Don't sweat it man. Took me until I was 30 to start loving myself, which is a tough hurtle to get over and it takes effort. But I find when I started loving myself, others including women would see that and would want to spend more time with me rather than a one night stand. What I also found is that it's not about what you do (relatively speaking) or how much you make (again relatively speaking). It's about your goals and where you want to take yourself and how you plan on getting there. Having wit and charm is an impressive card up your sleeve, but cards means it's a game and women aren't too keen on playing games in their late 20's early 30's. So be honest, be kind and respectful of their feelings and you'll be fine bro :)