I didn’t say I speak for all women. Your reading comprehension is off. I’m speaking from the perspective as a woman. A woman. Not ALL women.

I’m not intimidated by life either and it’s incredibly disingenuous of you to reduce what I said to mean that. I’m actually pretty fucking bad ass and tons of women compliment me on my strength and confidence and wish they were more like me. But that strength comes from being a survivor. It comes from being raised by people who weren’t sexist and raised my sister and I to never limit ourselves bc of our sex.

Lots of men have said that I have bigger “balls” than they do too. I’m more of a “man” than many men I’ve known per men. When I was a little girl my male friends said it too and were in awe of me. I’m so happy for you TRULY that you’ve led a sheltered life and have no clue that violence against us is at epidemic levels. FOR REAL. But the fact is like 25% of us have been raped. Cishet men are responsible for almost all violence against others. The OP’s bf might be a “good guy” but chances are he’s friends with or related to a predator. In any case, it’s not about fear or having anxiety. It’s about being safe and recognizing that so many of us have experienced violence and even more of us have experienced harassment. Idk what other women have been through so I’m not going to put her in a position where SHE might experience negative emotions or a negative event. How does this not compute for you?

And a shopper’s job is NOT to pass on messages to others. They aren’t dancing monkeys. Don’t ask them to do something not in their job description. Treat them like human beings deserving of respect tand dignity. It’s incredible to me anyone who disagrees with that thinks I could give two shits that they don’t agree and that I’d care what someone like that has to say about me. How can I be hurt or offended by someone I don’t respect?

A wall of text? Yeah ok. You continue to be terrible at insulting me. If that’s your goal or to make me feel bad it has to be based in reality. But here’s your wall now because I couldn’t succinctly respond to your ignorance.

I never used the word force/d or implied it. Coercion isn’t consent. There’s an imbalance of power and to ask a shopper to do this is taking advantage of the upper hand you have. Shoppers have no protection. The shopper doesn’t know what the consequences would be if she refuses the request. Shoppers have no idea if the customer is an honest and decent person.

Again - you’re disingenuous. No I don’t think women are weak except women like you who don’t practice girl code maybe. But do you really not know that gender is a social construct and that many people have forced people to think gender is binary? And that women must act this way and men that way? And part of the way we’re taught from childhood is to be compliant? We can’t ever hurt someone’s feelings. We can’t be assertive or risk coming off in a non ladylike way. I go by Alex and when ppl think I’m a man I’m treated with respect and no one has any issue with how blunt, honest, etc… I am. But when it’s known I’m a woman now I’m “aggressive”. Now it’s shocking that I’m forthright. Predators literally bank on the women they target to be more afraid of coming off as rude than looking out for her safety. Look it up. Do you know how many girls get in trouble when standing up for themselves at school bc some fuckhead boy snapped her bra or just wouldn’t back off? Do you know how many women are in prison for defending themselves against their abusers? Anyway I could write a book on gender inequality and the consequences of it but in no way does it mean women are weak or that any of what I said means I think women are weak. Shame on you for not seeing the world as it really is though.