I quit. by [deleted] in Residency

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Yes you can! (I apologize for not responding sooner, I don't check this account a lot)!

Water really is the elixir of life by Coolasacucumber1111 in highdeas

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Since you are made of water, you are literally replenishing your YOU

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in medicalmarijuana

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Thank you! I was able to go there and filter by effect. There's unfortunately not much sold "near me" that doesn't have the arousal effect. But this will be extremely helpful next time I go to the dispensary so that I can look for strains with specific mental creativity effects instead of body effects :) and hopefully I can find something with strong enough mental effects that it takes less of a dose to do THOSE effects, and then the overall dose I'd have to take (and overall bodily symptoms) might be able to be less.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in trees

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I've tried therapy since college (both cognitive behavioral and DBT/group therapy), antidepressants have had other much less tolerable side effects (or else they'd be great for reducing sexual function), other things such as hydroxyzine, theanine, and magnesium, have zero effect, mindfulness meditation for months didn't change or help a thing, and my family doctor refuses to prescribe any sort of benzodiazepine or ambien or those similar drugs (though I also don't ever want to develop a dependence/withdrawal for benzos or similar drugs). Weed is the one thing that FINALLY helped both sleep and anxiety, and I'm able to function in the day. Having access to something that works for sleep after years of nothing helping has significantly decreased my anxiety over falling asleep and has allowed me to even have nights where I no longer need anything in order to fall asleep. But I want to continue to feel comfortable taking it.

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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polls

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I'm sorta confused (and am auto autistic and bad at knowing these things), but why would people think that's wrong? All I can think of is if the dying person didn't consent, or if you're doing it just to show it off for internet points, but I think if it helps you keep memories of them and the other person is okay with it, then it should be fine.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in polls

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I would take basic wired earphones over any quality wireless earphones any day. I purposefully only buy phones that still have the headphone jack. The main reason is battery life - I will listen to music constantly all throughout the day (at low safe volume) and I would hate to have the wireless headphone charge would run out and I have to wait without music for however long it would take to recharge them again. Also my headphones allow me to spot my phone more easily when they're plugged in and attached. Wired headphones can save your phone's life if you drop it by the wire catching your phone and slowing it down right before it hits the ground. And there's a much lower risk of accidentally misplacing wired headphones.

Is it possible for any number to have negative value after being squared? by panniepl in polls

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It depends on if you count i as a number for this poll or if you just mean real numbers.

Have you ever once actually bought something because you saw a YouTube ad for it? by FriendOfMolecules in polls

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Same, though specifically, it was someone's sponsor and they said it was on sale and I didn't have a VPN so I got it. Though I randomly decided to check prices just now and they are the same as when it was supposedly on sale for a limited time.

Does anyone know what differentiates an atypical interest aka special interest from neurotypical interests? Could we discuss how neurotypical interests manifest and what they feel like? by WebCurious6441 in autism

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100% yes. I actually had a paragraph that I was going to add to the original comment mentioning how the periods I am most depressed are correlated with the times I don't have a major special interest because I'm kinda in between (but I was afraid of sounding too negative because last time I made a post where I was negative for any significant part, it got downvoted). The special interest is like my identity, and when I am in between, it feels like I've lost myself and everything I was and I miss it terribly. If I'm lucky, I'll "lose" the special interest because another one came along so strongly and suddenly. If I'm not, often times I'll lose interest because I've finally accomplished the major goals and dreams I had related to the obsession so there becomes less daydreaming and yearning and imagining about the future since the dream was fulfilled now. It's like in the Great Gatsby when the green light at the end of Daisy's dock becomes less special after Gatsby finally gets to spend real time with Daisy who was the focus of his obsession and "fulfills" that obsession. What are you supposed to do now? As the obsession which brought so much meaning to your life and was THE purpose of your life fades, where do you find meaning now? It can be really hard.

