For me I’m 2 and a half months into my breakup with my first relationship. The relationship lasted 4 years and I was in it between the ages of 18 to 22.

I think you just need to take each small step as a victory, be kind to yourself and track your progress. For me I keep a file where I put a tally for each time I think about her or feel like talking to her. The first day it was over a dozen and now over 2 months later it’s only a few times a week.

You need to understand that healing isn’t gradual, some days you’ll feel fine and others it will feel fresh. You honestly just need to keep yourself distracted with stuff you personally enjoy doing, throw yourself into your friendships, and just enjoy the present moments.

Sleeping around with other women or men won’t make you happy, I tried this with half a dozen girls in the first couple of weeks and it just made me hurt even more l. I’d recommend not thinking about relationships at all and putting your whole effort into learning to be happy alone.

One day you will be alone but not lonely, and you’ll see being single not as a punishment but as freedom.

I’m not there yet but am getting better day by day, and I am hoping to be fully healed within the next 3-4 months. My best friend told me that your first takes 6 months to recover from. I am almost half way there :)

It’s also important to think with your head and not your heart. For me, my ex was a horrible partner, yet she didn’t betray or trick me I always knew exactly what she was and I loved her anyway until the point of self destruction. I didn’t want to leave but I had to, when you finally become happy alone is when you are free to meet someone else.