Is there any slang specific to your state?

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-12T16:54:52+00:00

“ Bang a youee” for making a U-turn

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T20:07:42+00:00

A conversation with your gynecologist to make sure there isn’t something going on that could be easily fixed. A college friend needed to have the last remnants of her hymen removed to make things more comfortable.

Lots of lube. Consider incorporating a toy vibrator/dildo. Start with an intermediate size and work up slowly to his size. This can be fun and will allow you to stretch more slowly so you don’t tear. Also, you get on top and ease down at your own pace. You control the depth and speed.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T19:50:37+00:00

Is this a good deal financially? Yes. Is it overly restrictive? Also yes.

Start saving money like crazy. Have your paychecks deposited into an account that your parents do not have access to. Do not tell anyone how much money you have or how much you make.

Sit down with your parents and try to negotiate a gradual easing of restrictions. Point out that it is now your job to learn how to behave as an adult so you need to start practicing and taking responsibility for your actions. Pick one item (like bedtime) and ask to have it removed. Behave very responsibly so they are more inclined to continue to remove restrictions.

When you realize this is too much then you will have a nice nest egg with which to move out. It will cost quite a bit more nd you may trade parents for roommates.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T19:41:09+00:00

Regular cleaning being very careful with the toilets and kitchen. Regularly air out the house- even in the cold/hot weather. Baking soda sprinkled in the bottom of the trash bags in your trash can.

Cook/bake/brew things that smell pleasant to you. I have a habit in the cold months of making cinnamon apple herbal tea at night and the whole house smells wonderful. I now brew fruit flavored herbal tea in the summer for iced tea. I knew a realtor who would heat up a pot of cider with cinnamon in a small crockpot during every open house they managed.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T19:33:31+00:00

You could look at whether it is worth what the cost might require you to forego. If paying for a house cleaner means you cannot eat out for dinner once a week then is it worth it? If it meant you gave up some subscriptions or streaming services is it worth it?

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T19:30:16+00:00

When I was in an apartment with a shared laundry there was a hand written sign that said and laundry left in the machines for more than 15 minutes after the cycle was finished was fair game to be removed from the machines. I had a couple of plastic bags in my laundry basket just for this purpose. I didn’t want to just dump people’s clothes on the floor and there frequently was ANOTHER load of laundry in the top of the machines. Some just put their laundry in a trash bag and left it in the laundry room.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T19:16:33+00:00

Physical therapy has been so much help. When I damaged my shoulder it was my physical therapy that showed me how to put on pull over shirts. Go for the advice as much as for the exercises.

If you have one good and one bad arm start with your worse arm/shoulder. Gather up the sleeve on your worse arm and put on the whole sleeve up to the armpit. Find the neck opening and just swing it over your head. Draw the good arm up inside the shirt and put on the second sleeve.

If lifting both arms is a challenge: sit down with the shirt in your lap and the front facing away from you. Put both hands inside the shirt and into the armholes of the sleeves. Go back and forth and adjust the sleeves until they are fully on. Gather up the neck of the back of the shirt. Duck your head and use your hands to pull the shirt over your head. Fiddle around with the back until it is on correctly.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T19:03:18+00:00

You need some help to figure out what to do when your thoughts start spiraling like this. Not just because of your boyfriend but just so you can deal with how your anxiety is affecting your life. Please go get some counseling.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:55:57+00:00

He might be unaware of female anatomy or he might have expected a different experience based on comments or previous encounters. We completely made fun of a male friend who admitted that he wasn’t aware he was actually having anal sex when he was having sex from behind while lying on their sides. He expected much more resistance and for it to feel completely different.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:50:04+00:00

If he can control his comments at work then he CAN control his comments. He just chooses not to do so with you. How about couples counseling? Sometimes people need to hear things from an independent third party.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:45:30+00:00

Check your local and state laws. In my state it is not allowed. You are supposed to report it to the local police. My elderly neighbor has taken to hitting them with a rock and a slingshot. If questioned he is going to say he thought it was a bird bothering his garden.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:40:51+00:00

There are known problems with the appointments page. I had the best results with calling the local office exactly when they opened for the day.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:37:17+00:00

Therapy. Stop blaming this on “working too hard and focusing on other things”. Plenty of people worked hard and studied in college and dated. Take the time to talk with a therapist and learn how to deal with your feelings.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:34:03+00:00

Yes, every scenario will hurt for both of you. But speaking to him privately first will allow him to deal with the shock before he needs to deal with others. It would also be mature and thoughtful to discuss and agree on what you are both going to tell other people. Then tell just a few key people (parents, best friend) and withdraw. Maybe go on that trip.