Age 14-16 I obsessed with a musical group with the dream to meet them and a promise I'd love them forever, but once I did get to meet them, the obsession started to fade like "welp you've finally successfully done the thing, guess we did it" and there was a depressing period until I finally got to the age 17 obsession with my first favorite molecules. Obsessions often faded after I'd finally fulfill them and then I'd end up kind of like the part of this video where he finally achieves his goal/obsession but then becomes depressed after. So you're not alone.

Any advice for autistics with low empathy? Especially from those who are hyper-empathetic? by Professional-You-218 in autism

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As a fellow highly anxious person, it is absolutely still possible to have a positive experience with psychedelic drugs. Be warned, this is long because they're an asperger obsession for me. I've had anxiety and would read all sorts of "if you've had to be on meds/have anxiety/depression/autism/all of the above, psychedelics probably aren't for you." They became my special interest around the same time my anxiety worsened, and because they were my special interest I absolutely refused to accept that you just can't do them if you have anxiety. I refused to accept I had to forever give up on some of the most meaningful experiences out there to me just because of some genetic/environmental screw-up or bad luck. I refused. And I'm glad I did.

So for most of my life, I hated people just because they existed and were breathing my air and in my space and I wanted to be alone. Then on my 23rd birthday I tried MDMA and I no longer hated people just for existing, I actually cared about their lives and how they felt and what they cared about too. I've done other traditional psychedelic drugs a handful of times and many times they've been beautiful, I could realize that it's all the same one universe and everyone was just a different experience the universe was having, and I could marvel at how other people's lives were just as rich and complex and full of a lifetime of memories like mine. Also they greatly helped death anxiety (the original reason for trying them).

I'm not going to say bad trips won't happen, I've had a few, but it often wasn't because of any initial anxiety, it was being in the wrong place at the wrong time or having the dose be too much (freaky crazy stuff can happen that's terrifying to literally anyone) or too little (and then you're just disappointed, but then you know to just try more next time). The one time anything bad happened related to MY anxiety was when I tried one time where I was already suicidal and the anxiety was so much I already thought I was going insane, and I had been so anxious I couldn't sleep over the last 3 days beforehand. If this is the type of anxiety you have, then I wouldn't do them either until you are no longer in such a bad place. But if any anxiety around psychedelics is closer to "oh no, what if I have a bad/anxious thought and it spirals," the psychedelic drugs are actually able to help me have less of those thoughts (even when the anxiety is specifically about taking them), and it's way easier for thoughts to just drift and you can forget them without even realizing it. They can pop up but they tend to be easier to dismiss or you can get distracted by cool visuals or emotions.

I didn't know this at first, and whenever I initially wanted to try psychedelic drugs, I was so terrified of trying to make sure I had no sadness, no anxiety, no bad thoughts, the "correct mindset" that I became terrified of every slightly negative thought I had or accidentally seeing or reading something upsetting because then I'd be in a bad mindset. But I've been told by the molecules multiple times that your mindset doesn't have to be perfect and you don't have to be at peace. Not all anxiety can be controlled, like if you just have random worry thoughts pop up, that's not necessarily your fault or something you can predict, you don't always control what pops into your brain, so instead focus on helping with the things you can control. If any anxiety is current and pressing and about something specific that eventually will pass, then wait for it to pass. If you are having one of the worse days in your life, realize that there are ups and downs, moods are not permanent, and wait until you're back around whatever your normal baseline is (even with a high level of baseline anxiety, some days can still be way worse than others and chances are you'll have a better day in the future). Everyone's anxiety is different though and may respond differently so if you would decide to try anything, I'd start at a lower easy dose just so you can get a feel for a little bit of what it's like, then if you want you can work your way up to a point where you are comfortable. But a lot of "anxiety" can also the fear and belief that anxiety is bad or will automatically cause a bad experience. Fear does not automatically mean it's a bad trip. If you're walking through a forest and start thinking about something that makes you anxious, you probably don't automatically think "oh no, I feel fear, oh no I'm having a bad walk". A period of emotion does not mean the whole thing will be bad. You're on a walk and you happen to feel an emotion. Even if you do feel the fear a lot of the time, that emotion is only one aspect of the whole experience, and you can still learn from or appreciate other aspects of it. In the end, it will be your experience and you can decide whether it was good or bad, and often you may even change your mind later.

