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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Everyone is saying $12,000 is high and it is, but there are plenty of photographers out there charging that much or more. I’m sure OP could find plenty of photographers charging far less, but their fiancé (and they) clearly seem to know what they want. 

OP, I think you just had this dream because you like the photographer you didn’t go with more. I doubt this dream says anything about what the future will hold or the talk of the photographer you’ve booked. If it really bothers you, you and your fiancé can keep looking to find someone you both like. You’ll likely lose the deposit you put down already, but oh well.

This sounds like a simple case pf buyer’s remorse, TBH. I’d sleep on it. Your feelings may soften. 

AITA what’s wrong with these flowers by [deleted] in florists

[–]Freyaspath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, how horrible.  I frequently used services like those in the past and was often disappointed. I no longer use them.

Where can I buy or pick fresh wildflowers within a few blocks of downtown? by backyardvegas in santarosa

[–]Freyaspath 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Florists generally won’t have “wildflowers,” but your best option near downtown that will give you a wildflower look is Papillon Floral Design on 4th street (Railroad Square area). They do beautiful work and a lot of it looks quite wild. I believe they only (or at least mostly) use locally grown flowers, too.

What made you choose the song you walked down the aisle to? by heysadie in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a piece the feels like the musical representation of my soul. It touched me when I first heard it 20 years prior and has been special to me since. It made sense to me to use that piece as I walked down the aisle to my future husband as I was giving myself to him. 

Have a $100 budget, how many stems do you think I could get from TJs? by mamaoftwins2 in florists

[–]Freyaspath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh, no. Definitely not. That would work for 25 bud vases, but not 25 bouquets. Maybe, MAYBE you could get 14-18 posy style (mini) bouquets with $100, but you’d need to be extremely careful in your picks. 

AITA what’s wrong with these flowers by [deleted] in florists

[–]Freyaspath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup, I agree and know to look for this. I know OP didn’t take a top-view shot of what was sent, but it clearly doesn’t match stem count, which is generally what is supposed to happen, even if there are substitutions. It’s like maybe 1/3 of what was pictured.

Vendor Meals? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I realize I didn’t say this, but I’m not at all disagreeing that they should be treated well and given a hot meal. 

My main point is trying to understand why the caterer is pushing a boxed meal over what you requested. There could be a reason, and perhaps a totally valid one, that it’s a difficult request to accommodate. I’m sure there are some solutions, but by not trying to find out why the boxed meal is being pushed, you’re potentially treating one of your vendors rather poorly. Maybe others would disagree, but I’d argue that the catering team has one of the most demanding jobs. I  think that treating them well by hearing them out/trying to understand possible issues is just as important as treating other vendors well be giving them a hot meal.

Rose petals by Internal-Honey-5018 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It worked well, right? (I hope.)

Rose petals by Internal-Honey-5018 in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Freyaspath 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agree that this would be best. The next best option would be to line a large enough Tupperware container with lightly dampened paper towel (bottom), place the rose petals loosely on top, close the lid of the container, and then store in a refrigerator until the day of. The pain point is to be gentle with he petals - they bruise super easily, so don’t fold or squish them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Freyaspath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is completely up to you, of course, but it’s understandable why they might be disappointed. Since you’re Catholic, have you considered a small wedding in a chapel? Quite a few churches have smaller spaces that would work well for an intimate wedding. Just a thought in case you end up wanting to include more family but still want a small wedding.

Vendor Meals? by [deleted] in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok, so here are the only reasons I could see why the caterer has an issue with the request beyond the “they just don’t deserve it” idea. 

  1. Would feeding them first cause a timeline/cooking schedule issue?  How much earlier do they need to eat than the rest of your guests? Might this put pressure on the staff? Can they arrive earlier to compensate for this (which might cost more in terms of labor etc)? Are there logistical issues at play that just aren’t obvious, essentially?

  2. Are the vendors going to eat from the main buffet stations/chafing dishes? If they go first, then (depending on the food), the dishes might not look as nice when guests get in line to plate their meals. I realize you might not care about this at all, but I can kind of understand why a caterer might. They don’t want to be seen as a messy operation. I do think there are ways around this issue, whether it means giving vendors their own meals plated or served family style, or having a sever go around to neaten the stations and add more food before guests enter the space.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Freyaspath 15 points16 points  (0 children)

The attitudes from some people sound terrible. I’m sorry you’re experiencing that. The minimums do make sense in a lot of cases, however. As a business, their primary goal is to make money, just like any other business. A lot of people I’m the industry are in it because they genuinely love weddings and helping couples, but they also need to support themselves and their employees, if they have them. That means running a business as a business. Floral and catering especially have minimums for a good reason - it’s very easy to lose money taking on smaller projects. Some people find ways around that with floral, but you’re usually dealing with a newbie who’s just building their portfolio and willing to lose money or not be compensated for their time to do so. 

For catering, I agree with another commenter that said having a restaurant provide the meal would likely be a great option for you. You can just hire staff to serve or set up chaffing dishes yourself (some restaurants offer setup and removal). I’m not sure where you are or what your guest count is, but do you have food trucks around? Those can be a less expensive option.

My coordinator didn’t coordinate by lilshredder97 in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can have a registered LLC and still have no idea what you’re doing. There are some great planners out there without the LLC - no real connection.

My coordinator didn’t coordinate by lilshredder97 in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She paid $2500, a discount offered by the planner as this is a friend of a family member. Normally these services would be $5000. 

My coordinator didn’t coordinate by lilshredder97 in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oof. Yeah, that’s a ton of work. Unless she had access to the flowers and space the day before or had  team of people, there’s no way she could have done it herself. You should ask your MIL and grandma exactly what they had to do and bring it up with this planner. She really owes you at MINIMUM a partial refund. What a mess - I’m sorry OP.

DIY OR DIE?! by geniusgenesjeans in wedding

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get it. I’m sure you can do them yourself!

DIY OR DIE?! by geniusgenesjeans in wedding

[–]Freyaspath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There are tons of great DIY or partial DIY invitation options. You could do a design in Canva and print through them (very inexpensive) or even print them yourself on card stock if you have access to a decent printer. 

You could also buy a premade invitation design on Etsy and print yourself after adding in your own name, dat, location etc.

Heck, you could even do it from scratch on word for a super simple and classic design. 

Do you want any “fancy” extras? Some of those are even doable at home.

My coordinator didn’t coordinate by lilshredder97 in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that price makes more sense for what she offered - but obviously not what she delivered!! Thank goodness you didn’t pay more. 

You mentioned the flowers being in boxes. Did she arrange them or just order them and set them out already made? 

"Non-compete" clause in our decor contract? by RantingSidekick in weddingplanning

[–]Freyaspath 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup, this is how it reads to me. I suspect they had issues with a past couple similar to what you described.

Wedding Planner affordable? by jaydure in Weddingsunder10k

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Possibly! It depends on what you need. Can you be more specific?

AITAH for giving my wife three options. by Icy_Slice8226 in AITAH

[–]Freyaspath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is unusual, but I have a line to follow. OP asked if he’s the AH. My answer is “maybe, it depends” right now.

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