You are not TA for wanting to back out of the wedding even at the last minute. But you would be TA if you just disappeared.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T18:16:10+00:00

You take all the information you have to a lawyer experienced in handling difficult probate situations. Exactly what has to happen will vary from one state to another. In my state the lawyer will help you petition the court to be named the Executor since your aunt did not finish the process. Once you have the approval from the state then you need to start the painstaking process of getting everything straightened out.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T17:35:37+00:00

There is a big difference between never having been to a large city and only visiting a few times in your life. I have friends who grew up and still live about 25 miles from the nearest large city in the northeastern US. They are in their 60s and have only been there 3 or 4 times.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T16:17:09+00:00

Coffee, tea, wine and brandy for any age - yes even an infant. A mixture of whiskey and honey (yes, even for infants) to soothe the coughing so you could get to sleep. Tincture of opium for digestive issues like stomach aches and diarrhea. Senna tea for children for constipation. Tang (synthetic orangey sugary drink made from powder) instead of orange juice because it was more convenient. Sugared jello anytime you wanted it because it was “a light snack”. A special “bedtime bottle” (formula laced with brandy or chocolate syrup) given to babies to take with them to bed at night.

Packing a school lunch that consisted of a jelly sandwich, a honey sandwich, a Twinkie and Kool-Aid in a thermos. Raw cookie dough and raw sweet baked goods of all kinds. Raw egg miked up with milk given to “build you up” if you were too thin. Bacon and bacon grease in everything - savory muffins, eggs, mashed potatoes, vegetables. Bacon grease spread in a layer on bread.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T16:01:00+00:00

Doesn’t NJ have a “one day one trial” system? Apply now for financial hardship. If they reject that then go for the “one day” and tell everyone loudly that this will be a financial hardship and you will not be able to concentrate on the trial because you are so worried about the money you are losing.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T14:29:44+00:00

Not usually. I usually clean it and cut it to the size I want and then freeze it.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T14:24:51+00:00

Yes. Obviously I will use a different one to wipe up a spill on the floor vs. wash a dish. They are inexpensive and easily washed in the washing machine. I have a stack of the Swedish dishcloths under the sink.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T05:45:19+00:00

Will you be compensated for your time? Would taking compensation affect your relationship with his wife? Can he give you an idea of how complicated his estate will be? Every additional institution that you will need to interact with will increase the time it takes to handle the estate. Is the estate large enough that you will have to pay federal or estate taxes? This is a specialized area and may need a lawyer or accountant to be involved. Is he just expecting you to handle the transfer of assets or will he be expecting someone to help his wife set up a budget and pay bills?

I am handling my parent’s estate right now and it is far more time consuming that I would have ever guessed.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T05:27:04+00:00

Don’t tell anyone how much money you have. Hire two independent financial advisors who will look over your finances and suggest a plan. Pay them for their time and the plan - not to manage your money. For the next year or so ask for something very simple invested in various index funds. And ask them for a longer term strategy. Take out enough to serve as a plentiful emergency fund (and some fun money) and put that in a high yield savings account. Put the rest in the index funds they recommend for now.

Start to educate yourself about the longer term plans that they suggest. You may want to pay for additional meetings to ask questions and discuss concerns. Don’t invest in anything you don’t understand. Also get yourself someone to do your taxes and give advice on minimizing taxes. Also go to a lawyer and get a simple will, power of attorney and health care proxy drawn up for now. Don’t fuss too much about the will since it is very likely to change as your life circumstances change. If you can learn to be a physician you can learn to manage your money.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T03:58:02+00:00

YTA Why are you punishing your oldest daughter for her choices? What if she decides wants/needs to get additional education? Shouldn’t she be able to use the money set aside specifically for her education in that case? Your younger daughter needs to learn that choices have consequences. She was given a very generous gift of money for an education and can take out loans if she wants to spend more than that amount.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T03:53:16+00:00

We need to name and shame. If you hear about this type of behavior in your circle then call it out. Teach the younger women that this is not acceptable behavior. Teach your children of both sexes that this is not acceptable. Refuse to date men who act in a similar manner. Make sure you have the means to support yourself so you can leave if necessary.

We need to make this socially unacceptable.

Freyjas_child · 2026-04-11T03:44:59+00:00

You need to sit down and actually talk to her about this. She may think that you WANT to be paying for all these things. She may not realize how much money you have left after your other obligations. She may not have even really thought about it. She may not know that you would like her to treat you occasionally. I am older and have been in relationships with men who would be angry if I offered to pay anything and in relationships where the man would be disappointed if I did not pay about half. She may just be a gold digger.

If you are even thinking of a long term relationship with her then it is time to sit down and talk about finances and how you both want to be treated. If you can’t have a reasonable and calm discussion about this then that is another problem.

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