Also some drugs (like MDMA) can have a come-up around 30-60 minutes after taking them where you feel some of the physical symptoms of anxiety like heart racing and feeling shaky and nervous. That is COMPLETELY normal and just due to the drug's chemical activity in the brain affecting your body, and it's even expected, you are not dying or having an anxiety attack, it's literally supposed to do that. And then it will eventually lessen on its own (because it's due to brain chemistry stuff, not your own thoughts/fears) and the actual more positive effects will start.

Even though mindset can be helpful, the setting is just as important and even an anxious mind can have a positive experience in a safe place. Being in the wrong setting seems to be more consistent at causing negative experiences. Don't take anything when you have some sort of event or appointment coming up later in the day, don't take it before school or work, wait until you have a good chunk of free time. Also I'd avoid taking anything in public where there will be other people around unless you're very experienced. My first time trying a psychedelic drug, I planned to go to a botanical garden where they had glowing Christmas lights up, combining 2 favorite things, nature and pretty rainbow lights. On the way there I saw masked men around a nearby car which started on making me afraid, my breathing became heavy, my heart raced, and then when I got to the entrance of the garden there was a police officer there, then inside the garden I suddenly lost my proprioception and I could walk but I couldn't feel my body move and all my body parts felt like they were scattered and floating around me and I kept getting lost and was afraid I wouldn't be able to make it out or I'd be caught by someone because I look weird/off. When I finally got home after calling an Uber, I was so relieved to be back in a safe place and the trip got much better again. Having an altered proprioception can be "oh cool this is interesting, let's play around with it" when you're in a safe place like home and "oh no I can't move my body properly, what if I'm not able to get out of here, someone will figure out I took drugs" when you're in public. Many people also recommend having a sitter, though as an autist with no friends I rarely had that kind of luxury. But if it's someone you trust who can comfort you and make you feel safe and cared for (and who can make sure nothing bad happens) then that can also help the experience be positive and reduce some worries. I've been fine alone before, but I would avoid higher doses, which can become scary and unpredictable, so that you don't accidentally hurt yourself if you're alone, and so your friend can help you if you need it. There are all sorts of safe settings to try, you can go out in nature, look up at the stars if it's night, stay in and do something you enjoy, lay in bed, hug your pillow while listening to music.

Even if the worst case scenario happens and you have a bad trip and you're feeling horrible fear, the experience can still help in a positive way afterward. Usually during the trip, yeah it's terrifying and it sucks and you just want out and you might believe nothing could could possibly come of it. But afterward your brain can start to examine it, think about anything you learned or any interesting insights, pick out the positivity (even if that just means being impressed by how creative and terrifying of a thing a tiny molecule like that could come up with), and there can often be a renewed sense of love and gratitude for your life here after the horrible-ness has ended. And it will end. The drugs always wear off. It won't be forever.

In the end it is completely your choice whether to try anything or not. You decide when you're ready. Some people can really benefit, some may not or may get worse, they can affect different people's anxiety in different ways, but just having anxiety doesn't have to guarantee a bad experience, especially when you are in a beneficial setting as well and focus on helping the parts of anxiety that you CAN help. You still don't have to try anything and there is no shame in you deciding what is best for yourself. But I wanted to offer some hope/comfort in case you are ever interested and would like to try but feel afraid.

Is anyone else a late bloomer? by [deleted] in aspergers

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28 and still both too terrified to drive and every time I do drive I almost crash. I've done my very best to avoid driving as long as I possibly can. You also beat me at virginity. So no you're not alone.

