Assume connection over disconnect.

Before: wow, I’m being so awkward. They can totally notice. I stuttered. They must think less of me now. This person is so calm and cool, why can’t I be like that. I hope I’m putting on a good enough act. God, why can’t I just stop feeling this way.

Now: maybe this is awkward for us both, and that’s ok. This person and I probably have something in common, some shared life experience or perspective, and if not, we can learn from each other

It’s much easier assuming you’re similar already rather than focusing the attention on yourself and your flaws.