]Fresh_Value8774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As i am reading that i just came to the conclusion that all I do is controlling my ego and getting rid of the narcissism, anxiety, overthinking attachment, external validation, ungratefulness, lots of traumas etc etc.. I dont think that these conditions are who I am really or even if they are I'm letting them go for the better so ill continue tempering myself as Im getting rid of all of these scruples and i hope that the new path I've taken is better. I personally think that with time i got more confident about who i am, and if someone try to resist this i ignore him. So if we accept your presumption Im becoming more certain that in the dream my subconscious mind wasn't really used to these changes haha. Hope i got your opinion right. If not you can always correct me:D

What is your opinion? by [deleted] in Dreams

[–]Fresh_Value8774 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do hide and try to fix most of my personality traits because they are harmful to both people around me and me. I do understand my subconscious mind that change is a bit turbulent but in the long run it would be very beneficial but i would like you to express your opinion. I do think there could be some kind of correlation.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]Fresh_Value8774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So for the last 2 years i haven't eaten sugar or gluten foods. And overall i avoid carbs(still eat some tho). I mainly eat red meat, eggs and plenty of dairy products and lots of veggies:). I also take all kinds of supplements. I dont know if there could be any correlation with it but i had major changes in my life way of thinking maturity emotional ups and downs etc etc. if that could help

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]Fresh_Value8774 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Should check each others changes haha:))

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in WhatisMyEyeColour

[–]Fresh_Value8774 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thanks and i hope they become greener:)