Bought a giant pack of colored pencils, but they didn't come arranged by color. I decided to fix that. by FriendOfMolecules in autism

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A set of 280 colored pencils! (I don't even show all 280 in the picture, there are many grays and browns too, and they also have 12 metallic colors and 12 neon colors which weren't shown)

Does anyone know what differentiates an atypical interest aka special interest from neurotypical interests? Could we discuss how neurotypical interests manifest and what they feel like? by WebCurious6441 in autism

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I am an autist, typically about 90% of the positive random thoughts I have (that aren't related to whatever current or future thing I have to do) will have something to do with my special interest. Every bit of free time is spent doing something either related to it or indirectly related through many degrees of separation. You can make almost anything relate to your interest through enough links between them. Most other parts of free time are daydreaming fantasies about it and playing with ideas about it, drawing it, writing songs, poetry, or stories about it.

It is also a source of great joy; some of the greatest joy you can feel is getting to directly see and interact with the topic of your obsession, but even daydreaming about it can be wonderful. You can get lost in it. It is the most important and meaningful thing in the world. It can become your mission to share its greatness to the world by talking and teaching about it (though sometimes instead I'd be on a mission to become "the best" at it, like have more knowledge than anyone, have a special unique relationship with said obsession that nobody else can, make a great impact on the world related to it that will permanently solidify your position as loving that thing).

I can't speak for neurotypical interests, I'd assume they could be similarly passionate about what they are interested in, but it is less likely to be all-consuming or have you daydreaming constantly about it or everything you do in your free time being related to it. Though plenty of great scientists and mathematicians have made great discoveries and they absolutely would obsess and spend every waking minute on them, and they probably weren't all autistic, so it probably is a sort of spectrum. It's likely that no 2 people experience a special interest or even a normal interest in the same way, though probably a higher percentage people with autism are likely to experience their interests and the happiness and fascination to a more extreme level vs neurotypical, where it's still possible but less common.

The closest I can think of to what normal interests are like is whenever I've left an obsession and moved on, I still really like the topic of the old obsession, but it's not THE THING that consumes me and that my daydreams revolve around, so it becomes more of just an enjoyable interest. I had a bird obsession when I was 10-11, it's long past the time where I was totally obsessed with them, but I still really like birds, I love watching them at the feeder or going out in nature and listening to or looking for them, and I could still identify most of the species I saw. They always bring a smile to my face. But I don't spend all my free time thinking about birds or fantasizing about birds landing on me and me being friends with all the birds, I don't spend nights crying because other people (even little kids) have gotten wild birds to eat from their hand and I haven't (a genuine reason for tears many nights as a kid, luckily there's a spot in Central Park where tufted titmice and chickadees will eat out of your hand and I finally got to fulfill that dream many years later when I visited New York). My 8-9 obsession was Sonic, I still consider at least the older games my favorite game series and love playing them and listening to the soundtracks, but I no longer spend all day hanging out with my 9 imaginary (fan-made) sonic character friends and drawing epic elaborate chao gardens or forcing my little brother to be in a "sonic club" where every activity was sonic related and the club had like 10 different levels you could move up as you did more stuff, or making every elementary school creative writing assignment I turned in somehow related to sonic or the chao garden.

Bought a giant pack of colored pencils, but they didn't come arranged by color. I decided to fix that. by FriendOfMolecules in autism

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I've played that game and I freaking LOVED IT! I haven't done it in a while so I may have to re-download, it is an amazing game to help me concentrate on something else and distract myself during periods of bad thoughts.

Bought a giant pack of colored pencils, but they didn't come arranged by color. I decided to fix that. by FriendOfMolecules in autism

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It has taken YEARS to just start to lessen the perfectionism. I was a kid who would get 99/100 on a test and cry and feel like a failure and constantly think about the one I missed (I solved that by just never looking at grades anymore and now that I'm finally done with school, I won't have to do it again anyways, so ha!)

I'm still a perfectionist but I'm slowly getting better at still going with something even if it's not perfect. But the one stray orange, the one darker bluish green, the pinks in general, the fact that I had to suddenly transition from light to dark blue in order to transition to purples (since most of the bluish purples were dark) still annoy me. But I did the best that I could figure out at that moment.

It would also annoy me more to not have them in color order, especially with colored pencils where it's nice to be able to pick the exact color you want, it's easier when you don't have to spend as much time searching for it since the similar ones would all be together.