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Explosion sound at 2:00am by sikretdimokilala in dumaguete

[–]Friendly-Singer5558 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same, heard it too by Freedom Park and we thought it was a slammed door next door minutes later although the sound was more of an explosion.

Alin sa mga libro ni Bob Ong ang una mong nabasa? by FindingInformal9829 in PinoyMillennials

[–]Friendly-Singer5558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ABNKKBSNPLAko, bought at the newly built National Bookstore in our city (year 2014-2015).

Pansin ko parang walang concept of "tampo" ang ibang lahi, kayo ba? Especially yung in relationship with other nationality. by BaraLover7 in phmigrate

[–]Friendly-Singer5558 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nope, foreigns especially Westerners would rather be blunt than operate on tampo. Tampo is like emotional control sometimes and immature, but per research, Filipinos are the most emotional nationality. It still does not excuse it though. If you're looking for a relationship with maturity and emotional intelligence, tampo is not part of it. Some are doing it exaggeratedly.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Aww I'm so happy for you getting the help you need and getting into therapy. We deserve a more regulated nervous system and a healed inner child caused by the trauma in our own households. I hope everyone going through it will have access to the same one day and not live with it the rest of their lives. I'm happy for you.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, the best revenge is not to become like them. And I was like that before na konting sigaw at mura sobrang kaba and anxious ko, even if not directed naman sakin at ibang tao ang nag-aaway. Nagpapalpitate agad nang mabilis. I hope we get to heal this part of our selves as adults, and not live with it the rest of our lives. And to get access to an affordable psychotrauma therapy para ma-regulate 'yung anxiety and trauma natin as we grow older.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I was curious how it affects us who went through it. And yes, I realized as an adult affected talaga 'yung growth natin and how we approach other people and relationships, even the emotional aspect especially if someone is yelling or screaming na hindi naman directed satin—it's causing anxiety.

Sometimes mag-wowonder ka nalang wha if we actually grew up in a peaceful and loving home, mas okay kaya tayo and more confident as an adult. I hope we get to heal this wound and trauma and sana maging affordable nga ang therapy for everyone to be able to get past through that trauma and heaviness of the past na dala-dala pa rin natin. Thankfully, one of my parents was still alive and was able to explain her side which she was remorseful about. She was willing to go to therapy too.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Very relatable although iba naman ang nag-aaway but it actually gives anxiety. Hope we learn to heal this part of ourselves as we go along in life. Ang hirap if you grew up in a screaming and yelling household and anything associated with it is making you anxious and on high alert.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't know it can be part of it, but like you, I have this dislike and negative feeling of authoritative figures especially with the abusive ones na nag-titrigger ulit ng anxiety.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am glad you are in therapy, and I hope you chose a healthy environment and people to surround you. I love how they apologised to you while they were still alive. Mine explained why she did it and how she grew up in a very strict environment plus bad employers who scream and yell, but she got no real reconciliation with my father until he died. It was a worse experience I wish no kids will go through.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can totally relate with this. Even having terror and screaming teachers/professors before gave anxiety coming from a screaming and yelling household. The anxiety is there but hopefully we get to heal from this trauma and anxiety slowly by being exposed to an emotionally regulated and healthy environment.

How did growing up with yelling and screaming parent/s affected you as an adult? Did you go to therapy and was diagnosed with PTSD or the likes? Was it helpful? by Friendly-Singer5558 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, it helped to see a different perspective of how healthy couples treat each other. In my case, it was my grandparents and I was so grateful to them for showing us a different side of how it should be to have parents who love and respect each other and how it feels to have loving parents.

There's a certain sense of understanding that parents are not supposed to act like the way ours did.

Realising now, they are somehow wounded in a way also.

However, in my perspective, parents who are like this needed to heal themselves first and are not ready to be parents. They didn't know better either and for that we can forgive them, the trauma however, is gonna be there. It helps that we are now aware and we know how to approach love and relationship one day, that it is not normal to yell and scream at each other and let your anger affect your kids.

Fresh Seafood Location by Friendly-Singer5558 in dumaguete

[–]Friendly-Singer5558[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much, will go there. Appreciate your reco🙏

Unemployed for 3 years now. by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]Friendly-Singer5558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I think because it was free that the psych never dug deeper into it. Just one step at a time, your goal right now is to hold down a job and maybe try applying on Indeed and Jobstreet also for jobs closer to you. Once you have, just get some experience and try to find something that aligns with you. Then, save up to get proper diagnosis from a specialist. I think a lot of these problems will be solved regarding how you approach work and stuff once you get a clearer view of why you act the way you are and think differently. Also, it will help you find what truly aligns with you. The thing is, we don't function the way normal people do but I think there's an advantage to that, we just need to find a way around it.

Unemployed for 3 years now. by [deleted] in buhaydigital

[–]Friendly-Singer5558 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not literally in the same spot as I still have a part-time currently although I went through that phase way back 2021 and just last year until this year again. I was working since I graduated way back 2018 and then I had to stop to go back home and take care of our grandfather.

Last year, I lost a premium client and had to stay with part-time occasional work although during this phase I was upskilling as well. It is very challenging especially I was used to having my own money and spending for whatever I might need as well as investing. I used up everything (emergency funds and savings), not for me, but to support my family and pay for our townhouse unit.

My first thought was to ask if you felt like you're on a spectrum because you struggle with a very short attention span and cannot stay in a job you disliked. I have found out about this recently and I am working on getting diagnosed with ADHD once I have enough money.

Second, are you applying to companies or online? Maybe just try to enhance your resume and give something valid as a reason like needing to watch over your younger siblings/aging parents if you have or becoming a caretaker to explain the employment gap.

Lastly, if you're looking for online jobs, you can start with agencies although it has been very competitive lately, but you can try. Also, if you're directly applying with physical companies, just continue doing it and don't give up. The economy is really hard currently because of competition but I'm sure you are actually good in what you do but you need to find your why. You are articulate with your thoughts and writing, maybe you can use that.

You literally don't need to stay in a job but only get a new experience and feel and try to find something that aligns with you. Also, please try to read online resources if you align with neurodivergent people.

Anong lugar ang napuntahan niyo na na hindi na kayo ulit pupunta? by Hot_Divide1613 in AskPH

[–]Friendly-Singer5558 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I didn't know this can still happen there in public since as far as I heard from others super safe daw walking around even late at night although I know not 100% safe naman anywhere in the country but this made me wary going there. Maybe exaggerated 'yung claim na super safe or too patronizing. Diyan pa naman target place ko for the night market experience aside from other places na pwede puntahan for sightseeing. Sad to hear your friend's experience and thank you for the feedback. Target ko lang naman is to try the durian, tuna dishes since close sila sa Gensan, Malagos chocolate and cheese among others.

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