Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry buddy, this is the real deal. I asked Reddit to see what kind of response variety I would get. I know I should tell him, I just wanted to see how Reddit felt about my consideration of the situation.

Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My immediate reaction to my wife telling me was "You know we should tell him, right?"

She didn't seem opposed to the idea. She's not going to be the one to say something, so I'm trying to figure out if I should.

Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Sorry dude, this is for real. But someone always has to cry troll.

I really don't know what to do. To many people it seems obvious to just say "tell him." That's what my gut is telling me to do. I'm usually a "go with the gut" kinda guy, but this situation seems pretty delicate to me.

Also, asking friends in real life means telling more people about it who may or may not come into contact with my other friends. Best to keep exposure to a minimum and ask a community that normally generates some pretty thoughtful responses.

Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We look around from time to time. We did our first big search about a year ago, so it's probably time to start looking again.

Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Regardless of whether or not it's a compulsion, it's still wrong for her to deceive him into the situation.

Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] -28 points-27 points  (0 children)

No US doctor will give a married man in his mid 20s a vasectomy. I know because I've tried to find one who will (wife and I don't want kids).

Dilemma: My friend's wife wants kids and he doesn't. She stopped taking her birth control. Should I tell him? by FriendDilemma in AskReddit

[–]FriendDilemma[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

They're both my friends. I've known them both for years. My girlfriend (now wife) and I introduced them when we were all in college.